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Healing is an ever evolving and expansive modality, and one that’s deeply subjective.  It will mean something different to everyone as it will require something different for all who seek it.

Therefore, holding space for healing to take place is complex and there is a lot more involved than you may think.  Creating a loving and alchemic space is so much more than consciously calling people into circle or ceremony whilst spouting a few words of wisdom and waving a feather wand around, which is how it may look on the surface.

Healing is continuing to support the friend who does all the taking whilst you do all the giving, because you can see the triggered growth.  It’s the causes you champion and support even though they don’t return the energy exchange, because you believe in their roots and wider benefit.  It’s the candles you light behind the scenes for those in pain without making it onto your social media show reel.  It’s the divine material you channel and make your own, rather than someone else’s craft passed off as your ‘weekly wisdom’.   It’s the blessings you send out to an unknowing collective to aid a global ascension.  It’s the silent tears you cry for a burning rain-forest or the unprotected animals.  It’s the relationships you eventually walk away from to begin work on your own wounds so as to limit collateral damage to others.  It’s the distressed strangers on a train you send distant love and light to comfort.   It’s the flower remedies you take or the soul journeys you travel on behalf of those around you who are unwilling to change.

It’s the ancestral wounds you inherited and vow to break rather than continue to pass down the maternal and paternal lines.  It’s the channelled words you share outside your comfort zone because your guides say the world needs to hear them.  It’s the free online content you provide via social media, blogs and chance meetings that yield comfort and emotive thought to someones day.  It’s the discounts or free space you gift to those who need it more than they know.  It’s the free hugs, the extra time, the finest tea and the heartfelt space you give to those drawn to your light and work.  It’s forgiving others who will never understand the magnitude of the gesture.  It’s taking responsibility for your actions, even when you’re hurt.  It’s learning how to love yourself when those around you can’t.   It’s shining your light, speaking your truth and presenting co-creation even when it triggers, receives conflicting opinion or isn’t understood.  It’s all of this, and so very much more.

Makes you think doesn’t it?

When you’re called into service, despite vowing that it will be a part time venture, you make a subconscious decision to dedicate your every being to this way of life.  It’s a silent contract that means you will never be able to choose your hours, rules of employment or hand in your notice, as you will forever be serving a higher power that knows what’s best for you.    You sign up to put more love into the world than you’re ever likely to get back, and once you move through your ego you become comfortable with that exchange.  Because you start to appreciate that you made an unbreakable pledge in many lives previous, that you will heal, grow and find your authentic self no matter what the cost in this lifetime.  In my case, illness and isolation.

When you take the first step on a healing journey you will never be able to step back into comfort or be able to be a half-assed version of yourself ever again.  You will no longer be able to ignore your gut, or else the universe will harshly intervene to cut the cords for you.  You will no longer be able to live small, in ego or conform to the invisible ‘rule-book for good people’.  And when you hold space for others on that journey then these unspoken expectations magnify, have (biodegradable) glitter on top and bells and whistles to boot!

With that comes repetitive challenges, and at times relentless testing.  Bringing with it suppressed insecurities and internal battles you thought you had fought and won.  This can be exhausting, isolating and often the root definition of healing!

But with this journey also comes an immeasurable euphoria and a freedom of self.  A nirvana of the highest order, deeper connections and an everlasting gratitude of self and in turn the rest of the world.  It’s the release of material gratification, sought out validation, ego-living and surface happiness.  It’s a medicine for the soul that no Dr or Chemist could ever prescribe.  It’s the best feeling in the world, it’s the feeling of self-mastery.

To be a channel/healer/light-worker/shaman/*insert word here* you have to take care of yourself.  You have to be willing to take yourself from a wounded healer to an awakened being, for which the goalpost will continually move inline with your new and unique skill-sets, tribes and lessons.  The end result will shake with every lower vibration, retrograding planet or challenging astrological house sign.  As you transform and are attuned to new energetic frequencies, you will need to find stronger spiritual defences, be even kinder to yourself and often need to take extended time out from social media, people and helping others.

When you are an empath and live with a chronic illness such as myself, this makes the journey that much more painful and requires even more solitary self-care as I am beginning to learn.

As an empath you are further affected by the decisions of world leaders, by the cries of the planet, by the vibration of the collective and alike. Which means that it’s a necessary part of ‘the job’ to take extended periods of isolation to go deeper into this work.  Taking a break isn’t always about taking a physical vacation, although sometimes that’s part of it, but it’s more about taking time to process, to integrate and to understand your own triggers and wounds so that in turn you can hold space for others to heal.

There is no doubt about it that this is the down side of being in service, and it’s so deeply painful at times.

I used to see taking a break as weak.  Especially as it tends to follow repeated dark nights of the soul inevitably experienced through ignoring my body, synchronised signs and my intuition.   But I’m beginning to realise that in order to evolve my work I must first evolve myself.  My mind, my body and my soul.  I must detox, cleanse and completely reset my chakric system and auric field so that I am more aligned with my path and guidance.  I must be willing to revisit the heavy karmic ties of my heart.

At times I have felt that I would love to run away from all this and start again. Go back to an office job or only agree to do reiki on a small scale. Part of me has wanted to gift myself a whole year off to go on a personal pilgrimage deep into the woods and shut off from everyone and everything, just so I could rest properly and hear myself think. But that’s not me. And my guides won’t allow that. So instead I have to compromise because they’re now saying it’s time to listen and it’s time to rebuild, for there are many blocks within my work and within my tribe.

I am following the path of a channel and I am not where I consciously started this journey 5 ish years ago, and a long time before that with my eyes wide shut. Almost everything that I say and I do is coming from an ascended place, higher than I can often translate into 3D words or understand at times.

It’s no longer a therapy or a practice inherited from books or teachers, it’s the unscripted work of my heart and soul.

So perhaps I have been a fool to think that smudging my home, using protective practices that I was first taught for hourly therapeutic work, and the odd meditation would be enough to provide great spiritual defences anymore.

I am a being of light that is expansive and ever-evolving, therefore I need to do a lot more within my basic foundations to grow and to protect myself.  That includes releasing worry what others think or how my events/words/work are interpreted, as it seems the more I grow the more I lose followers, the less attendance I have in ceremony and the more opinion I receive.

This realisation came as a huge wake up call and attack to the soul on my recent Samhain tea ceremony.  When I unexpectedly had to close my circle early following repeated verbal abuse from others who had also booked the space for their event expecting to be alone, unbeknown to us all.

 

I realised in that moment just how alone and out of my depth I felt, as I am the channel and the entire events team for my business…Honeysuckle is just me!  I am not headed up by a committee or on a conscious healing journey with a business partner, I am everything and I live and learn from my mistakes.

I felt out of my depth as I was in shock from what happened and wide open through channelling and holding a calming space that was attacked repeatedly with aggression and anger.  Taken a back,  I wasn’t able to articulate what my higher self knew to those shaken souls in attendance, which was that this experience was actually a learning tool for us all, and healing that you couldn’t put a price on!

For me it evoked physical fear as one of the ‘gentlemen’ (and I use that word politely and loosely) shouted inches from my face, as well as unearthed a great impostor syndrome, resentment towards those who I felt had put me in that situation and above all else guilt.  Guilt as I felt responsible and embarrassed that my circle didn’t deliver what I had promised.  I don’t mind admitting that the situation was the straw that broke the camels back and made me see what I had been ignoring for too long out of loyalty.

The experience was an opportunity for growth for all of us, which is after all what we signed up for, as no-one said healing would be all love and light.  The way we individually felt and reacted in that situation was showing us exactly what it was time to release and what emotions were holding us back.  Furthermore, it was completely out of my control so should therefore be no reflection on me.

Nonetheless, I saw in that very moment that I was done with serving others for the time being, and instead I wanted to strengthen my defences so that I couldn’t be affected that deeply again.  I wanted to expand my aura from energy attacks and opinion.  I wanted to take a deeper look at who I was supporting and travelling with at this stage of my evolved journey.  I wanted to gift the love and healing to myself, for it was clearly so long overdue.

Making my decision to take a break publicly, and without the initial need to explain why, received an overwhelming amount of love and support, some of which from people I never even knew followed my work.  After such an unsettling Hallows experience, this unexpected lifeline of kindness restored my faith in the world and indeed my own work.  But of course it also received opinion, gossip and highlighted the people and places I have now outgrown.  It also allowed others to play down this role as though they were one up on me by realising I needed a break, this is ego living!  But I realised that ‘taking a break’ merely means taking a break from social media, gifting everything I mentioned in the opening paragraphs and no longer holding space, it doesn’t mean stopping this work, infact it means doing more.   But that’s the nature of this role, it is a platform that will always receive critique and opinion, and those that think healing is something you just one day master.

But I choose to do things differently.  I choose to be more vulnerable, honest and to change the way we see healing, which should be a country mile from the world of hierarchy, shadow-free light and show reels.  The channels I am drawn to are changing things and work towards this vision I have.  The world is changing because healers and channels are changing. There is a gaping and obvious difference between those who are awake and in this for the long haul, and those who see this as a part time journey of bandwagons to jump on.   These channels are ‘a bit of me’ and they share their lows as much as their highs for they speak honestly about their triggers. They evolve from them and they bring this awareness into circle.

They are called into this work and are unwilling to go around it, for they are brave enough to go through it.

For this reason, they will not be able to relentlessly serve without having to stop.   And these are the people I want to receive healing from, I want to be taught by, I want to sit in circle with and who I want in my tribe.   People who take responsibility for their blocks and triggers and know when it’s time to stop and to regroup.

In the weeks that have followed Samhain,  I can see the many blessings in what happened.  Namely that I can now take some time out for myself, to re-establish a committed Honeysuckle Tribe when I return and to break links to people and causes that no longer serve me.  But what’s been more beneficial is the realisation that I need to rebuild,  I need to raise my vibration and I need to have stronger defences.

It has taken me weeks to write this blog as I wanted to be sure that I am writing it for the right reasons.  That I am not doing it out of retaliation for what happened or that I am not justifying my actions or need to take time out.  As always, I write from a point of healing to help others.  From now on I trust that those who take the time to read my blogs and indeed are still here following me on the other-side of my break are meant to be here.  I trust the organic restructure that will come from this.

I can’t say when I will be back or in what capacity, and I am sure the winds of change will carry me through many directions in the new year.

But this is what authenticity looks like.  This is what channelling looks like.

Thank you for your continued love and support.  See you on the other side!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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Will I ever be enough? This is a question I ask myself on average at least once a week, sometimes consciously aloud and sometimes suppressed into the ways that I act or feel.

At least once a week may sound a ‘little much’ to some, but I believe it’s a question that many people, particularly awakened ‘women,’ ask themselves frequently too.

In fact anyone on a path of self development or conscious soul searching will likely ask it so much as they too will have this self-limiting dialogue carved into them as if it were a tattoo.

You may be fooled into thinking that asking this question repeatedly is all about low self esteem or a lack of self confidence; therefore excluding you if you feel above this way of feeling.  Sure, those mindsets don’t help if that’s something you live with, but they are actually unrelated to the root of the question.

That’s because this question relates more to impostor syndrome, and for me impostor syndrome isn’t always a bad trait if you can learn how to live in the more positive aspect of it. Impostor syndrome gets you asking questions in order to learn, to grow and more importantly to heal. This is fundamental on a Goddess inspired path or the path of an authentic light-worker.

Impostor syndrome in essence is an inner craving to become more, and a desire to unearth more of yourself, your authentic self, and indeed the rest of the world, which we often achieve through initial self doubt.

We feel like an ‘impostor’ because deep down we know we can be so much more, and in many ways we are fighting the internal calling and birthright to step into our power.  And that’s because we are taught to fear our higher selves and our authentic beings from a young age.  For women this is especially true as we are born with gender inherited shame and guilt, which is magnified in the values we are taught such as comparison, inferiority and critical self dialogue.

And despite what you may have been taught, that this is low vibrational energy; those with impostor syndrome are often the most skilled of light-workers and the most attuned channels.  They are less likely to be living and working in their egos, because they understand the questions they must ask of themselves to keep it real and to evolve.

We are taught to fear success, to resist self expansion and to dim our lights so that others can live untriggered alongside us.  We are taught to live small.

From this fear we learn how to put our deepest dreams in a box that struggles to contain them, and we limit our cosmic beings to a 1D or 2D realm, or if we’re really lucky a 3D or 4D existence, whereby we really start to ask ourselves the opening question.  And it’s only when we start to ask this question consciously and with an intention to grow, that I believe we are starting to ascend to 5D and beyond.

Years pass and adolescence is cruel to any awakened soul, indigo child, empath or highly sensitive person.   We become wrapped in individual blankets of BS, of unjust self analysis and of life limiting belief systems and core values.  Because we are taught this from a young age and our forefathers are taught this.  We inherited our parents opinions of us, we adopted unhealed ancestral trauma through our paternal and maternal lines and we believed what media and society told us about our labels.

And thus began the rise of the question “will I ever be enough?”

The question will differ from person to person.  For some this will not even be consciously asked, and it will more be an inferiority of sorts that presents in behaviour, insecurities or feelings.

For others it will be a loud loop that plays out regularly, as if to say your best isn’t good enough,  YOU aren’t good enough.  In remedy terms it’s likely to be the Pine’s, the Larch’s, the Rock Water’s, the Centaury’s, the Agrimony’s and the Cerato’s in my opinion.

I believe the question ‘will I ever be enough’ is ingrained in women the moment they are born.  That’s not to say that this question is gender exclusive, but I believe that it’s a statement attached to the divine feminine, and this is felt more prominently in women.  You then inherit an ancestral line, particularly passed down through the maternal line, of women before you who never quite found their worth or voice due to their inherited belief systems or the suppression of feminism during harder times.  These wounds have now been passed on to you as if they were a baton and it’s now your turn to have a go at healing them alongside your own unique shadows.

The way you are brought up also plays a part, for the media you are exposed to, the parental viewpoints and the developmental years of an empath for example can make or break your inner critic.

I remember feeling fat, ugly and like I just didn’t fit in from as young as 2!

I have wonderful and loving parents, I have experienced no known trauma at a young age and I have no reason to feel this way, but I did.  I wanted more from that tender age and I wanted to be anyone and anything other than me, as I felt like a failure.

Whilst doing my Reiki training I travelled back to ‘heal my past’ and this was the first memory that came to me, and this is when I became aware of my 2 year old inner child, who had shaped so much of my adult life.  I saw my younger self playing in the flower beds in a local park and I felt as if I wanted to be more like my sister, who wasn’t crying because she didn’t want her photo taken, or wasn’t causing her parents stress because she was ‘different’ and wouldn’t ‘conform’.  For 30+ years I learned to hate that child/myself, and my insecurities were magnified with every partner, friend, co-worker or stranger who told me I was too loud, too sensitive, needy, difficult because I saw the world so differently or effectively not good enough.

But it’s only now that I am starting to ask myself this question in the positive, for greater good and growth.  “Will I ever be enough” in terms of wanting to ensure I am striving for my best self and connecting to my hearts calling whilst dancing to my own tune.

It’s taken years of painful shadow and solitary work, carefully selected Bach flower remedies, many modalities of healing, soul journeying to heal and understand my past lives and my inner child and a continued ascension into 5D living.  It’s also taken changing my energetic vibration so that I am attracting kinder souls who want to help me as much as I want to help them.

If you too are consciously asking yourself “will I ever be enough”, then start to gift the question positive power by replacing it with something like, “what do I need to do to grow further?’.  This is a far kinder approach and you will get a lot more from the lesson.  Considering Bach remedies such as Larch, Pine, Rock Water, Agrimony, Centaury or Cerato so as to remove the self doubt and restrictions to grow will help to.  And finally, it’s never too late to love that inner child in the way that they needed and deserved to be loved.

Remember,  we are all asking if we will ever be enough in some form or another, for we are all on this beautiful healing journey called life.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

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Today we welcome the Vernal Equinox, otherwise known as the Spring Equinox to the UK.

With its arrival comes a wave of infectious excitement as many tribes, communities and spiritual folk join hands to honour and celebrate the beginning of the season of abundance.

Whilst I appreciate that every season carries its own beautiful bounty, Spring has to be my favourite and days like today remind me why.  There is an almost unspoken ‘buzz’ that fills the air as collective energy refreshingly upgrades and becomes nothing short of life giving.

For anyone who has followed my work for a while (thank you), you will know that for the last year or so I have written blogs around the Solstice and Equinox arrivals.  Usually by sharing my plans for celebrating these important occasions or by providing you with insights into what you can expect from the season ahead.

This year, I believe that there are a growing number of people looking to connect to the Spring Equinox.  Perhaps new to their journey, they may be unsure of how to invite in the energies of this season or what is the ‘best’ way to celebrate it today.  The truth is, as always, there is no right or wrong and the ‘best’ way is to simply follow your heart or tribe into worship and service.

However, I am on hand with my top tips to give you some ideas of how to spend your Spring day!

1. Find a circle, a tribe or a gathering

Spring is the ultimate season of connection, and for many being close to like-minded kin is a must today.

There will no doubt be an array of Equinox inspired events in your area, either today or within the window of its potent energies.  Pagan temples, Avalonian landmarks and Wiccan fellowships will have open doors and arms today if you are called to join them.  From sitting in ceremonial circle to attending a sacred site, being amongst like minded or attuned communities will really set the tone for the coming months.

2. Build or change your altar

You will have perhaps seen me share my pictures on social media this week, following my newly dressed Spring altar.

I find this to be one of the most exciting and humbling experiences.  Having a space within your home or garden to honour and give thanks for the approaching season is a wonderful tool of connection.  It becomes a focal point for Spring and encourages you to gather and craft as you source seasonal treats.

Whether you are about to dress your altar for Ostara or like me you choose to create an over-lighting Goddess of Spring, changing your altar to reflect the colours, fruits and energies of this season is a great way to connect and a fun thing to do today.

3. Dig for victory

Spring is known for being the time to sow new seeds of intention as we finally break free from the shackles of Winter.

It is the season of rebirth and nature, so what better time to get out into the garden.  Weeding, garden maintenance and planting are great ways to watch the season unfold, as you will have the pleasure of witnessing the fruits of today’s labour take root over the next 3 months.  Garden centres are lovely and inspiring places to spend an Equinox.  Treat yourself to a new (or second hand) pot, some pretty plants and a handful of seeds and get your hands in the earth…the source of all connection.

4. Cleanse and clean

It’s not called ‘Spring cleaning’ for nothing!

Today is an open portal to release the old and to make way for the new.  Giving the house a deep clean, finding homes for that surface clutter and even clearing out the wardrobe of Winter and unwanted clothes is a great thing to do today.

Follow this up with a cleansing smudge using tools such as sage, palo santo or even floral room sprays and Bach remedies (Crab Apple and Walnut are particularly cleansing!) whilst asking any energy that no longer serves you to leave your home.  If weather allows, crack those windows open to visualise it leaving and the clean renewed air filling its void.

5) Book a treatment

Booking a therapy such as Reiki, Crystal Healing or any treatment that supports the flow of energy around and out of the body is a loving gift to yourself and makes the transition into a new season that much more seamless.

This is even a great time to start a new Bach mix, especially if you’re feeling sluggish, lack confidence to seize this next phase or need motivating to go out and grab Spring’s opportunities.

6) Craft, bake and make

Spring encourages us to get creative and to start new projects.

Making our homes the focus of our attention creates strong foundations and encourages us to invite others in to share our space.  Today, start that up-cycling project you have been meaning to or give the walls a lick of brightening paint.  Make something from scratch or even mend it.

Crafts, baking and DIY projects have Spring written all over them so get busy today and try something new.

Perhaps even sign up for an art class or further studies of interest…Spring encourages you to try something new so ride on the coat-tails of this energy change.

7) Give an offering

Perhaps one of my favourite things to do and the ultimate way to invite Spring into your life in my opinion.

Select seasonal flowers and fruits, bio-degradable items, protective tigers eye or loving rose quartz, and if you are lucky enough to be bleeding at this time then even add your menstrual blood in a gift to Gaia.

Take a stroll, follow you heart and leave your offering nestled by an inviting tree or within a babbling brook with a few words of gratitude and intention for the coming months.

8) Get active in nature

Getting out in nature for a stroll with your fur baby or even a jog along to your favourite music are other great tools of connection.

Why not practice some mindfulness whilst you are doing it.  Noticing how your body is feeling whilst exercising or even allowing your eyes to wander in amazement at the abundant fields, the scenes of green or the blue skies.

If you can muster-up nothing more today than a hop, skip or once around the block then you have done something to honour the day.

9) Visit a farm or butterfly house

Butterflies are such a vision of metamorphosis and remind us of the beauty in change.

Their synchronicity seems rather plentiful this season and witnessing them going about their business with their new wings today can be a lovely way to spend an Equinox.  Visit a butterfly house and if you are able to, ask one of the experts to teach you more about how they mate, eat and their life expectancy…it’s fascinating!

Or perhaps visit a community project or farm.  Often at this time of year it’s lambing season and you may be lucky enough to feed one.  Being amongst baby animals and animals in general can be a restorative feeling and a Spring feel good factor.

10) Answer your hearts calling!

Perhaps an obvious tip, but maybe not!

Too many of us feel that there is a right and wrong way of doing things and that honouring a seasonal change warrants spiritual bells and whistles…but it doesn’t!

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, going to Glastonbury is no more enlightening than going to the end of your garden if you are not called to be there and are simply following suit.  Your heart, when open and free of ego, is your own personal sat nav to Spring.  Allow her to guide you to where you need to be and what you need to do today.  If you feel inspired to do any of the other 9 suggestions then do it.  If you have a ‘random’ place pop into your head, then visit it.  If your body is tired and you need rest today, then rest.

Answering your hearts calling today is ultimately the best way to spend a Spring Equinox.

Have a wonderful Spring everyone, however you choose to connect today, it’s coming and it’s going to be great!

Yours in love and Spring-light,

 

 

 

Sharing is caring!  Sharing my blogs, quoting my insights, and your continued support is always appreciated.  However, if you reference any of my work then please credit Honeysuckle Healing, and include links to the appropriate piece so that others may benefit from these tools too.  I work hard to ‘give back’ to my community through my free blogs and self-empowering online content.  I can only continue to meet this dedication through your respect and recognition.  Thank you

You will know that women of a certain age experience a monthly bleed, but what you may not know is that there is an increasing community of awakening women who are using this cycle in ceremonial offering.

Gross right?  Well, I used to think so to!

I strive to keep the majority of my blog focus on lighter subjects that fall within the holistic spectrum.  If I am unable to do this then I at least try to simplify topics so that they may reach a wider community.  However, every now and again I like to challenge my presence and to witness my own evolution from therapist to channel and from practitioner to goddess.

This is the way that I start to trust my heart’s teachings and to ensure that I adapt to an ever changing audience.   It also acts as a reminder to me that I am transforming, I am awakening and I that I have to sometimes step outside of my comfort zone and away from public acceptance or validation.  I must speak my truth, no matter how ‘weird’ that may initially seem.

Blood offerings are something I never envisioned myself doing, let alone writing about.  It couldn’t be further from the way in which I have been raised or indeed from the shame I naturally carry as a woman.

It has become a practice relatively new to my esoteric and spiritual path and one that I am still learning how to embrace and utilise for my greater good.

My awareness began around 18 months ago when I started travelling a more channelled and goddess inspired route.

I began to move in circles of women who done this religiously each month without a second thought.  I even sat in sharing circles whereby ‘sharing sticks’ adorned with elder women’s last bleed were passed around when someone wished to talk.  What struck me was that after my initial thought of ‘what the hell is going on’, there was no feeling of shame or uncleanliness that stayed with me, and instead a deep respect and gratitude amongst us all.  I was intrigued.

Depending on culture, faith, upbringing and gender, a woman’s menstrual cycle will be something to be celebrated or something to despise.  Some cultures create tents for women to gather and craft during this time and others banish women to outside shacks as if they were carrying an infectious disease.

For many women, dating back as far as our past lives, this natural cycle carries with it an element of shame, a feeling of being unclean and is something we rarely talk about openly.  We even give it names like ‘star week’ for example, to avoid magnifying its power or to save embarrassment to anyone who still winces at the thought of it.  We as women are often unable to feel justifiable anger, upset or strong emotions during our bleed without this being excused as PMT or hormone induced.

With all of these negative connotations is it any wonder that working with your cycle seems grose rather than gorgeous?

 

I have always suffered with menstrual cramps and pain, to the point where I am sure there is an underlying diagnosis I haven’t explored with my GP.   As a result of this life-limiting agony I actually dread my periods as I have to spend the first few days in bed and on strong pain relief.

However, in more recent months since making conscious blood offerings to Gaia I have felt a slight improvement in my experienced pain, and I have actually learnt to embrace my monthly gift.  It has created a change in mindset and given less power to the negative thoughts I have had around my cycle.  Despite any expected discomfort, I now actually look forward to being able to offer this in some way and to be source-led to new destinations or ways in which to do this.  Even more so if this falls on a significant lunar rhythm or astrological event, for I see this as a magnified value.

What really changed for me was when a few months ago I was 4 weeks late.  After realising that unless I was expecting the second coming of Jesus, I may be facing the end of my cycle.  I will turn 36 next month and whilst I may still be considered a little ‘young’ to be pre-menopausal, I was experiencing many symptoms which could have indicated that my time was indeed running out.

The thought of this actually made me sad.   I felt robbed!  I had only just discovered this sacred gift, this womanly power if you like, and so it seemed a grave shame to be losing it before my journey had even really begun.  My initial thought was that I wished someone had told me about this sooner, and that my awakening happened earlier so I may have utilised this ceremonial tool.

I believe that a woman’s bleed, whether it’s her first or her last, is a natural wonder to be celebrated and is infact gorgeous.  It’s a reminder of our strength and our synchronised connection with the moon.  For those interested in understanding an energy duality, I believe this is the aspect that helps us to connect to our divine feminine, which when working with rather than against can create balance.

I no longer feel ashamed to talk about it openly without nickname.  I will now be fully embracing this part of my body’s function, and seeing this as a uniquely divine gift I can bring to my ceremonial offerings and ancestral connection.

My crimson journey is of course in it’s infancy and I am human!   Every now and again when I am called to give blood with nearby spectators then my ego will kick in and I will do it all a bit cloak and dagger, as awakening is never easy and some days others opinions cut deeper.  But this act is no longer something I see as grose.  It is no longer something that makes me feel unclean or less of a person because of my presenting gender.  I see it as a powerful connection to Gaia, which can only come as a result of being a woman.  A woman in tune with her body, in tune with the moon and in tune with the land.

This needn’t be something to shout about, but it’s also no longer about suppressing an inherent and natural birth right.

If you take this route then it is something I feel you have to appreciate may warrant a few raised eyebrows and your family and friends perhaps thinking you have finally gone round the spiritual bend!  But for those ready to rise from the shadows, it is an act of self connection, self mastery and  I believe deep awakening.

If this blog speaks to you on any level, even if that is a trigger into thinking it’s more grose than gorgeous, then just try it.  See it as a way of ridding yourself of inherited shame as a woman and of inviting goddess empowerment into your life.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

It seems very fitting to welcome Starlight as my August guests, as it was a year ago this month that I first put faces to the name.

I met Katy and Kath AKA Starlight Soul Journeys (previously Starlight Meditation) in Glastonbury this time last year.  Having taken part in several of their ‘magic month’ webinars and online courses, all of which I credit my goddess awakening to, I nervously joined them on one of their soul journeys, having been drawn to my favourite place, Avalon.  This began a healing spiral of deep alchemic proportions and my love affair with Starlight.

For anyone who personally knows me or regularly reads my blogs and online content, you will know that I mention and recommend Starlight a lot, and that’s because I cannot say enough good stuff about them.  Their work is not for the faint hearted, but I credit so much of where I am, both personally and professionally, to these two wonder beings of light.  It is like no healing I have ever experienced, for it’s a shamanic fusion that triggers and gets to the very centre of pain and trauma…it’s certainly not all love and light, and there is nowhere to hide!  I also hadn’t experienced ‘portal sickness’, mass burping to release energy or indeed cried tears from such a depth until I met these two!  In fact, they often affectionately remind me that I said to them, following a Cacao ceremony at the bottom of the Tor, “why on earth would anyone pay for this shit!” whilst crying and laughing at the same time!  Of course, I jest, for I have signed up time and time again for their unique offerings, which says how addictive their work is.  I even completed my channelling course with them, as they are channels and spaceholder’s whom I respect immensely.

I think both Katy and Kath will agree that the three of us have been on a real journey of love, laughter, tears and triggering together, but personally for me they will always be two of the dearest souls residing in my heart, regardless of how long we choose to physically journey with each-other in this lifetime.  And they are guests whom I hope will always be in my life in one way or another, as they have taught me the importance of the shadow as well as the light and to honour my ability to keep it real!

This month I asked Starlight to join me to discuss the rise of the priesti, and oh my gosh I am so excited for this long overdue interview!  The priesti energy is one that is becoming an integral part of my light work, with thanks to the awareness from Starlight.  In fact I feel almost sheepish for understanding and respecting so deeply the diversity in sexuality and gender, but naively on my part not equating that fluidity to divine energy work.  I think it really is time that we individually and collectively bring this third dimension and duality to light-work.  I am really enjoying interpreting this energy through my own guidance and bringing this into the work I do at Honeysuckle Healing, but the experts and chosen light-bearers of this energy are definitely Starlight, and in particular Kath, who has taught me so very much.  Without further ado, I hand the reigns over to this formidable duo and I sincerely hope that this interview will resonate with the resting priesti within us all.

If you see the purple and green heart emoji’s pop up in my work, or indeed if you choose to follow Starlight after this interview, please know that this is the sign of the priesti, which is how Starlight have received guidance to represent this dual divinity.

August also seems a fitting  guest spot as I will be supporting Starlight at their Frankincense ceremony in Bristol this month.  You can find more details at the bottom of this interview.

The warmest of love and gratitude to the amazing Starlight for bringing the priesti to Honeysuckle this month, it’s a true honour to have you both and to talk about this fascinating subject.

Yours in love and light

 

 

 

August Guest Corner

Q&A With Starlight Soul Journeys

 

“The Rise Of The Priesti”

 

What is a priesti?

Both: A priesti is the gender of unity

Katy: A priesti is someone who is twin gender – they don’t really identify with being male or female, they identify with being both genders within one body whether that body is male or female externally 

Kath: The presence of both genders is within most people, however with priesti’s it tends to be at the forefront of their personalities and identities as opposed to somewhere deep inside

What made you discover the priesti energy?

Katy: When I first met Kath, I realised she was like a boy and a girl in one body and over the years we talked openly about the struggles and the joys of that.   Then in Ibiza 2017 we had a dominant female group that was referring to themselves as priestesses in ceremony and Kath said the word did not resonate with who she is.  The name ‘priesti’ came to my heart, along with the most beautiful energy and music accompanying it

Kath: So, I’ve always felt a bit different in terms of not fitting in to gender types and feeling almost angry and upset that they even exist.  When I was in Ibiza 2017 in a particular ceremony I was blasted with visions and information about the third gender – on experiencing that energy I can honestly say it felt like I’d come home (or I had a breakdown haha!)

Where do you think the priesti originates?

Both: Its roots are in Lumaria and beyond (pre-Atlantis).  It was recognised within all of the ancient spiritual cultures of the world and still is in many

Why do you think it’s important that we all connect to priesti energy?

Katy: We are in a time of ascending back into unity consciousness, and part of that ascension in our consciousness is the recognition of the unity gender, that gender is how we are going to bridge into unity consciousness 

Kath: For people that identify as priesti it is important for them to feel acknowledged and honoured in order to energetically fulfil themselves, their truth and their path

 

How can others reading this know if they identify as a priesti?

Katy: It is something you know within yourself, although this can take time to arrive at that knowing.  If you are questioning it; it is probably because being a man or a woman doesn’t feel 100% aligned with who you are

Kath: I wear it on the inside and the out, always have, so for me it was almost obvious.  But it has nothing to do with sexuality or pronouns etc this is more of an energetic experience that falls into alignment when you work with the energy

How can we connect to, or awaken, our inner priesti?

Katy: Just as all people have male/female within them we also have a priesti energy within us (however we identify).  To find the priesti energy within yourself, explore where the male and female energies within you meet, and the place where the meeting is harmonious is the ‘essence’ of your inner priesti (usually around the heart, higher heart and throat areas in the chakric system)

Kath: Sound really helps me do this and Frankincense

What are the ways in which we can support others who strongly identify as Priesti?

Katy: Being inclusive in your language of the presti gender (such as  not assuming ‘ladies’ is the correct way to address an all female group etc), and celebrating all of the wisdom, beauty and incredible healing that the priesti people and energy can bring to the world

Kath: Acknowledgement and acceptance

How does Starlight incorporate this energy or indeed help others to connect to it on your soul journeys?

Katy: Starlight channels the priesti’s regularly now, working with their energy, their music and also give a lot of guidance about who the priesti is.  We also heal the collective priesti wounds on our journeys

Kath: I am part of Starlight and these days, after previously taking more of a backseat role, I tend to work predominantly with the unity energy in ceremony, and so I think that naturally the energy is present within me when I am in circle.  We also use the priesti energy to help heal the masculine and feminine wounds and ‘blame’ that are so prevalent in our work

How important do you think gender or sexuality is in priesti identification?

Both: Gender/sexuality are fairly irrelevant, we have met priesti’s across the spectrum of all genders and sexuality

Can anyone identify as a priesti? 

Both: Just as a woman can identify a masculine energy within herself but she would still identify as being a woman, anyone can find the preisti energy within themselves.  But only a ‘Priesti’ would necessarily identify themselves as being one

 

Starlight will be travelling to Bristol to hold a Goddess Aphrodite Frankincense ceremony entitled ‘The Beauty In You’ this month.  Held at The Bristol Goddess Temple on Wednesday 29th August 2018 , 7pm – 10pm.  Please click here to read more about this amazing event and to purchase  your tickets.  I will be their Melissa at the event, supporting the loving and nurturing space they are providing.  It will be wonderful to welcome you all.  Limited tickets available, advance booking essential.

Starlight soul journeys is run by Katy (the Channel/teacher/right brain) and Kath (manager/travel co-coordinator/and everything else left brained).  Often referred to as the ‘rock and roll of spirituality’, Starlight is fundamentally about self-empowerment, working a lot with Shadow so we can be our authentic self.  Together they run online courses, 1-1 sessions, ceremonies, soul journeys and much more!  Click here to visit their website.  You can also join their online Facebook community here, where you can get free vlogs, meditations, guidance and tools about the Priesti and other Starlight themes like alchemy, connection, divine feminine healing etc.

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

This month’s Guest Corner has got me rather excited and I feel like I am writing a column for Carrie Bradshaw rather than Honeysuckle Healing!

If someone told me only 6 months ago that I would be writing a blog that contained the words clitoris, genitals and anus I would never have believed them!  That’s because I was amongst the many people who believed that not only was I not allowed to call my body parts by their correct names, but that if I said the words in public then they were to be in a whispered tone or with some kind of humorous innuendo attached…..well not anymore!

There have been many paths that have led me to discovering the word Yoni and in turn the importance of connecting to her and releasing blocks specifically trapped within this area.  Namely my discovery of the Goddess, but also my own conscious awakening, which continues to help me connect to my own body on a deeper level.  My healing and attunements have allowed for me to be able to experience energy frequencies within my own body and to become finely tuned to the ways in which I can assist her back to health.  That said, I have become more aware in recent months of the need to release trauma held within my Yoni area and more specifically my womb.  Some of this has been as a result of painful past relationships and some of this I believe has been as a result of inherited ancestral wounds, carried through from my past lives.

For those who aren’t perhaps aware, Yoni relates to the vaginal area in basic terms.  When I  learnt not so long ago that vagina means ‘sheath for a man’s sword’ and Yoni means ‘sacred temple’ in Sanskrit, it became a no-brainer for me that from this day forward my lady garden would now be known as a Yoni!  Just making the transition from calling it a miniwidge (yes you read that right) when I was a child to muttering the words vagina in my much later years meant that discovering the word Yoni took me from a feeling of being dis-empowered to super-empowered in a matter of seconds!

Experiencing a Yoni steam on ‘Miss Daydreamer’ was wonderful and I concur completely with Helen when she said it was as though her Yoni thanked her for the experience…I felt like my Yoni actually gave me a high five in appreciation!

Like many women, my Yoni has been a thing of taboo, something that can be quite embarrassing to talk about and something I rarely take time out to connect with.  But after my first steam, that changed.

I cried throughout the treatment and felt a deep release linked with my past relationships, it felt like a total surrender to let go and another step to truly moving on.  Giving my offering to the water, overlooked in ceremony by some rather curious passing swans and ducks, was nothing short of magical and a process that I can’t wait to repeat.

Heartfelt thanks to Helen, the beautiful and amazing Goddess that she is, for bringing her fascinating topic of Yoni steaming to this month’s guest corner, which really has been enlightening.  Writing this blog reminds me just how far I have come on my own personal healing journey, which is always an added bonus to these monthly guest interactions.  My hope is that this blog might inspire many women to try it for themselves, especially those who perhaps winced at the opening paragraph of my foreword or who still have nicknames for their Yoni’s…trust me, you need this blog more than you think my lovelies!

Yours in love and light,

 

April Guest Corner

Q&A With Helen Hatton

 

‘Yoni Steaming’

 

Firstly, for those who may not be aware, what does the term ‘Yoni’ refer to?

People have different ideas of what the Yoni area may be. My understanding of the Yoni area is from the anus to the clitoris, incorporating all of the genital area and all of the reproductive area, regardless of whether you have those organs or not.

What is Yoni steaming?

Yoni steaming is something that all of us ladies should be doing!  It’s a way of looking after ourselves and taking time out for ourselves in the form of self-care on many levels.  It can also help with physical ailments that can affect many women.

Just as you may have a facial steam to aid a cold or runny nose, you can also get great benefits from steaming your Yoni area.  Sitting over a bowl of sacred herbs and hot water, your Yoni will inhale the steam and the benefits of the herbs into your body.

Are there any specific herbs that are used in a Yoni steam?

There are quite a few herbs that are used traditionally. One of the herbs that many women may already be aware of is the Raspberry Leaf, as it is used at the end of term in pregnancy as it helps the muscles to contract. It is also beneficial during periods when women may experience menstrual cramps.  There are a number of herbs and you can choose more of one and less of another, and I encourage people to instinctively choose the herbs they are drawn to and the amount of each they feel they need.   I prefer clients to tune into their bodies, rather than overthink or analyse the benefits of each herb, as this helps them to intuitively pick the herbs and amounts that are right for them at the time of the steam.

What brought you to Yoni steaming?

I have completed a Priestess Healer course in Glastonbury in the last year and there were many modules of this course, Yoni steaming being one of them.  Yoni steaming was the module I felt most drawn to, I loved it and immediately I wanted to offer this service as a separate entity.

During my training it was less than intimate as we did it in a large group, which was quite a surprise initially, but actually very useful in another way as I got to witness the physical reactions people can have when things are releasing.  Some people cough, some might cry, some people make physical noises such as pass wind and I found it so interesting to see many people having such significant reactions as well as those who were just quietly releasing.  For myself I just felt that my Yoni afterwards was just so happy and grateful for the experience.  It was like my Yoni said ‘thank you’ for remembering me!  I returned home with such enthusiasm, telling everyone about it and many of the people I told weren’t expecting this conversation so they were looking at me strangely.  I told people that from that day forward I was no longer going to talk about parts of my body in a hushed voice, that it’s OK to say the word clitoris without having to whisper it!  And I’m unapologetic about that.  I think it’s time.

How do you perform a Yoni steam session?

I am based in Bristol Marina on a beautiful boat called ‘Miss Daydreamer’ where I use a folding commode for Yoni steams, which is secure and comfortable.  Using a heatproof dish, we select the herbs that you wish to use and then top up the bowl with hot water.  I leave the room whilst you get yourself in position, removing your clothes from the waist down, and covering with cotton sheets to protect your modesty.  My role as a Priestess during the treatment is to hold space and encourage the release of whatever the person wishes to release.  The role of Priestessing is very much about enabling the client to observe, acknowledge, and release, whilst ensuring they are comfortable and feel safe as they do so.

What do you do with the water afterwards?

An important part of the process is that the water is given back to the earth in some form. Being based on a boat means that you are able to release the water from the Yoni steam directly back into the water of the Marina. The intentions placed in the water are effectively given back to the land, which will assist in further release.

What are the benefits of a Yoni steam?

The Yoni can hold trauma and emotional blocks from situations such as past relationships or even physical surgery to this area or the loss of a baby for example. You are encouraged to set an intention prior to a Yoni steam whereby you are asking for trauma to be removed from this area or blocks perhaps relating to past relationships that you want to let go of.  Attachments to old relationships can affect us in the present and blocks can be held in the Yoni area, which can be released through steaming.  Physical traumas such as surgery, removal of organs and even miscarriage or termination of pregnancy can also benefit from kindness and connection to the Yoni.

As well as emotional freedom such as the situations mentioned above, Yoni steams can help on a physical level with things such as painful periods, those who are out of rhythm with their monthly cycles and specific women related discomfort of this area, by having multiple steams.

Yoni steaming can assist with yeast infections and in bowel health.  

Those seeking help with fertility can find yoni steams beneficial as the cleansing and detoxing effect helps bring the body back to its natural state.

What intention would you recommend is set for a Yoni steam in order to get the best results?

Normally there is a reason people would come for a Yoni steam.  People might want to detach from things that have happened, in most cases a relationship, in which case your intention may well be that you might want to release all ties to a relationship that isn’t healthy.  But your intention can be whatever feels right for you at the time and this will be something you can choose to share or keep to yourself. 

What makes you so passionate about Yoni steaming?

 I very strongly believe that we hold trauma in our body and I think that this is what results in illness and disease.  I believe the more blocks and stress we can release from our body the better it is for each person.  Old relationships can be the biggest blocks we hold, things change and we often find it hard to move on, carrying these unhelpful patterns or energetic disturbances within our body which make it hard for us to truly move on.  It stops us having the life we could have as we get stuck, so I believe it helps us to move forward, releasing anything that no longer serves us.

On a physical level I also find it helps with symptoms of women specific health issues.  Also, from a regular perspective without even thinking about releasing stuff, I just like the sensation, as having a Yoni steam feels nice.

Can you experience a Yoni steam during menstruating?

There is no physical reason why you cannot receive a Yoni steam during bleeding, however it’s simply down to a level of comfortableness between client and practitioner. I personally do not mind performing a Yoni steam during this time as long as the recipient feels comfortable with the process.

Is Yoni steaming just for women?

In theory men can have this treatment, but currently this isn’t something I personally offer. In America the treatment is called V steams and A steams and is used a lot by men as well as women.

How does a Yoni steam constitute self-care?

A Yoni steam is about looking after ourselves, being nice to ourselves, taking time out for ourselves and above all else connecting to this amazing area. The Yoni is not only responsible for giving life, but it also gives us great pleasure, which we often take for granted or feel ashamed in some way to discuss or acknowledge. Connecting to this area through the steam not only gives great benefits on a physical and emotional level, but it also just feels so nice!  It’s a conscious acknowledgement of this sacred area that is often forgotten and a way of honouring ourselves as the beautiful women we are.

Having a Yoni steam is an amazing act of self-care with the additional benefits of sacred herbs which have been used for lots and lots of years.  I really think we should be looking after ourselves in this way.  We get our hair done, we get our nails done, we have a facial, we go to the gym or pick out nice clothes but we often forget this sacred part of our body.  The part that not only produces children but also gives us such great pleasure, yet we often take it for granted, don’t connect to it or take care of it in any way.  We don’t do anything nice for her, which I think is terrible.  We neglect her and I think it’s time we start appreciating her and all that she does.

How many Yoni steams would you recommend?

I would personally recommend 3 sessions as a minimum, in order to shift something. And I would recommend that these are held 1 month apart so that the recipient can gauge physical benefits such as an improvement during bleeding for example. Like with Reiki and other healing systems, if you are coming to deal with a specific issue then it’s unlikely to have happened overnight, therefore you will need time to release this from the body.  I always suggest a minimum of 3 to experience letting go and energy shifting for yourself.

What are your suggestions for how anyone reading this can connect to their Yoni if this all seems a new and daunting prospect?

At home, you can meditate, bringing your awareness to your Yoni by breathing deeply into this area.  Focusing on each part of the Yoni such as clitoris, labia, womb and just breathing loving intentions and a purpose of connecting with these areas.

I would recommend getting a hand held mirror and looking at your Yoni!  She is beautiful – we are all different shapes and sizes, and so are our Yoni’s!  So try and not be shy, take a look and say hello!  And appreciate her, she is gorgeous just like you!

Having regular healing treatments such as Goddess or Reiki healing can be a way of building up confidence to explore trauma specifically relating to the Yoni area.  Together with your practitioner you can find a plan of treatment once you feel ready to release this through steaming.

What are your tips for Yoni steaming?

I personally wouldn’t recommend that people try Yoni steaming at home.  I would personally go to someone who is qualified to hold space, encourage the release, and that you can feel confident that they have gathered organic and sacred herbs, appropriate for this treatment. If you are trying to look after your health, then I would advise you ensure that all herbs gathered are organic.  Just as with choosing essential oils, you want them to be pure and free from chemicals that could cause your body to have a reaction or adverse effect.  Never put essential oils in the water as you will burn yourself, this is for herbs only.  By going to a qualified space holder, you ensure that all these things are taken care of for you and the space is safe and prepared for your highest good.

 

Helen Hatton owns ‘Healing in the harbour’ (formerly Reiki on the water).  Helen offers one to one Reiki treatments, Goddess Healing and Yoni steams from her beautiful boat, ‘Miss Daydreamer’ in Bristol Marina.  Helen is a Reiki Master which enables her to offer Reiki attunements and training, with course details being available from her website and by contacting her directly.  Helen also runs monthly Reiki shares.  You can contact Helen by visiting her website or by email

 

Sharing is caring!  Sharing my blogs, quoting my insights, and your continued support is always appreciated.  However, if you reference any of my work then please credit Honeysuckle Healing, and include links to the appropriate piece so that others may benefit from these tools too.  I work hard to ‘give back’ to my community through my free blogs and self-empowering online content.  I can only continue to meet this dedication through your respect and recognition.  Thank you

 

Legal disclaimeras always, my guests are invited to share their work with you in order to support your healing journey as a whole, by giving you empowering tips and food for thought.  I only invite guests whom I know to be insured and practising to the best of my knowledge at the time of their guest spot.  I will only welcome guests that I have personally used the services of, and have found to benefit my own individual healing journey as a result.  However, if you choose to book any treatments or use any guests services as a result of my monthly interviews, then please be aware that you act personally on this decision.  Honeysuckle Healing take no responsibility for the outcome of this decision and these guest blogs do not act as a referral or recommendation service.  Please ensure that these guests and services meet your individual requirements prior to booking.  Thank you

Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

As some of you may be aware, I have been an active Melissa for just over a year at the Bristol Goddess Temple, since it opened in August 2017.

Although I am unable to hold space quite so much now, this is still a role that I take very seriously, am sincerely grateful for and is no doubt a greatly pivotal step on my own personal healing journey.

I enjoy meeting every person that comes through its doors when I hold space, more often than not on a Saturday afternoon, as since becoming a humble servant to the Goddess, I have taken a great deal from this role.  It has helped me to grow in knowledge and confidence as a person, as a space holder and as a Goddess in my own right; and I know there is still so much more to come from my awakening divinity and path.  Connecting to the Goddess has contributed to the flow of clarity, peace and abundance in my life.  She has also brought a strong sense of identity and belonging through a deeper connection with nature, source and self.

Like Ruth, who kindly shares her time with us in this month’s guest spot; I have also felt that there was a higher energy from a young age.  Something that needed exploring, and for me, for a long time this was something I tried to suppress and something that I considered to be my ‘dark side’ rather than my gift.

In resisting this power, I was in fact delaying my light work, making my path more troublesome, more isolating and possibly it even contributed to my ill health.

That’s because I believe that it’s a deep need within us all to connect with the land, to listen to our internal voice before we listen to the voices of others and to act on every impulse, every instinct and to follow every sign that excites us…. trusting that in doing so we will be universally held and guided to meet our authentic selves.

I’ve always been a bit of a feminist at heart, long before I even knew what that word meant.  Learning about the Suffragette movement ignited deep fires within me from a young age.  Watching films and reading books shocked me to witness the many fights women have endured over the years, and even in today’s modern world, for equal pay and rights.  And I have to admit I was a die-hard Spice Girls fan growing up, largely due to buying into their slogan ‘girl power’, and believing that was the very way in which I should live my life…with a zig a zig ahhh!

Don’t get me wrong, the Goddess collective is not about feminism per-say and there is very much room for men to get involved, but just as my fires were fuelled by anyone from Emmeline Pankhurst to Geri Halliwell, it is about women stepping into their power and no longer hiding in the shadows.

I could talk about this subject for hours now that this part of me is awakening and this divine energy is running through every inch of my being, but this opening paragraph is in a Goddess nutshell really, as this is not my story to tell today.   However, the very realisation that I am now a part, albeit small part, of the amazing group of women who head up the Bristol Goddess Temple, excites me beyond words.  I feel that this space and this divine movement is part of a collective of women that stir, that are awakening and that are powerful enough to bring about much needed change to this world.  To bring back an equality of the sexes and speak the ancestral wisdom of Gaia herself.

Ruth Cogan from the Healing Couch and who is the Mother of Melissa’s (amongst many other valued roles at the Bristol Goddess Temple) kindly joins us in this month’s  Guest Corner for a Q&A session about the Goddess.   Ruth is a woman and healer who I have come to respect very much.  I asked for her to join us this month with a view of sharing her knowledge of the divine with you all and as always to give my readers tools of support and empowerment on their own unique healing journeys.

It’s time to awaken the divine and it’s time to awaken ourselves.

Enjoy this lovely time with Ruth and enjoy the beautiful and awakening month of February everyone.   For my male readers, please read on as this blog is very much for men as well as women.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

February Guest Corner

Q&A With Ruth Cogan

 

‘Awakening The Goddess Within’

 

How did you discover the goddess?

The goddess has always been present in my life since I was very young.  I have always been aware of a higher energy, something that makes the world rotate, the earth breathes; something that makes the clouds scuttle past when you’re lying on your back looking up at the sky on the side of a mountain.  I was always walking around with a fishnet when I was a child, scooping around in the ponds looking for things, just being in total awe of the world, and I knew that there was more to it.  What brought her back into my consciousness was when I was slightly post-menopausal, as this is a time when I think you start to take stock. My children were no longer with me, having grown up and leading their own lives, and I started to question my role in life.  I was walking the dog one day, on the land we were renting in Alabama for a time, and all about me was solitude and peacefulness. I stood there and it was like She had just gone back into my heart and said ‘do you remember those conversations we used to have, well I’m still here and I’m waiting for you to reconnect.  I’ve got so much I need you to do so don’t feel sorry for yourself or start asking yourself too many questions.  I’m waiting for you to step into your true self”.  When I came back to the UK, I started reading more, looking at Pagan websites looking for groups and I began to think this was exciting, that there was something in this and I wanted to explore more and to train.  I trained in Swedish massage, then I did crystal healing therapy and from that moment I thought ‘there is so much more to this’, there were more questions than I could answer.  My daughter took me to Glastonbury for the first time, and I picked up leaflets and heard the goddess voice everywhere.  It’s just been a succession of one thing leading to another, and then a link leading to something else and it’s evolved from there.

What does the goddess mean to you?

To me, she means heart to heart connection.  She means helping to heal the world.  She means bringing back the power of womankind and woman hood.  She means dealing with the harm that’s been done for centuries and hopefully bringing man and woman back together in synchronicity, empowering women.  I think once women realise their power again, there will be a softer coming together and wars will be blown out of the human psyche.  There is a lot of work to be done, so we all have to gather our skirts and go with the movement.

Is the goddess only for women?

Absolutely not.  The goddess speaks to everybody in their hearts, minds and higher selves.  She has been there since man probably started forming the very first words and thought processes with themselves.

How can people incorporate the goddess into their everyday lives?

It takes practice.  It takes a little bit of stepping outside of yourself and accepting that there is higher energy, higher connection and incorporating a connection with her in your daily life.  For priestesses it’s a dedication of daily devotional practice, because we are the ones spreading the message of the divine feminine, so we need to practice what we preach.  For individuals, I think its about gratitude and not doubting oneself all the time.  It can be as easy as spending a few minutes saying a few words to her, in the morning when you’re fresh and before you walk out the door and face the world.  “Lady, Goddess, a goddess’s name”, however you tune in or wish to relate to that feminine energy and just do that everyday.  It could be as simple as a wink in the mirror when you’re brushing your teeth, or daily affirmations.

Does the goddess symbolise a particular religion or faith?

No, I believe historically awareness of Goddess goes back to when man could first fashion a word or a tool.  When man recognised there was a change in the seasons and the phases of the moon.  To be closer to goddess you don’t need to follow a particular path, its more about looking inward, and community.  Goddess is all encompassing, she can be in a person as much as she can be in a stone on the ground, or a tree in the wood.

What is the Bristol Goddess Temple?

It grew from a seed of an idea.  From regular meetings that were happening already such as a Moon Lodge and a drumming circle particularly for women; giving women a sacred safe space to give, to share, to learn, to experience, to craft, to go out in nature and just to connect and communicate.  We realised we were attracting a particular kind of woman and a community was forming.  Two of us had trained in Glastonbury in the Avalon tradition, and acquired priestess status, so we had the skills and ability to encourage people to find a different way to be and to connect.  We came up with the idea as the room became available in Warmley, Bristol.

What is your role at the Bristol Goddess Temple?

My role is a temple weaver.  The weaver is a term to express the core group of organisers, or committee if you like.  I am also Melissa Mother, so I am the person who trains and coordinates the volunteers who step forward to donate their time to ensure that the temple is open on designated days.  I like to get involved with decorating the temple at the changing of the wheel, so a temple dresser if you like.  I make the incense and oils for the temple, which are used to smudge and clear auras.  I like to Melissa myself, and I also run the monthly New Moon healing sessions.  In my role as priestess healer, I channel the healing energy of the Goddess on the evenings of the new moon.

You are one of the few, if not only, goddess temples to have a male alter, what is this for?

This is to acknowledge the need for balance.  The goddess needs her consort, just as the moon needs the sun to shine.  We debated this for a long time, and because we felt Bristol was such a diverse pagan community, it would be irresponsible not to express the sacred male divinity as much as the female aspect.  It felt right.  I loved dressing his altar, and I love connecting with him.  To me, he is all about the sun, earth and energy.  The particular altar picture in this space is the Lord of the Wildwood, but similarly to the goddess altars, you can connect to whatever the male aspect means for you.  Natural aspects such as bones and wood are used on this altar.

Do you personally have a favourite goddess and why?

Yes, my favourite Goddess is Danu.  I am training to be a priestess of Cerridwen, and I also work with Bridget’s energy.  She is very bright and represents fire, crafts and healing, which again appeals to my craft work, my bead and woodwork along with making the incense and oils for the temple.  Working with the energy of Cerridwen prepares you for the darker episodes of life, as well as learning a great deal about the life source in herbs, trees and crystals.  I believe Danu was really the first goddess I recognised the energy of, the one who first connected with me in voice, and said ‘now all your mothering is out the way etc, I’m calling you back into the fold as we have work for you’ and I think she was the one who really set me upon my path.  I am definitely moved more towards the Celtic goddesses as opposed to a lot of the other pantheons.  The triple goddess for me is symbolised with Bridget, Danu and Cerridwen.

What are the benefits of connecting to the divine/goddess?

Connecting to goddess helps to ground you as a person. It takes a lot of internal work, and helps to connect you to each other, to the earth that we walk on and share the abundance and beauty.  It helps us to feel elevated and enlightened and to remember; because we all have past lives even though we may not all be aware of them, and to connect to our higher self.  The way I see it is what exists within us is our spirit, the essence of us that keeps us going, that brings us back from pain and wounding, the aspect of us that the world sees.  Whereas our soul is our higher self.  Our soul and spirit connect to each other, so we need to connect to our higher self in order to understand energies that are higher than ourselves.  The energy that flows within us comes from one source and is what connects us all, and we are reminded to step back and breath, smell the roses from time to time, and connecting to the goddess encourages us to do this.

Can anyone become a Melissa?

Anyone who is hungry to learn and grow and has the time and feel they can hold space, in terms of giving the right energy, keeping the temple space calm and peaceful.  It’s important to be a good ear and be respectful of people’s needs, because you will get all sorts of people in all sorts of states come through the door.  You need to be patient and reliable, because there is an element of trust.  You don’t need to be an expert in goddess stories but acknowledging that there will be a difference in people’s faith and beliefs, so you need to enable the space to be open and equal for everyone.

For anyone interested in connecting to the goddess after reading this blog, what is a good place for them to start?

There are loads and loads of books out there on goddess and goddess energy and mythology.  Books are a good place to start for knowledge but connecting to goddess comes from going out onto the land, you have to go on walks, you have to sit with your back against a tree and feel the sun or the moon on your face.  You have to tune into and experience the changing of the seasons.  Things will come to you when you feel like you are getting it right.  Join workshops, groups, talks, even FB groups – when someone posts something that feels interesting or ignites a spark within you then act on it, follow the link and explore.  The internet has been such a bonus for the pagan communities over the last 10/20 years as its brought access to groups and events.  Meeting in scared places such as Avebury, Stanton Drew and Stonehenge with like-minded people, will encourage discussion and sharing of information about groups and events that you can join and develop your path.

 

Ruth runs a part time business called ‘The Healing Couch’, offering Swedish massage, Indian head massage, crystal healing, hot stone massage and Reiki.  Ruth also offers priestess healing, which is predominantly holistic healing using an intuitive tool-set alongside Goddess energy (using Ruth as a channel).  Ruth can provide mobile services and a base at the Bristol Goddess Temple, by prior arrangement.  You can contact Ruth by email for more information or to discuss an appointment.

The Bristol Goddess Temple is currently open on Wednesdays, Saturdays and Sundays, with extended hours over yule.  It also runs regular circles and events and is growing all the time, with lots of plans for the new year.  The Bristol Goddess Temple is passionate about its Bristol heritage and is working hard to provide a space for local craft people.  The temple weavers are planning to research the Goddesses of the wider Bristol and Avon region, looking to expand on the Avalonian tradition, sourcing Goddesses relevant for the area.  You can visit Bristol Goddess Temple’s Facebook page for event details and opening hours here

 

 

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