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The 13 -19th May 2019 marks Mental Health Awareness week here in the UK, and whilst it’s not like me to post a time-appropriate blog; bringing awareness to my own mental health this week has organically brought me here.

Mental health is not new! But it is thankfully becoming something we are starting to talk about, blog about and even sing about.

It’s perhaps one of the greatest invisible illnesses and can be the biggest killer, especially amongst men.

There is still so much stigma attached to those two little words, ‘Mental Health’.  Just by speaking them we often get subconsciously divided into camps for the weak and the strong; falling subject to ignorance, judgement and even other people’s unprecedented fear.

Yet through my personal and professional experience of working for many years within health and social care, I know that it actually takes incredible strength and self-awareness to say the words ‘I’M NOT OK‘.   In fact, it’s an admired vulnerability I am still trying to master myself.

Mental health doesn’t fit neatly into a tick-box as it resides on an ever evolving subjective spectrum, nestled somewhere deeply within a very personal healing journey.

It doesn’t always come with a diagnosis and it’s so much more than the commonly labelled and experienced ‘depression’ and ‘anxiety.’

It’s not something that always needs medicating, is a long term issue or inevitably leads to suicide.  It doesn’t belong to a certain pocket of people or age group, as it does not discriminate.  It doesn’t always present as someone crying in a darkened room as it can equally be the tears of insecurity behind someone’s beaming smile.  And above all else, I can guarantee you that it’s something we will all have to work hard to manage at multiple times during our lives.

For some, that battle of course will be a daily occurrence and none of what I say here is said to discredit that very reality.

Mental health is no doubt the increasingly recognised and experienced conditions of depression and anxiety, which given the age of social media show-reels, the filtered selfie, our environmental crisis and political poverty, it’s no wonder so many of us are finding it hard to process our feelings and to cope.

Mental health can be an eating disorder, an addiction, a hormonal imbalance, low self-esteem or poor body image.  It can be something experienced temporarily following traumatic experiences, grief or major life changes.  It can be something that intensifies with transitional birthdays and age brackets, spiritual awakenings, or even something that just runs alongside the relentless impact of a chronic illness.  It’s quite simply anything that becomes all consuming, disabling, life-limiting or keeps us locked into our unforgiving head-space.

But mental health is so much more than a handful of labels, as we are complex beings with an array of emotions and coping strategies.  We naturally fluctuate in mood and the ability to ‘soldier on’ inline with our own journeys, our hormones, our environments and the very cycle of the moon.  We all have endurance limits.

Like many people I have lived with my mental health demons largely behind closed doors, through an on-off love affair with anti-depressants during my adolescence, and going as far as attempting suicide in my early 20’s.  I’ve tried the orthodox route to managing what feels like an overload of emotions at times and have gone running down the alternative corridor, only to find that now the time calls for balance somewhere between the two.

I grew up with depression and would say that I am prone to periods of it even now.

Being bullied throughout the whole of secondary school took it’s toll on my already low self esteem and I have battled an underlying eating disorder and poor body image my whole life.

I was always told I was ‘difficult’, ‘loud’, ‘needy’, ‘intense’ and the best of all ‘too sensitive’ for as long as I can remember, which led to having friendships and relationships with people who just reinforced those negative beliefs.  Struggling to find where I would ever fit in the world or feel ‘enough’ took a long time and is still something I question on my darker days.

I remember wanting to change the world from a young age, feeling ‘different’ somehow and like there was so much more than the life I was living or the God I was told to believe in.   I was no doubt an energy sensitive soul and an indigo child, but sadly I spent too long seeing my suppressed and misunderstood gifts as my weaknesses.  Where I also fell short on changing said world was that until recently I thought it could only come from being anyone else but me!

Since being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) there is no doubt about it that my mental health has required more effort.

Some like to put you in said tick-box and just say that depression and MS go hand and hand, but for me I don’t think that’s true.   Past partners have even used this as an excuse for their own shitty behaviour.  But I don’t believe I get depressed because my brain ‘is not wired properly’, but because living with a chronic and largely invisible illness is exhausting and I get down about it.  It limits my dreams and it effects my ability to have fun, to work and to have relationships, so sometimes I am human and I feel resentful of that fact.

Furthermore, since awakening my inner Goddess and empath the journey to good mental health has been an even bigger battle, for I hear the cries of the land, the turmoil of the sea and the sufferings of a collective as if they were happening to my very being.  I am not energy numb.

My healing journey has also unearthed a deep rooted and unhealthy relationship with food, which is an addiction and journey I am  trying to understand and overcome.  Add to that a personal struggle with accepting my sexuality and you have a toxic cocktail for low self-worth and poor mental health!

But all this aside, I would say I am in a good place now.  The very fact I can reflect on my journey so publicly and without shame or fear (thank Agrimony Bach flower) says it all really.

I share some of my story during this week of awareness as I am reminded this week just how hard I have had to work to be where I am today.

I do feel lost and I do get down at times.   I feel an overwhelming guilt and responsibility that I cannot do or be enough to change the world.  But today I treat myself with kinder eyes as I concentrate on how far I have come, not how far I still have to go.

How did I do it?

It’s taken facing my pain rather than projecting it onto others.  It has taken a shed load of Bach remedies, regular therapies, long periods of isolation, kissing A LOT of people I shouldn’t and finding a best friend in Audrey the Yorkie!  And above all else it has taken incredible effort, strength, resilience and personal sacrifice to walk away from anyone and anything that doesn’t serve me, and to dance unapologetically to my own tune.

I do not see myself as a mental health advocate or that my biggest battles are all in my head.  I am not trying to jump on any bandwagon or to say that I am a mental health expert.  But I do see myself as being lucky enough to have a public platform that I can use for change and awareness.  Together with my social work foundations, and now being the owner of a business that is fundamentally set up to support those on a journey of self-discovery, it feels crucial to be amongst the people bringing awareness to this week of wellness.

Through this personal and rather difficult journey I am the person I am today.   I am the healer I am today.  I am the channel and intuitive I am today.  For I can resonate with the shadows as much as the light and I will always turn my pain into empathy to support rather than to tear down.

Be kind to yourselves this week and always.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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You will know that women of a certain age experience a monthly bleed, but what you may not know is that there is an increasing community of awakening women who are using this cycle in ceremonial offering.

Gross right?  Well, I used to think so to!

I strive to keep the majority of my blog focus on lighter subjects that fall within the holistic spectrum.  If I am unable to do this then I at least try to simplify topics so that they may reach a wider community.  However, every now and again I like to challenge my presence and to witness my own evolution from therapist to channel and from practitioner to goddess.

This is the way that I start to trust my heart’s teachings and to ensure that I adapt to an ever changing audience.   It also acts as a reminder to me that I am transforming, I am awakening and I that I have to sometimes step outside of my comfort zone and away from public acceptance or validation.  I must speak my truth, no matter how ‘weird’ that may initially seem.

Blood offerings are something I never envisioned myself doing, let alone writing about.  It couldn’t be further from the way in which I have been raised or indeed from the shame I naturally carry as a woman.

It has become a practice relatively new to my esoteric and spiritual path and one that I am still learning how to embrace and utilise for my greater good.

My awareness began around 18 months ago when I started travelling a more channelled and goddess inspired route.

I began to move in circles of women who done this religiously each month without a second thought.  I even sat in sharing circles whereby ‘sharing sticks’ adorned with elder women’s last bleed were passed around when someone wished to talk.  What struck me was that after my initial thought of ‘what the hell is going on’, there was no feeling of shame or uncleanliness that stayed with me, and instead a deep respect and gratitude amongst us all.  I was intrigued.

Depending on culture, faith, upbringing and gender, a woman’s menstrual cycle will be something to be celebrated or something to despise.  Some cultures create tents for women to gather and craft during this time and others banish women to outside shacks as if they were carrying an infectious disease.

For many women, dating back as far as our past lives, this natural cycle carries with it an element of shame, a feeling of being unclean and is something we rarely talk about openly.  We even give it names like ‘star week’ for example, to avoid magnifying its power or to save embarrassment to anyone who still winces at the thought of it.  We as women are often unable to feel justifiable anger, upset or strong emotions during our bleed without this being excused as PMT or hormone induced.

With all of these negative connotations is it any wonder that working with your cycle seems grose rather than gorgeous?

 

I have always suffered with menstrual cramps and pain, to the point where I am sure there is an underlying diagnosis I haven’t explored with my GP.   As a result of this life-limiting agony I actually dread my periods as I have to spend the first few days in bed and on strong pain relief.

However, in more recent months since making conscious blood offerings to Gaia I have felt a slight improvement in my experienced pain, and I have actually learnt to embrace my monthly gift.  It has created a change in mindset and given less power to the negative thoughts I have had around my cycle.  Despite any expected discomfort, I now actually look forward to being able to offer this in some way and to be source-led to new destinations or ways in which to do this.  Even more so if this falls on a significant lunar rhythm or astrological event, for I see this as a magnified value.

What really changed for me was when a few months ago I was 4 weeks late.  After realising that unless I was expecting the second coming of Jesus, I may be facing the end of my cycle.  I will turn 36 next month and whilst I may still be considered a little ‘young’ to be pre-menopausal, I was experiencing many symptoms which could have indicated that my time was indeed running out.

The thought of this actually made me sad.   I felt robbed!  I had only just discovered this sacred gift, this womanly power if you like, and so it seemed a grave shame to be losing it before my journey had even really begun.  My initial thought was that I wished someone had told me about this sooner, and that my awakening happened earlier so I may have utilised this ceremonial tool.

I believe that a woman’s bleed, whether it’s her first or her last, is a natural wonder to be celebrated and is infact gorgeous.  It’s a reminder of our strength and our synchronised connection with the moon.  For those interested in understanding an energy duality, I believe this is the aspect that helps us to connect to our divine feminine, which when working with rather than against can create balance.

I no longer feel ashamed to talk about it openly without nickname.  I will now be fully embracing this part of my body’s function, and seeing this as a uniquely divine gift I can bring to my ceremonial offerings and ancestral connection.

My crimson journey is of course in it’s infancy and I am human!   Every now and again when I am called to give blood with nearby spectators then my ego will kick in and I will do it all a bit cloak and dagger, as awakening is never easy and some days others opinions cut deeper.  But this act is no longer something I see as grose.  It is no longer something that makes me feel unclean or less of a person because of my presenting gender.  I see it as a powerful connection to Gaia, which can only come as a result of being a woman.  A woman in tune with her body, in tune with the moon and in tune with the land.

This needn’t be something to shout about, but it’s also no longer about suppressing an inherent and natural birth right.

If you take this route then it is something I feel you have to appreciate may warrant a few raised eyebrows and your family and friends perhaps thinking you have finally gone round the spiritual bend!  But for those ready to rise from the shadows, it is an act of self connection, self mastery and  I believe deep awakening.

If this blog speaks to you on any level, even if that is a trigger into thinking it’s more grose than gorgeous, then just try it.  See it as a way of ridding yourself of inherited shame as a woman and of inviting goddess empowerment into your life.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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We read blogs all the time about how to combat the blues or to enhance mental health, with access to nature being perhaps one of the top suggestions in every publication.

I have to agree that being ‘out and about’ is my personal number one mood booster, with walking Audrey on a weekend being my favourite thing to do.

When we are lucky enough to have our health we often take ‘being in nature’ for granted; for something as simple as a walk to the end of the street, a scenic bike ride or even a drive around the countryside can be enough to lift a temporary depression when you have been cooped up in the house or hospital for days, weeks and even months.

I’ve been there during hot summers when it feels like everyone is out having fun whilst I am led in bed feeling completely drained, or during the winter when pain and social anxiety are at their hardest to manage.  It’s a daily battle not to let it get you down when you feel like the world is passing you by and you forget what it feels like to hear a birds song on an afternoon stroll, to smell wildflowers on your travels or to dip your toes into the sea.

As a result this often makes said blogs and mood boosting suggestions accessible to a healthy majority, but with a very real exclusion of a struggling minority.   These publications are often only written from a viewpoint of someone who cannot appreciate the barriers to accessing nature, when you may have a chronic physical or mental health condition to consider or a limited number of daily spoons!*

Not all disabilities are visible, which means that sometimes using mobility aids or a blue badge are still not enough of a support to get someone out of the house.  Which means we have to get inventive and find ways to bring the outside in.

This got me thinking what do you do if your chronic illness stops you from accessing nature?  What on earth are you supposed to do when nature is all you crave and your preference is a natural antidepressant?

I’m a fan of the old ‘5 tips’ as it often makes an overwhelming task more manageable and means there isn’t much to sift through before finding something that works for you!

Walking Audrey through Snuff Mills today this blog idea came to me, and as a result I just had to share my top 5 tips with you all:

1 Create an Altar

On your ‘better’ days try to gather as much flora and fauna as you can from holidays, day trips or even local walks.  If you are unable to leave the house at all then ask a carer or someone else to collect items for you.

Gathering shells and pebbles from beaches, pine cones, bark and fallen leaves from the woods or even seasonal flowers and fruits from local shops are all a way of bringing the outside inside.  Creating an altar, which can be as big or as small as your surroundings will allow, is a great way to have a nature inspired focal point, a place to connect to the outdoors and invoke a temple of peace when you are stuck indoors.

Remember there is no right or wrong – create a place that is a combination of collected fresh and artificial treasures and get imaginative!  It should be a scene that evokes the thought and feeling of being in nature for you, so go with what you are drawn to in order to get the most from it.  This will be a site that you can use for meditation and Gaia connection.

2 Get wild with your decor

Decorating your room or your home with nature inspired prints, wallpapers and fabrics is another great way of feeling surrounded by nature.

Taking photos on holiday, day trips or even in your own back yard and framing them or creating scrapbooks and collages will all help to bring memories and nature to life.

You can treat yourself to some paintings or prints online that make you smile or feel as if you were amongst the scene itself.  Where possible, perhaps even get creative and paint your own wild art!

If you particularly miss travelling due to illness then get friends and loved ones to send postcards of natural wonders from around the world that you can place around your home.

3 Invite round some birds

One of the easiest ways to feel connected to nature is to witness it going about its business, freely.

Birds are fantastic to observe for they don’t take much persuading to come into your garden and can provide hours of entertainment with a perspective of the outside on rainy or difficult days.

Placing inexpensive bird feeders, baths for them to take a splash in or even adding bug hotels will send out an invite to all feathered and winged friends that you’re hosting a nature party…and they’re all invited!

There are many DIY bird, bee and bug feeding station ideas online, which can keep you further entertained and involved in helping these beauties.

4 Adopt an animal or support a wildlife charity

There are many charities out there doing great work to support the preservation of wildlife; from trees to turtles and hedgerows to hedgehogs!

Find a charity in your area or a cause that sings to your heart and support them physically on any ‘good’ days or financially from the comfort of your own home – most of them are happy with a small donation of whatever you can afford.

I joined the RSPB last year and I love getting their seasonal magazine as it is filled with beautiful photos as well as ideas of how I can encourage more birds and wildlife into my garden.  They also host The Big Garden Bird Watch each year, which is another easy way to interact with nature and runs later this month from 26th to 28th January.  You can sign up online or for a pack here

Most charities will send regular updates that include publications, photos and alike – all of which will keep you feeling connected and like you are doing your bit for nature.

5 Aroma-nature-therapy

One of the biggest stimulants of nature is the aroma’s; which if blindfolded you are likely to be able to tell whether you are by the sea or in the woods and whether it’s Spring or Winter!

Mother nature is beautiful, as are her scents.  From freshly cut grass, damp woodland, a perfumed rose garden or an earthy pine tree our natural experience is enhanced.

You can invite these smells into your home as another way of feeling like you’re amongst it.  Add this with a CD of bird song, whale calls or a guided meditation through nature and you have yourself quite the setting.

Essential oils, making your own deodorants and lotions, incense, room and aura sprays and alike are great ways to do this.  As is adding fresh flowers or scented foraged treats to your altar (step 1).

This is of course magnified if you are lucky enough to have access to a garden whereby you can create a sensory patch with clever growing and scented plant placement.

 

There are many ways in which chronic illness can still be considered when accessing nature, which is no doubt a very important tool for the Spoonie community.  This blog is aimed at sharing just some of the ways in which the physical, mental and emotional barriers can be broken down, but I appreciate that you too might have your own ways you would like to share with me.

A lot of the obstacles to accepting an illness is mind-set, and allowing ourselves to grieve for the ways in which we used to do something whilst maintaining enough positivity and hope to find new ways to replace the old.

Never stop believing that anything is possible, and please do use these tips for the days when the garden gate seems as far away as San Fran’s Golden Gate!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

*explanation of the spoon theory here

 

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I have always been cray for Christmas and up until a few years ago I was still acting like an Elf on crack!

Like so many of us, I spent many years buying into the ‘hype’ and chaos at this time of year and continued to actually find it hard to sleep through my excitement on Christmas Eve.  But something my healing journey has surprisingly taken away from me is the spirit of Christmas; to the point where my spirit is well and truly 6 feet under this year!

It died as I began to awaken, and every year that I continue to ascend it means that a little bit of my festive cheer falls away inside.  This was quite a sad reality for me, and this year has been my hardest to face yet, with many tears for what I feel I cannot single-handily change in the world.  With strong Pine Bach tendencies to my nature I instantly beat myself up; asking myself what had happened to make me assume a Grinch-like identity and to lose my love of Yule…had I become too hard after heartache or too removed from my community?

With no festive fancy left in this body, I find myself no longer being able to belt out the hits of Wham! or the original Band Aid as they play in every shop, on every radio station and even in lifts.  I have adopted a more typically ‘male’ approach to present buying, whereby I have left everything to the last minute (and I’m not even affected by that very reality despite usually having all my gifts bought and wrapped by October).  And I wouldn’t honestly care if I spent the entire day alone at home, in my pants and face down in a box of mince pies!

So what changed?

Well, healing for me is about removing the many blankets of BS we have wrapped ourselves in, and about getting back to the very essence of who we are.

You know, all those beliefs that are your parents and not yours, all those labels and restrictions that society like to place upon you in order to keep you subconsciously conforming, and all those heartbreaks and traumas that program you into thinking that you no longer know who you are.

All the things that basically take you off of your true path and put you onto someone else’s; which is hurtling towards a destination you don’t want to go!  They become blankets or layers that stop you being your authentic self, which often means that you become someone who is lost and as a result can find it hard to connect or to understand what is really important to you.  Heck, sometimes it can even feel like you have lost your mind because nothing resonates and you find yourself taking long strolls in spiritual no-mans land, just waiting for something to click!

In my own personal healing journey I have discovered many things that I realise I had forgotten or suppressed about my very character.  My blankets, my labels and my personal restrictions have all contributed to me thinking that I wasn’t the woman who now stands more in her power today than she ever did.  This woman loves nature.  She strives to be the change in the world that she wants to see.  She cares about the environment, the world and the humans and animals who reside in it.  She is wild and a deep shade of Indigo.  She is passionate about equality, individuality, creativity and duality.  She does not tolerate injustice or fake news!

With that in mind, every Christmas has got harder.  For every layer that I remove, I find it is steeped in guilt and sadness.

For every-time I have an overfilled plate of Christmas dinner a thought enters my head about how many bellies are painfully hungry across the world.  Every-time  I open yet another present, I think just how many children or older people do not have one single gift to acknowledge the day.  When the Winter chill fills the room we reach for the radiator thermostat or throw another log on the fire, when there is someone somewhere shivering on the streets for the night.  And when I think of how much love is in my home from friends who visit, family who support me, yuletide cards that adorn my windowsill and cuddles with my little pup, I then think just how many people and animals remain victims of abuse and neglect.  NONE of this sits easy with me, and every year it gets harder to keep up the charade in order to enjoy this one day.

This year, I believe that we will have the highest number of people emotionally struggling with Christmas and all that it entails.  For it is not possible to be ascending as individuals and as a collective alongside the Winter solstice this year and the many opening gateways, and to not take through a desire for change in the world.  When change presents we often go into personal resistance or trauma.  We adopt ‘old’ ways of doing things and we often get reflective or low in mood because it can force us to lose our identities.  Something as magical as Christmas no longer cuts the mustard and we want more.  This year on a global level we have watched plastic in our oceans reach new and alarming heights of appeal, we have seen an advert banned for being ‘too political’ just for showing us the devastation palm oil is having on our forests and we all panic as we head into uncertainty over Brexit!

WE ARE CHANGING.

 

So when you think about it, isn’t it any wonder that so many of us can’t get excited about one day of the year, when so many of us want equality, the end of austerity, animal and human rights to be accelerated to ascended levels and an end to homelessness and poverty?  Christmas is a time of triggers and of bringing out our shadows in many ways, so if like me your Christmas spirit is fading, please see this as a positive that you are ascending.  You are questioning what is now important to you and perhaps flowing into new times.  I have seen so many people change this Christmas.  Shopping locally rather than lining the pockets of tax-evading chains, or cutting down the amount they spend, or simply doing more for charity…which is so great!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that Christmas isn’t a time of deep joy and that we should all sit around feeling guilty.  In fact, your feelings around Christmas that have drawn you to this blog won’t necessarily even echo mine, as your healing journey and authentic self is unique just like mine.  But I am sure if you are reading this then something within you has died too, and you want more.

Simply put, the journey of a fading Christmas spirit can be hard and it can take many years to understand just why it’s happening and what you can personally do about it.  For me, its been to adopt a more ethical Christmas this year in terms of limiting my waste with wrapping presents, asking Santa for gifts that ‘give back’ to charities and animals, and even just supporting more local projects with a donation or my time.  And whilst at times it still doesn’t feel ‘enough’, I am working on letting it be enough for now.  Letting myself be enough this year.  Without the need to drink, or entertain the family, or even running around visiting everyone as my body craves rest and integration this year.

 

So this Christmas, to help any dwindling spirit and cheer, put yourself first.  Do what you need to do, free of guilt.  Your inner voice needs to be acknowledged more than ever this year in order to avoid the blues.

What is your heart and soul asking of you?  What does Christmas really mean to your authentic self?

Wishing you all so much love at this difficult time of year.

Yours in love and festive light,

 

 

 

A Christmas Wish (a poem by Ami Smart)

This year I don’t want gadgets, gifts, money or rings; I want change, I want peace, I want all manner of things

I want orangutans to have homes and bears to stop dancing.  I want tigers to be free and caged dogs to stop fighting

I want no more lotions or potions to hit each shop, for animal testing and cruelty simply has to stop!

Plastic in our oceans and deforestation, please Santa, hear my cries and save our nation

For this year I see that I am beyond blessed!  For I have a family, friends and a safe place to rest

I have freedom and voice, I have wellness and a dog; but I can’t help but cry when I think of the ole’ hedgehog

For she roams at night with no place to bind, in search of food and kindness from each human she’ll find

Santa, my darling, I can cry no more.  I cannot do this alone, and I don’t mean to be a bore

But today as I was writing my usually long list, I realised I have everything I need but just one wish

To sleep on Christmas knowing that all animals are happy; that they have beds for the night and bellies full of Chappie!

So please send me vouchers for Greenpeace and not the high street, for my heart can’t take another year of riding on this global backseat

I want change TODAY and I want animal freedom…so please help me Santa to build a happier kingdom?

 

 

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For many, they remember remember the 5th of November as an exciting time to create warming fires and let off dazzling fireworks, but for our little fur babies and for many wild animals I am sure this is the time of year they dread!

Loud bangs, unexpected light flashes and pre-lit bonfires looking like cosy places to nest are all something that require our human intervention and compassion in order to help our animal friends safely through this time of year.

Now, I don’t claim to be an animal behaviour expert, but I do claim to be the devoted Mum to one gorgeous fur baby!  My motherly role has led me to almost speak ‘Yorkshire Terrier’ and I have built quite the toolkit to help my little Audrey in times of illness or distress.   These life skills, together with being a qualified Reiki and Bach flower practitioner have given me handy tools when trying to instil calm and order to the legend that is Audrey-Cherry Puppington The 1st!

With that in mind, I have compiled my top 5 tried and tested tips to help your pets through their most scarily-anticipated season

 

1) Utilise Bach Flower Remedies

Rescue Remedy (also known as 5 flower essence and recovery remedy) is a great place to start with frightened and unnerved pets.  If the area you live in is anything like Bristol, fireworks start and end a good week or so before and after the main event.  Therefore, I like to start Audrey on Rescue Remedy at least a week before November 5th.

Dosage: The guidance on this will vary, depending on the books you reference for research, but Bach approved courses will teach you the following.  It is perfectly safe to use the remedy which contains alcohol in the same dosage you would a human, 4 drops 4 times a day or as and when needed.  My wonderful teacher Celia, always says “it’s the same dose for a mouse as it is an elephant”, which I always like to share as an easy tool for remembering dosage in animals.  Where possible add this to a treat or in water, ideally diluted in the case of smaller breeds, birds and animals I find.

If your pet is of a general nervous disposition, you can obtain more information about specific remedies from books such as ‘Bach Flower Remedies For Animals’ (Ball & Howard) or by searching for qualified BFRAP’s (Bach Foundation Registered Animal Practitioners) in your area here

 

2) Create A Cosy Environment

Creating a warm, safe and relaxing environment is key.

Keeping cats indoors (tape up those cat flaps!) and where possible bringing other animals inside.   A lot of cats and dogs like to hide, so creating a den or ‘shelter’ within the home will help them to relax and escape the noise.  Soft lamps and drawn curtains can help to block out some of the flashing lights, and this is especially useful if you cannot be home to comfort your furry friend.

I use an ‘iCalm Dog’ and ‘Through A Dogs Ear’ music system, which is a small speaker with classical music that has been tone simplified to meet the sensitivity of canine’s ears.

Audrey loves hers and they now seem to be available for cats and in portable form.  Not the cheapest of options, but I have found worth the investment.  I purchased mine from a local specialist pet shop, but they are also available online.

 

3) Be An Understanding And Interactive Pal

It’s not uncommon for pets to be noisier than usual or to even forget their toilet training during this season!

Try to be more patient at this time, re-framing from shouting at them or sending them to the naughty step.

If possible, try and be home during the firework festivities so as to provide hugs and distractions with toys and games.

Audrey likes interactive games such as this one where she gets to find treats beneath – it keeps her entertained for a while, although she is far too clever for her own good now!

 

4) Keep Calm And Have A Treat

As Audrey is a bit of a diva, she has a particular pallet not to mention a sensitive tummy so we always use the Pooch and Mutt treat range as they are wheat free, ethical and natural, so both of our belief systems and needs are met.

We use the pale Purple tube ‘calm and relaxed’, which is really helpful for this time due to its chamomile and serotonin boosting ingredients.

Especially helpful when topped with a couple of drops of rescue remedy or placed in her flower Kong for extra distraction!

 

5) Provide A Blanket Of Love And Light

For those attuned to Reiki or equivalent, energy healing can be a great way to soothe animals during times such as these. Healing hands can create calm and restore a balance of emotions.

Like me, many practitioners will offer distance healing packages whereby they can send Reiki (or equivalent) to animals worldwide, meaning that they don’t need to be in the same room to soak up this energy.

If you’re not working as a channel, don’t worry – a comforting embrace of your pet together with a positive intention will do the trick!  You can even place calming crystals such as Rose Quartz around their beds or hold the crystal in one hand whilst you lay your other hand on your distressed fur baby.

Setting loving intentions and affirmations whilst cradling your pet, and even visualising your fur babies in a blanket of healing light with colours such as Pink, White and even Blue being particularly restorative, will help to make them feel safe and loved.

 

These are just a few of my tried and tested tips as a devoted Mum, but this list is by no means exhaustive and I would like to stress that I am not advertising or affiliated with any of the products I have mentioned. Further tips can be found from helpful vets (mine have a brilliant blog for the occasion) and I have also found great support from local re-homing centres and animal charities – I recommend finding the equivalent in your area.

I don’t have a caged animal such as a rabbit or smaller, or a farm or wild animal, but I would imagine this can be a bit of an ordeal for them too, especially those left outside with nowhere to hide from the sounds and sights.  If you’re unable to bring your pet indoors or don’t fancy snuggling up in front of the TV with your cow or chicken, then get them on the Rescue Remedy and send them love and light!

Finally, remember hedgehogs this firework night and rebuild bonfires before lighting.  They can be a very cosy home to these lovely little critters and their amphibian friends so keep your eyes peeled and create alternative homes for them.

Be safe and enjoy the celebrations.

Yours in love and sparkly-light

 

 

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

As most of you are aware by now, I am keen to build a positive and empowering community through means of social media, my monthly newsletter and the blogs I write.

My hope is that whether you take advantage of one to one treatments with me or just utilise the aforementioned online support, you feel included in your health and well-being programmes and more importantly empowered rather than overpowered by your Honeysuckle interactions.

Some of the media contents may at times seem ‘random’, but they are lovingly selected by me to give you the tools to try things that have personally worked in my own physical and mental health management.  The aim is to offer a holistic approach to your healing journeys and to give you things to try or consider outside of your Honeysuckle treatments.

That said, I am really excited that Honeysuckle Healing is evolving, and it’s turning into a rather lovely and co-creative space.  With that in mind, this month I am so pleased to welcome my childhood friend Lisa James of LiLi’s Little Farm.  Lisa being the girl who I fondly remember singing Madonna’s ‘Immaculate Collection’ in it’s entirety with during our innocent primary school days!  However, Octobers guest spot is less about Papa Don’t Preach and more about peachy pumpkins!

Through Lisa’s green fingers I have been further inspired by nature and it’s connection, spending many early evenings watching the sunset over her allotment when Audrey and I have stopped by on our walks.  There is a real tranquillity to this space and Lisa has kindly shared many of her beautiful produce with me to taste or in picture form to cheer me up on days I haven’t been able to join her in person.  I have proudly watched Lisa go from having a small allotment to now being a co-creative and very active member of a rather impressive small holding.  She continues to inspire and remind me just how much the land can provide physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually when you are willing to put in the hard work.

Thank you you to Lisa for her time in updating this Guest Spot from last October, and for her delicious Pumpkin loaf cake recipe at the bottom of this blog!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

October Guest Corner

Q&A With Lisa James of

LiLi’s Little Farm

 

“The Perfect Pumpkin”

 

What Advice Would You Give To Anyone Wishing To Grow Their Own Pumpkins?

Everyone has their own way of growing them and the trick is to find what works for you.  In this interview I am sharing some of my tried and tested tips and the ways that have worked for me.  A lot of my approach has been to learn through ‘trial and error’ and learning how to apply those lessons to ensure I have a better crop each year.  So don’t be afraid to just give it a go!

When Is The Best Time To Start Your Pumpkin Patch?

To get the best from your Pumpkins, you need to ensure that they are planted after the last frost and when the soil has had chance to warm up.  This is around May time, but if you are like me and can’t wait that long then you can start them off indoors from around April.

What’s The Difference Between Sowing Into The Ground Or At Home In Pots?

If you aren’t sowing directly into the ground and choose to start them off in pots at home, then you will need to ensure you harden the plants off by putting the pots outside for timed intervals, around 2-3 weeks before you are ready to transfer them to the ground.  This is so that the plants can get used to the weather and ‘toughen up’.

However, if you are sowing directly into the ground then you will not need to worry about this process.

NB: Make sure the soil is warm enough, as I say around May time, as if not it can cause the seed to rot.

Do You Have A Favourite Variety Of Pumpkin To Grow?

I grow quite a few different varieties of Pumpkin and my favourites are Jack O’ Lanterns or Atlantic Giant Pumpkins.  Once I have chosen my seeds and compost then I am ready to plant my seeds.  If planting directly into the ground then I push the seed 2-3 inches into the soil and water well.

What Are Your Tips For Growing ‘The Perfect Pumpkin?’

Pumpkins are very thirsty plants and like a lot of space in bed!  So water plenty and try and leave as much space as possible between planting.  You can get several pumpkins from one plant, but if you are after that one large Pumpkin then you will need to remove adjoining shoots and plants as they grow, in order to leave one plant on the vine.

How Long Do Pumpkins Last Once Harvested?

Sometimes Pumpkins can come away from the plant – if this happens then I just leave them outside to get a sun tan!  Leaving Pumpkins to harden in the sun will mean that they can be stored for up to 6 months after harvesting!  Pumpkins are usually ready to harvest around September/October during which you can make a yummy cake such as the recipe below.

 

Lisa’s Easy-Peasy Pumpkin Loaf Recipe

Ingredients:

250g softened butter

250g caster sugar

Juice & zest of 1 orange

4 eggs

*250g sieved self-raising flour

1/4 of the flesh from a small Pumpkin-grated & strained of juice

You can also add optional warming flavours such as mixed spice, cinnamon, vanilla or whatever you enjoy!

Method:

  1. Pre-heat the oven to 180 degrees
  2. Beat together the butter and the sugar until pale and creamy
  3. Add in the juice and zest of one orange
  4. Add spices you wish to at this point
  5. Add the grated Pumpkin to the mix, ensuring you have removed the juice beforehand (you can use a muslin cloth to do this) – stir contents of the bowl well
  6. Add the eggs one at a time, beating in a little flour if the mixture starts to split
  7. Fold in the remaining flour
  8. Transfer the mixture to a greased loaf tin and bake for 30-40 minutes until golden brown and cooked through
  9. ENJOY and share your pics via Honeysuckle Healing’s or LiLi’s Little Farm social media accounts!

*Substitute flour for gluten free varieties if required and you can also vary the recipe to support a Vegan diet

 

Lisa is part of a community collaboration and small holding known as ‘LiLi’s Little Farm’, which lovingly produces and sells an array of homemade treats including fresh veg, eggs, pickles and jams.  They welcome visits to the animals and appreciate those who ‘shop local’ and support their growth. Lisa has recently passed her beekeepers exam and now produces and sells her own honey  from her buzzing hives in South Bristol.  To follow the treats for sale, as well as keep up with all the news and pics from the farm you can follow LiLi’s Little Farm on Facebook 

 

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Legal disclaimeras always, my guests are invited to share their work with you in order to support your healing journey as a whole, by giving you empowering tips and food for thought.  I only invite guests whom I know to be insured and practising to the best of my knowledge at the time of their guest spot.  I will only welcome guests that I have personally used the services of, and have found to benefit my own individual healing journey as a result.  However, if you choose to book any treatments or use any guests services as a result of my monthly interviews, then please be aware that you act personally on this decision.  Honeysuckle Healing take no responsibility for the outcome of this decision and these guest blogs do not act as a referral or recommendation service.  Please ensure that these guests and services meet your individual requirements prior to booking.  Thank you

 

This month we bring our attention to remedy number 11, Elm.

This restorative remedy is sourced from the infamous Elm tree and was first prepared by Dr Bach in 1935 using trees growing near Sotwell.

Mature Elm trees can live for up to 100 years.  Although a rarer sight in the UK since the 1960’s sweep of Dutch Elm disease, Elm trees are largely found growing in English countrysides.

I am often asked what is the remedy for ‘stress’ and the answer is that there isn’t one, because the beauty of the Bach system is that we find a personal concoction that speaks to our individual traits and distress.

However, I do believe that Elm is the remedy that should definitely be considered when you are experiencing any form of stress, for I believe that stress often comes from having too much on our plate, too much to deal with and often not knowing where to start for the task in hand is too great.  This is why it can be a calming remedy for revising students, struggling toddlers or during any heightened emotional state.

This is personally my ‘go to’ remedy in times of stress.

We live in a world with so much choice now.  Whether that choice is a basic decision such as what to eat or which broadband provider to pick, or whether it’s a huge succession of choices that come with the fight against chronic illness for example; most of the states of stress will come from their just being ‘too much’ in varying forms.

Take any new venture in life.  Whether that be a new healthy eating regime, a new job, moving house (in my case) or even adjusting to a health diagnosis.  We often think of Walnut in these times of transition, but all too often we are just feeling overwhelmed, with a temporary loss of confidence in our own abilities as a result.

I could talk about Elm forever, as personally I have gone on a tremendous journey with it, particularly through ill health and spiritual practice.  Overwhelm is a huge trigger for me and something that can take me from being a fiercely independent woman to a quivering wreck with impostor syndrome!  And it always stems from not utilising Elm enough or recognising when life has just got too much to handle and I am not in flow.  As an empath I often find energy and interactions in social situations draining due to the constant stream of messages I receive as I never switch my guidance ‘off’.  This means that Elm has been my saviour on many an occasion, and stopped me from becoming a total recluse during times of requiring long periods of solitude.

Elm is the remedy for the days when that straw just breaks the camels back!  It’s the final bill when all our money is spent, it’s that extra thing on the daily ‘to do’ list and it’s the end of the line on the ‘shitty-day’ express!

It’s those multiple plates we have spinning and we try not to drop.  It’s the crying over spilt milk.  It’s the end of our tether and it’s often the end of the line in a long battle of effort.  It even prevents ‘burnout’ if taken at the right time and can be great for over-thinkers who tend to magnify tasks rather than simplify them.

However, the important thing to remember is that an Elm state tends to be temporary.  We utilise it when we are usually people able to flow, keep up with the ever changing demands of life or illness and are confident in our abilities.  Elms will have temporary crisis of confidence, perhaps presenting with tears or heightened emotion as the situation or problem reaches a head.   There can be so many similar presenting characteristics to that of other remedies with an Elm and that’s why it’s a remedy that can be a strong contender when we are going through change, low self-esteem or feeling down.

The beauty of the remedy is that it takes the pressure out of the cooker!  Often in such a subtle way that we rarely give the remedy the credit it deserves and we can tend to put it down to the motivational book we read, the pep talk we had, the holiday we took, or the early night we got.  But 9/10 I find that when someone has taken Elm, particularly for a period of time, they not only experience a pretty instant change in attitude but they develop deep rooted coping mechanisms that help them find stress busting strategies for life!

Elm gives us that natural ability to cope.  To find ways around problems but with kinder self talk, an ease to problem solving and a quiet confidence that we will get there.  It breaks things down into bite size chunks.  It restores our capability and keeps us moving forward.

I often find when working with clients, that Elm can be behind a lot of missed remedy selection.  Often people will read up and self-diagnose, which is great, but they will take as many remedies as possible when perhaps Elm could have been all they needed.  When we’re in an Elm state then even remedy selection becomes overwhelming!  Healing is overwhelming!  Working with the remedy at the appropriate time of presenting gives us an inner strength and helps us to limit revisiting this situation in the future.  It helps us to limit what we take on and to safely manage what we have already taken on.

There are many beautiful and intricate layers to Elm and just when you think you have nailed the remedy or believe it’s your ‘type’, you will find more and more subtle ways in which it presents in your life.   It’s a remedy that can be worked with for years, yet still teach you new things each time.

One of my personal favourites, one of my personal saviours.

Yours in love and flowery light,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.

 

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Blogging on the morning of the Autumn Equinox, I feel as though my guides have well and truly left it until the last minute to bring my words and energy together!

I have always enjoyed the change in a season, but it was only a year ago that I actually started celebrating each turn of the wheel and really witnessing the beauty and energetic opportunities that each individual season brings.  Spring and Autumn have always been my personal favourites, and that’s because they both hold a rebirth in many ways.  Coming out of the darkness of the Summer and Winter, which are times when we tend to be triggered, reflect and go inward a lot more; the two Equinoxes can bring a sense of long-awaited clarity and new beginnings as a result.

Today, 23rd September, marks the Autumn Equinox for 2018 and the official start of our beloved Autumnal season.  The season of colour, of magic, of abundant nature and of opportunity.  Anything is possible in Autumn.

It’s a time when we are happy to slow down a little, to appreciate the simpler things in life like a walk in the park to witness the falling leaves or a natter with a friend over a pumpkin spiced latte.  Nature is arguably in its most beautiful form as pockets of browns, golds, oranges and reds seem to fill every street, park, and corner of the world.

Nature comes out to play for perhaps it’s final time, with insects such as spiders coming into the house to mate (something so many of us dread!) or wild animals seen gathering food before they go into hiding over the cold Winter months.  There is a crisp to the air and we enjoy collecting fallen conkers, apples and leaves with the children, or for any gathering Goddess’s altar!

Food is at its freshest and tastiest during this time of harvest. When those who have been working hard in the fields or on their allotments reap the fruits of their labours, bringing us plump pumpkins and succulent squashes fit for any hearty homemade soup bowl.  It really is the most beautiful of seasons, and every sight and smell associated with September through to November is nothing short of a comfort blanket.

If you are inspired by nature like I am then this season really calls for you to put on those wellies and to get out and about!  It’s a much slower paced season, yet we often achieve most of our goals and bring together the majority of the years healing and lessons.  That’s because there is a clarity to Autumn and a real supportive and universal magic.

September is the start of the school year and as a result a new spiral of learning.  Along with this month we all start new beginnings in our own way, and this is a time when we want to learn, we want to tie-up lose ends and we want to expand our knowledge, putting an end to procrastination.  October brings myth and magic.  A month when we can dress up, wear masks and be both enchanting and enchanted, increasing our connection to other worlds as the veil is at its thinnest.  And November brings fire and light.  Whether that be Diwali or good old bonfire night, we use this month to ignite passions and creativity and to start a month of celebration and connection.

The order of Autumn, particularly as the Equinox is followed by a powerful full moon in Aries tomorrow, and as always is surrounded by many planetary activity, is to LET GO!

Nature thriving in it’s season teaches us so much about what we can expect from the coming months.  You do not see a tree panic because it has Halloween costumes to make, or a squirrel with anxiety because it’s annual bonfire night celebrations aren’t going to plan do you?  That’s because nature adapts to what each season calls for, and in Autumn you will see them busy, but with a quiet confidence that they will get the job done all before Winter comes.

Trees stand tall and take root, only letting go of their leaves which no longer serve them.  Animals gather food, insects mate, and the flora and fauna start to die back to protect itself from a looming Winter.  It’s a month of preparation and of harvest.

There is a sense of achievement with this season and opportunity is literally everywhere…acorns are no longer just in the trees, but on the ground, at your feet!

This particular past years spiral of healing has been tough for many of us as their has been a collective shift and ascension, so coming into Autumn there is a sigh of relief for many.  We cannot completely rest on our laurels, but just like the nature around us we can now enjoy the fruits of our labour.  Starting to apply our newly found clarity and knowledge over the next few months, just as if we too are going ‘back to school’.  We can be grateful for our painful lessons of the Summer and feel renewed with the change in energy.

Letting go and forgiveness are key this season, as coming into today there has been a heavier energy, which I for one have been feeling on a huge scale.  You may have been experiencing lower back pain as the root chakra grounds, chest pain as the heart chakra has been expanding and releasing old loves, and headaches as the third eye opens to help us see our paths more clearly.  I’ve personally had the ‘energy flu’, which on top of overdoing it with my new house move I have felt pretty wiped the past few days, but I can see the beauty in my body adapting to this new season and in the need to ‘let go’.

Letting go isn’t just about the obvious sense of letting go of people and patterns that are toxic or no longer serve you on your path of healing, but it’s about letting go of outcomes and surrendering to the great unknown.  That can even be something as simple as taking more rest days if your body calls for it (but your busy diary doesn’t), or eating that slice of cake instead of refusing it….as these things are all tests from the universe that you are willing to trust and to let go of the human need to control.

Since becoming more consciously aware of the changing in seasons, both in my energy body and desire to respectfully celebrate the wheel turns, I was disappointed that Autumn isn’t bringing much of a celebration due to being so tired.  I spent the Winter Solstice in Avebury on a Starlight Soul Journey, I spent the Spring doing something I can’t remember but lovely no doubt, and I spent the Summer Solstice in Ceremony on Brighton Beach.  With Autumn being one of my favourite times of the year I felt sure the guidance of where to be would be huge, but instead it feels like it will be a day of pottering, running errands and perhaps if I am lucky a walk in the park with Audrey later.  But in this realisation I understood exactly why Autumn wasn’t as profound a celebration as I had hoped for, and that was because I am supposed to let go and surrender, to find contentment in isolation and gratitude in rest.  The guidance I receive is for me as much as it is for you guys!

As Autumn is about getting your house in order, spring cleaning for perhaps the second time this year and finding a grounding and mindful presence, then it makes complete sense that the Equinox for me is being marked in this relaxed and flowfull way.

In surrendering to the many magical aspects of this season I know that I will achieve so much more.  Autumn requires productivity but at a much slower pace, which needs to include rest and integration.  It needs to involve mindful walks, nature connection, new learning and self-acceptance.  I am so excited to be moving home during this season, as it really proves that anything is possible during these next 3 months and marks a huge new beginning for me, and a lot of letting go.

Autumn is steeped in opportunity, dripping in clarity and engulfed in magic.  So whatever you do, enjoy!

Yours in love and Autumnal light,

 

 

 

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I haven’t felt too well of late, despite my usual brave face and positive demeanour.

The Summer always exasperates my health complaints and means I spend more time at home than any person in their early 30’s would be happy to spend!  This means that Netflix and binged boxsets become my best mates during this difficult season.

Recently I’ve discovered ‘Wentworth’, and if hot to trot Franky Doyle wasn’t reason enough to keep me glued, then the heart-racing story-lines sure are!  Watching the amazing acting from Pamela Rabe (as I literally HATED her Governing character) I realised something, as I always do when sticking with a story or scenario for too long.  See, I learn most of my lessons from the simplest of tasks.  Everyday triggers become huge ‘wake up calls’.  Arguments with those closest to me become scenarios for self-analysis and development.  And even a TV program or cinematic flick can give me deep insights into the characteristics and emotions that I need to balance.

Wentworth taught me I need to revisit Impatiens Bach remedy and to practice a little more patience!

As my fave character Franky battles with a belly full of heroin in season 3, I just couldn’t wait until the end of the episode to find out her fate.  The sheer thought of continuing another season without the sight of this little beaut was just too much to bear!  So I Googled desperately to find out if Miss Doyle will live to fight another day on the inside.  But during my search it became less about Franky and more about me and my tendencies to spoil the surprise of life.   After all, why was I doing this, as isn’t the whole reason we watch TV so that we can escape our reality and to get lost in a plot of emotive viewing?

During my eager search I heard a loud voice, which I wasn’t sure if it came from above or within.  It said ‘patience, control, flow’, which I knew was a clear message that I needed to take heed of.  As I tried to decipher the message, I quickly realised that the warning was that I must master the art of patience, relent control and learn to live in flow.  Something as simple as trying to sabotage my own storybook surprises served as a thought provoking thunderbolt in my approach to my own reality.  I can’t wait, I like to know what’s coming next, and that’s just me!

I believe that Impatiens is one of the sacred tools needed by everyone on a serious journey of healing and awakening.  For it’s human nature to want quick results when we start anything, and to particularly want to move as fast as possible through our own ascensions and lessons.  When we aren’t where we want to be or situations aren’t moving at a pace we’re comfortable with, then that’s when we start interfering due to frustration or the need to control.  A simple Google search during an Aussie prison drama reminded me of that.

When you start to take notice of the signs and syncronicities around you then literally everything becomes a learning tool.  All acts, even those of escapism, hobby or ways to pass the time provide some of the greatest healing apparatus.  I share this blog because my approach to healing is not only about giving my clients and followers the tools to help themselves, but the dedication to ‘keep it real’ whilst doing it.  I understand that all of us will be at a different point on our unique journey, and that not everyone understands or resonates with the real ‘airy fairy’ side to healing or spirituality.

So the lesson here (as well as maybe check out Wentworth if you’re looking for a viewing recommendation), is to take note of what you are drawn to.  Pay attention to the types of programs or music you are moved by and see if you can notice any occurrences, triggers or characteristics that mirror your own.  This is yet another simple, but very valuable part of any journey of change and evolution.

When we know what we do, we can change what we do.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

I invited Will to join me in the Guest Corner this month as September is a month of new beginnings and self investment!

It’s the month when we look for new adventures, start new projects and often want to take better care of ourselves after an emotional period of processing and purging.  So what better way to show up for yourself than to put on your running shoes and get out in nature; witnessing the autumnal colours starting to come into visual appreciation and releasing those endorphins through a new challenge.

I first met Will through a local self-employed networking group and I have to say I liked this guy as soon as I met him, we just clicked! I could visualise myself jogging alongside him, and his personal story of depression fuelled running really resonated with me and I thought made him very authentic and personable.  He has never made me feel like a fat girl struggling to keep up with him!

Running has always had a special place in my heart since discovering it after a huge health scare 10+ years ago, which became the catalyst for better self-care after making a full recovery at the time.  There was a period where like Will, I used running to improve my mental health and it became my main form of exercise (and transport) – even taking part in a few running events with a not too shabby finish time!  With a forever fluctuating waistline and my own personal battle with chronic illness, this does make exercise that much harder to factor into my life in a sustainable way now, but that doesn’t mean I don’t constantly challenge this setback and find ways around it!  Using a tailor-made service like Will’s has meant that I can learn new ways to adapt my dreams so they continue to be achievable.  At the moment I may only be donning my trainers for a quick lap of the park with the Welsh wonder that is Will, but through my new eyes of self acceptance I am realising that sometimes that is more than good enough.  The showing up, the getting up (early starts) and the weekly improvements will eventually lead me to places I never thought I could travel again.

This September, in my efforts to put myself first, I am joining Will back in the park to try again with my personalised running plan.  With kinder eyes looking at myself, more patience and the inner knowing that one step forward (no matter how small) is always better than one step back.

Thank you Will for your patience, expertise and for joining us this month to share your story and tips.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

September Guest Corner

Q&A With Will Jones Fitness

“Running Into Happiness”

 

How did you get into running?

I first started running about 8 years ago.  I was suffering with depression after sadly loosing my mum and my doctor recommended I start running to help with it as I was struggling to leave the house.  It didn’t happen over night and it took many months for me to be able to run even 5k which was a real struggle, but the more I did it the more I loved it and wanted to challenge myself more, it helped me a great deal and still does as if I’m having a bad day I will go for a run to clear my head.

Did this lead to you setting up your own business?

I set up Will Jones Fitness because running changed me massively; my fitness improved, my health and mood improved and I loved it!  I wanted to help others experience this also and so trained as a run leader, then a coach in running fitness and also qualified as a personal trainer but I focus on the running side of things and help get people into running or improve there running.

Have you run any marathons or races?

Yes I have ran two full marathons (Bristol 2 Bath marathon and London Marathon) the atmosphere at these events is amazing and the crowd helps carry you around.  I am currently training for the Brighton marathon next year and also my first Ultra marathon which is 45 miles long. I have also ran races of other distances such as 5k, 10k and half marathon distance and you get the same great feeling whatever the distance.  I recommend trying a race sometime during your running journey but never feel like you need to rush into a distance as you may take the enjoyment away from your running.

What support do you offer people who come to you to run?

I offer full training plans working to individual needs, we work to what is appropriate for each person.  I love working with people who have never run before and seeing them grow and enjoy the feeling they get after each run.  I set homework runs to keep them on track, I also offer group runs and runfit sessions.

What is your motivation when you don’t fancy putting on your running shoes?

I think everyone sometimes feels like they can’t be bothered and running is a lot of mind.  I know once I put my trainers on and make myself get out the door I will enjoy it once I’m out and I will feel better for it once I’m home.   Runs can always be cut short, so if you do go out and it’s just not your day it’s quite easy to turn around and head home, sometimes as your heading home in this situation you may suddenly think actually I’m enjoying this now and have one of your better runs. I also build runs into my day by running to the shop, work etc.

Do you have to be fit and healthy or a certain size to run?

Anyone can run if they want to.  I have worked with so many different types of individuals and if they want to learn to run and are committed they can do it.  I know week on week they will see improvements and it’s what makes it all worth while for myself.  Things like size, age, health should not be a barrier and if someone wants to start running but thinks they can’t then they can get advice from a doctor for example.  If the Doctor gives the ‘ok’ then they can do it.  The running starts off very short times and distances and builds each week tailored to individual needs, I’m always available to give advice or support.

What are the benefits of running?

There are many benefits of running such as helping keep joints healthy, build muscle strength, it can help with blood pressure, improved bone density, feel good chemicals and hormones are released helping ease stress and anxiety, depression, weight loss, improved cardio and lung capacity are just a few of the improvements you can  see from running.

What are your tips for anyone wishing to start running?

Lace up those trainers and give it a go!

Do you have a favourite running track or tracks when running to music?

I don’t listen to music at all when I run anymore as I like to be aware of my environment.  When I started running I did used to listen to a bit of music to take my mind off what I was doing, and enjoyed listening to upbeat feel good songs.

What is the best way to cool down or recharge after running?

I believe you should always stretch after a run no matter the distance to cool down.  Everyone will be different and recharge in there own way, but as long as you are giving yourself rest days during the week you shouldn’t really over do it, the more you run the more you will understand your body and needs.

How often would you say someone needs to run in order to lose weight or improve fitness?

It will vary from person to person, but as long as you are committed and also changing other aspects such as diet then you will definitely see improvements before long.

How important is diet in running maintenance?

Diet is very important when you run, as you need to fuel your body properly or you won’t be able to run to your full potential.    If you are just starting your running journey it may be difficult to change your diet straight away but little changes here and there will help massively as you learn more about what works for you.

What is your advice to anyone who is thinking of running but perhaps doesn’t have the confidence to start?

Don’t let anything stop you!  Give it a go, find somewhere quiet that is close to home and just try a really short run, you will soon learn no one pays any attention to what you’re doing and all runners have had to start somewhere, not everyone is a natural but just keep trying and you will get there.  I’m always happy to chat to someone if they are not feeling confident and my groups are extremely supportive of each other.

 

Will Jones Fitness is based in South Bristol, but Will is happy to travel to meet his clients needs.  Offering tailor made 1-1 running and fitness programmes together with regular RUNFIT group training sessions.  For more information and to connect with Will please make contact via his email or Facebook

 

 

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