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You will know that women of a certain age experience a monthly bleed, but what you may not know is that there is an increasing community of awakening women who are using this cycle in ceremonial offering.

Gross right?  Well, I used to think so to!

I strive to keep the majority of my blog focus on lighter subjects that fall within the holistic spectrum.  If I am unable to do this then I at least try to simplify topics so that they may reach a wider community.  However, every now and again I like to challenge my presence and to witness my own evolution from therapist to channel and from practitioner to goddess.

This is the way that I start to trust my heart’s teachings and to ensure that I adapt to an ever changing audience.   It also acts as a reminder to me that I am transforming, I am awakening and I that I have to sometimes step outside of my comfort zone and away from public acceptance or validation.  I must speak my truth, no matter how ‘weird’ that may initially seem.

Blood offerings are something I never envisioned myself doing, let alone writing about.  It couldn’t be further from the way in which I have been raised or indeed from the shame I naturally carry as a woman.

It has become a practice relatively new to my esoteric and spiritual path and one that I am still learning how to embrace and utilise for my greater good.

My awareness began around 18 months ago when I started travelling a more channelled and goddess inspired route.

I began to move in circles of women who done this religiously each month without a second thought.  I even sat in sharing circles whereby ‘sharing sticks’ adorned with elder women’s last bleed were passed around when someone wished to talk.  What struck me was that after my initial thought of ‘what the hell is going on’, there was no feeling of shame or uncleanliness that stayed with me, and instead a deep respect and gratitude amongst us all.  I was intrigued.

Depending on culture, faith, upbringing and gender, a woman’s menstrual cycle will be something to be celebrated or something to despise.  Some cultures create tents for women to gather and craft during this time and others banish women to outside shacks as if they were carrying an infectious disease.

For many women, dating back as far as our past lives, this natural cycle carries with it an element of shame, a feeling of being unclean and is something we rarely talk about openly.  We even give it names like ‘star week’ for example, to avoid magnifying its power or to save embarrassment to anyone who still winces at the thought of it.  We as women are often unable to feel justifiable anger, upset or strong emotions during our bleed without this being excused as PMT or hormone induced.

With all of these negative connotations is it any wonder that working with your cycle seems grose rather than gorgeous?

 

I have always suffered with menstrual cramps and pain, to the point where I am sure there is an underlying diagnosis I haven’t explored with my GP.   As a result of this life-limiting agony I actually dread my periods as I have to spend the first few days in bed and on strong pain relief.

However, in more recent months since making conscious blood offerings to Gaia I have felt a slight improvement in my experienced pain, and I have actually learnt to embrace my monthly gift.  It has created a change in mindset and given less power to the negative thoughts I have had around my cycle.  Despite any expected discomfort, I now actually look forward to being able to offer this in some way and to be source-led to new destinations or ways in which to do this.  Even more so if this falls on a significant lunar rhythm or astrological event, for I see this as a magnified value.

What really changed for me was when a few months ago I was 4 weeks late.  After realising that unless I was expecting the second coming of Jesus, I may be facing the end of my cycle.  I will turn 36 next month and whilst I may still be considered a little ‘young’ to be pre-menopausal, I was experiencing many symptoms which could have indicated that my time was indeed running out.

The thought of this actually made me sad.   I felt robbed!  I had only just discovered this sacred gift, this womanly power if you like, and so it seemed a grave shame to be losing it before my journey had even really begun.  My initial thought was that I wished someone had told me about this sooner, and that my awakening happened earlier so I may have utilised this ceremonial tool.

I believe that a woman’s bleed, whether it’s her first or her last, is a natural wonder to be celebrated and is infact gorgeous.  It’s a reminder of our strength and our synchronised connection with the moon.  For those interested in understanding an energy duality, I believe this is the aspect that helps us to connect to our divine feminine, which when working with rather than against can create balance.

I no longer feel ashamed to talk about it openly without nickname.  I will now be fully embracing this part of my body’s function, and seeing this as a uniquely divine gift I can bring to my ceremonial offerings and ancestral connection.

My crimson journey is of course in it’s infancy and I am human!   Every now and again when I am called to give blood with nearby spectators then my ego will kick in and I will do it all a bit cloak and dagger, as awakening is never easy and some days others opinions cut deeper.  But this act is no longer something I see as grose.  It is no longer something that makes me feel unclean or less of a person because of my presenting gender.  I see it as a powerful connection to Gaia, which can only come as a result of being a woman.  A woman in tune with her body, in tune with the moon and in tune with the land.

This needn’t be something to shout about, but it’s also no longer about suppressing an inherent and natural birth right.

If you take this route then it is something I feel you have to appreciate may warrant a few raised eyebrows and your family and friends perhaps thinking you have finally gone round the spiritual bend!  But for those ready to rise from the shadows, it is an act of self connection, self mastery and  I believe deep awakening.

If this blog speaks to you on any level, even if that is a trigger into thinking it’s more grose than gorgeous, then just try it.  See it as a way of ridding yourself of inherited shame as a woman and of inviting goddess empowerment into your life.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

This month’s Guest Corner has got me rather excited and I feel like I am writing a column for Carrie Bradshaw rather than Honeysuckle Healing!

If someone told me only 6 months ago that I would be writing a blog that contained the words clitoris, genitals and anus I would never have believed them!  That’s because I was amongst the many people who believed that not only was I not allowed to call my body parts by their correct names, but that if I said the words in public then they were to be in a whispered tone or with some kind of humorous innuendo attached…..well not anymore!

There have been many paths that have led me to discovering the word Yoni and in turn the importance of connecting to her and releasing blocks specifically trapped within this area.  Namely my discovery of the Goddess, but also my own conscious awakening, which continues to help me connect to my own body on a deeper level.  My healing and attunements have allowed for me to be able to experience energy frequencies within my own body and to become finely tuned to the ways in which I can assist her back to health.  That said, I have become more aware in recent months of the need to release trauma held within my Yoni area and more specifically my womb.  Some of this has been as a result of painful past relationships and some of this I believe has been as a result of inherited ancestral wounds, carried through from my past lives.

For those who aren’t perhaps aware, Yoni relates to the vaginal area in basic terms.  When I  learnt not so long ago that vagina means ‘sheath for a man’s sword’ and Yoni means ‘sacred temple’ in Sanskrit, it became a no-brainer for me that from this day forward my lady garden would now be known as a Yoni!  Just making the transition from calling it a miniwidge (yes you read that right) when I was a child to muttering the words vagina in my much later years meant that discovering the word Yoni took me from a feeling of being dis-empowered to super-empowered in a matter of seconds!

Experiencing a Yoni steam on ‘Miss Daydreamer’ was wonderful and I concur completely with Helen when she said it was as though her Yoni thanked her for the experience…I felt like my Yoni actually gave me a high five in appreciation!

Like many women, my Yoni has been a thing of taboo, something that can be quite embarrassing to talk about and something I rarely take time out to connect with.  But after my first steam, that changed.

I cried throughout the treatment and felt a deep release linked with my past relationships, it felt like a total surrender to let go and another step to truly moving on.  Giving my offering to the water, overlooked in ceremony by some rather curious passing swans and ducks, was nothing short of magical and a process that I can’t wait to repeat.

Heartfelt thanks to Helen, the beautiful and amazing Goddess that she is, for bringing her fascinating topic of Yoni steaming to this month’s guest corner, which really has been enlightening.  Writing this blog reminds me just how far I have come on my own personal healing journey, which is always an added bonus to these monthly guest interactions.  My hope is that this blog might inspire many women to try it for themselves, especially those who perhaps winced at the opening paragraph of my foreword or who still have nicknames for their Yoni’s…trust me, you need this blog more than you think my lovelies!

Yours in love and light,

 

April Guest Corner

Q&A With Helen Hatton

 

‘Yoni Steaming’

 

Firstly, for those who may not be aware, what does the term ‘Yoni’ refer to?

People have different ideas of what the Yoni area may be. My understanding of the Yoni area is from the anus to the clitoris, incorporating all of the genital area and all of the reproductive area, regardless of whether you have those organs or not.

What is Yoni steaming?

Yoni steaming is something that all of us ladies should be doing!  It’s a way of looking after ourselves and taking time out for ourselves in the form of self-care on many levels.  It can also help with physical ailments that can affect many women.

Just as you may have a facial steam to aid a cold or runny nose, you can also get great benefits from steaming your Yoni area.  Sitting over a bowl of sacred herbs and hot water, your Yoni will inhale the steam and the benefits of the herbs into your body.

Are there any specific herbs that are used in a Yoni steam?

There are quite a few herbs that are used traditionally. One of the herbs that many women may already be aware of is the Raspberry Leaf, as it is used at the end of term in pregnancy as it helps the muscles to contract. It is also beneficial during periods when women may experience menstrual cramps.  There are a number of herbs and you can choose more of one and less of another, and I encourage people to instinctively choose the herbs they are drawn to and the amount of each they feel they need.   I prefer clients to tune into their bodies, rather than overthink or analyse the benefits of each herb, as this helps them to intuitively pick the herbs and amounts that are right for them at the time of the steam.

What brought you to Yoni steaming?

I have completed a Priestess Healer course in Glastonbury in the last year and there were many modules of this course, Yoni steaming being one of them.  Yoni steaming was the module I felt most drawn to, I loved it and immediately I wanted to offer this service as a separate entity.

During my training it was less than intimate as we did it in a large group, which was quite a surprise initially, but actually very useful in another way as I got to witness the physical reactions people can have when things are releasing.  Some people cough, some might cry, some people make physical noises such as pass wind and I found it so interesting to see many people having such significant reactions as well as those who were just quietly releasing.  For myself I just felt that my Yoni afterwards was just so happy and grateful for the experience.  It was like my Yoni said ‘thank you’ for remembering me!  I returned home with such enthusiasm, telling everyone about it and many of the people I told weren’t expecting this conversation so they were looking at me strangely.  I told people that from that day forward I was no longer going to talk about parts of my body in a hushed voice, that it’s OK to say the word clitoris without having to whisper it!  And I’m unapologetic about that.  I think it’s time.

How do you perform a Yoni steam session?

I am based in Bristol Marina on a beautiful boat called ‘Miss Daydreamer’ where I use a folding commode for Yoni steams, which is secure and comfortable.  Using a heatproof dish, we select the herbs that you wish to use and then top up the bowl with hot water.  I leave the room whilst you get yourself in position, removing your clothes from the waist down, and covering with cotton sheets to protect your modesty.  My role as a Priestess during the treatment is to hold space and encourage the release of whatever the person wishes to release.  The role of Priestessing is very much about enabling the client to observe, acknowledge, and release, whilst ensuring they are comfortable and feel safe as they do so.

What do you do with the water afterwards?

An important part of the process is that the water is given back to the earth in some form. Being based on a boat means that you are able to release the water from the Yoni steam directly back into the water of the Marina. The intentions placed in the water are effectively given back to the land, which will assist in further release.

What are the benefits of a Yoni steam?

The Yoni can hold trauma and emotional blocks from situations such as past relationships or even physical surgery to this area or the loss of a baby for example. You are encouraged to set an intention prior to a Yoni steam whereby you are asking for trauma to be removed from this area or blocks perhaps relating to past relationships that you want to let go of.  Attachments to old relationships can affect us in the present and blocks can be held in the Yoni area, which can be released through steaming.  Physical traumas such as surgery, removal of organs and even miscarriage or termination of pregnancy can also benefit from kindness and connection to the Yoni.

As well as emotional freedom such as the situations mentioned above, Yoni steams can help on a physical level with things such as painful periods, those who are out of rhythm with their monthly cycles and specific women related discomfort of this area, by having multiple steams.

Yoni steaming can assist with yeast infections and in bowel health.  

Those seeking help with fertility can find yoni steams beneficial as the cleansing and detoxing effect helps bring the body back to its natural state.

What intention would you recommend is set for a Yoni steam in order to get the best results?

Normally there is a reason people would come for a Yoni steam.  People might want to detach from things that have happened, in most cases a relationship, in which case your intention may well be that you might want to release all ties to a relationship that isn’t healthy.  But your intention can be whatever feels right for you at the time and this will be something you can choose to share or keep to yourself. 

What makes you so passionate about Yoni steaming?

 I very strongly believe that we hold trauma in our body and I think that this is what results in illness and disease.  I believe the more blocks and stress we can release from our body the better it is for each person.  Old relationships can be the biggest blocks we hold, things change and we often find it hard to move on, carrying these unhelpful patterns or energetic disturbances within our body which make it hard for us to truly move on.  It stops us having the life we could have as we get stuck, so I believe it helps us to move forward, releasing anything that no longer serves us.

On a physical level I also find it helps with symptoms of women specific health issues.  Also, from a regular perspective without even thinking about releasing stuff, I just like the sensation, as having a Yoni steam feels nice.

Can you experience a Yoni steam during menstruating?

There is no physical reason why you cannot receive a Yoni steam during bleeding, however it’s simply down to a level of comfortableness between client and practitioner. I personally do not mind performing a Yoni steam during this time as long as the recipient feels comfortable with the process.

Is Yoni steaming just for women?

In theory men can have this treatment, but currently this isn’t something I personally offer. In America the treatment is called V steams and A steams and is used a lot by men as well as women.

How does a Yoni steam constitute self-care?

A Yoni steam is about looking after ourselves, being nice to ourselves, taking time out for ourselves and above all else connecting to this amazing area. The Yoni is not only responsible for giving life, but it also gives us great pleasure, which we often take for granted or feel ashamed in some way to discuss or acknowledge. Connecting to this area through the steam not only gives great benefits on a physical and emotional level, but it also just feels so nice!  It’s a conscious acknowledgement of this sacred area that is often forgotten and a way of honouring ourselves as the beautiful women we are.

Having a Yoni steam is an amazing act of self-care with the additional benefits of sacred herbs which have been used for lots and lots of years.  I really think we should be looking after ourselves in this way.  We get our hair done, we get our nails done, we have a facial, we go to the gym or pick out nice clothes but we often forget this sacred part of our body.  The part that not only produces children but also gives us such great pleasure, yet we often take it for granted, don’t connect to it or take care of it in any way.  We don’t do anything nice for her, which I think is terrible.  We neglect her and I think it’s time we start appreciating her and all that she does.

How many Yoni steams would you recommend?

I would personally recommend 3 sessions as a minimum, in order to shift something. And I would recommend that these are held 1 month apart so that the recipient can gauge physical benefits such as an improvement during bleeding for example. Like with Reiki and other healing systems, if you are coming to deal with a specific issue then it’s unlikely to have happened overnight, therefore you will need time to release this from the body.  I always suggest a minimum of 3 to experience letting go and energy shifting for yourself.

What are your suggestions for how anyone reading this can connect to their Yoni if this all seems a new and daunting prospect?

At home, you can meditate, bringing your awareness to your Yoni by breathing deeply into this area.  Focusing on each part of the Yoni such as clitoris, labia, womb and just breathing loving intentions and a purpose of connecting with these areas.

I would recommend getting a hand held mirror and looking at your Yoni!  She is beautiful – we are all different shapes and sizes, and so are our Yoni’s!  So try and not be shy, take a look and say hello!  And appreciate her, she is gorgeous just like you!

Having regular healing treatments such as Goddess or Reiki healing can be a way of building up confidence to explore trauma specifically relating to the Yoni area.  Together with your practitioner you can find a plan of treatment once you feel ready to release this through steaming.

What are your tips for Yoni steaming?

I personally wouldn’t recommend that people try Yoni steaming at home.  I would personally go to someone who is qualified to hold space, encourage the release, and that you can feel confident that they have gathered organic and sacred herbs, appropriate for this treatment. If you are trying to look after your health, then I would advise you ensure that all herbs gathered are organic.  Just as with choosing essential oils, you want them to be pure and free from chemicals that could cause your body to have a reaction or adverse effect.  Never put essential oils in the water as you will burn yourself, this is for herbs only.  By going to a qualified space holder, you ensure that all these things are taken care of for you and the space is safe and prepared for your highest good.

 

Helen Hatton owns ‘Healing in the harbour’ (formerly Reiki on the water).  Helen offers one to one Reiki treatments, Goddess Healing and Yoni steams from her beautiful boat, ‘Miss Daydreamer’ in Bristol Marina.  Helen is a Reiki Master which enables her to offer Reiki attunements and training, with course details being available from her website and by contacting her directly.  Helen also runs monthly Reiki shares.  You can contact Helen by visiting her website or by email

 

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