Will I ever be enough? This is a question I ask myself on average at least once a week, sometimes consciously aloud and sometimes suppressed into the ways that I act or feel.
At least once a week may sound a ‘little much’ to some, but I believe it’s a question that many people, particularly awakened ‘women,’ ask themselves frequently too.
In fact anyone on a path of self development or conscious soul searching will likely ask it so much as they too will have this self-limiting dialogue carved into them as if it were a tattoo.
You may be fooled into thinking that asking this question repeatedly is all about low self esteem or a lack of self confidence; therefore excluding you if you feel above this way of feeling. Sure, those mindsets don’t help if that’s something you live with, but they are actually unrelated to the root of the question.
That’s because this question relates more to impostor syndrome, and for me impostor syndrome isn’t always a bad trait if you can learn how to live in the more positive aspect of it. Impostor syndrome gets you asking questions in order to learn, to grow and more importantly to heal. This is fundamental on a Goddess inspired path or the path of an authentic light-worker.
Impostor syndrome in essence is an inner craving to become more, and a desire to unearth more of yourself, your authentic self, and indeed the rest of the world, which we often achieve through initial self doubt.
We feel like an ‘impostor’ because deep down we know we can be so much more, and in many ways we are fighting the internal calling and birthright to step into our power. And that’s because we are taught to fear our higher selves and our authentic beings from a young age. For women this is especially true as we are born with gender inherited shame and guilt, which is magnified in the values we are taught such as comparison, inferiority and critical self dialogue.
And despite what you may have been taught, that this is low vibrational energy; those with impostor syndrome are often the most skilled of light-workers and the most attuned channels. They are less likely to be living and working in their egos, because they understand the questions they must ask of themselves to keep it real and to evolve.
We are taught to fear success, to resist self expansion and to dim our lights so that others can live untriggered alongside us. We are taught to live small.
From this fear we learn how to put our deepest dreams in a box that struggles to contain them, and we limit our cosmic beings to a 1D or 2D realm, or if we’re really lucky a 3D or 4D existence, whereby we really start to ask ourselves the opening question. And it’s only when we start to ask this question consciously and with an intention to grow, that I believe we are starting to ascend to 5D and beyond.
Years pass and adolescence is cruel to any awakened soul, indigo child, empath or highly sensitive person. We become wrapped in individual blankets of BS, of unjust self analysis and of life limiting belief systems and core values. Because we are taught this from a young age and our forefathers are taught this. We inherited our parents opinions of us, we adopted unhealed ancestral trauma through our paternal and maternal lines and we believed what media and society told us about our labels.
And thus began the rise of the question “will I ever be enough?”
The question will differ from person to person. For some this will not even be consciously asked, and it will more be an inferiority of sorts that presents in behaviour, insecurities or feelings.
For others it will be a loud loop that plays out regularly, as if to say your best isn’t good enough, YOU aren’t good enough. In remedy terms it’s likely to be the Pine’s, the Larch’s, the Rock Water’s, the Centaury’s, the Agrimony’s and the Cerato’s in my opinion.
I believe the question ‘will I ever be enough’ is ingrained in women the moment they are born. That’s not to say that this question is gender exclusive, but I believe that it’s a statement attached to the divine feminine, and this is felt more prominently in women. You then inherit an ancestral line, particularly passed down through the maternal line, of women before you who never quite found their worth or voice due to their inherited belief systems or the suppression of feminism during harder times. These wounds have now been passed on to you as if they were a baton and it’s now your turn to have a go at healing them alongside your own unique shadows.
The way you are brought up also plays a part, for the media you are exposed to, the parental viewpoints and the developmental years of an empath for example can make or break your inner critic.
I remember feeling fat, ugly and like I just didn’t fit in from as young as 2!
I have wonderful and loving parents, I have experienced no known trauma at a young age and I have no reason to feel this way, but I did. I wanted more from that tender age and I wanted to be anyone and anything other than me, as I felt like a failure.
Whilst doing my Reiki training I travelled back to ‘heal my past’ and this was the first memory that came to me, and this is when I became aware of my 2 year old inner child, who had shaped so much of my adult life. I saw my younger self playing in the flower beds in a local park and I felt as if I wanted to be more like my sister, who wasn’t crying because she didn’t want her photo taken, or wasn’t causing her parents stress because she was ‘different’ and wouldn’t ‘conform’. For 30+ years I learned to hate that child/myself, and my insecurities were magnified with every partner, friend, co-worker or stranger who told me I was too loud, too sensitive, needy, difficult because I saw the world so differently or effectively not good enough.
But it’s only now that I am starting to ask myself this question in the positive, for greater good and growth. “Will I ever be enough” in terms of wanting to ensure I am striving for my best self and connecting to my hearts calling whilst dancing to my own tune.
It’s taken years of painful shadow and solitary work, carefully selected Bach flower remedies, many modalities of healing, soul journeying to heal and understand my past lives and my inner child and a continued ascension into 5D living. It’s also taken changing my energetic vibration so that I am attracting kinder souls who want to help me as much as I want to help them.
If you too are consciously asking yourself “will I ever be enough”, then start to gift the question positive power by replacing it with something like, “what do I need to do to grow further?’. This is a far kinder approach and you will get a lot more from the lesson. Considering Bach remedies such as Larch, Pine, Rock Water, Agrimony, Centaury or Cerato so as to remove the self doubt and restrictions to grow will help to. And finally, it’s never too late to love that inner child in the way that they needed and deserved to be loved.
Remember, we are all asking if we will ever be enough in some form or another, for we are all on this beautiful healing journey called life.
Yours in love and light,
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