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During my Bach training I noticed a common opinion of 5 remedies in particular, and their universal reputation as being ‘the bad guys’.

Like a lot of people I started my Bach love affair with his emergency formula, more commonly known as ‘Rescue Remedy’, but it was a good 10 years later before I discovered this wonder tincture derived from a system of 38 plant based remedies.  Wow, who knew!

I fell in love with the Bach remedies as soon as I took that first individual stock bottle, and I was desperate to know more.  This deep rooted desire led me to complete a Bach centre approved qualification and in short succession, achieving my BFRP status and completing all 3 levels in only 10 months.  During my level 3 training at the Bach Centre, which is the final qualification required to practice as a Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner (BFRP), I started to notice how difficult myself and my fellow students found it to approach these 5 in mock consultations.  There was an apparent fear of upsetting or offending the client by suggesting they take one or more of these remedies, and almost a personal insult if it was suggested you need to take it too!

Later after qualifying, I met with a few BFRP’s and self taught flower practitioners in and outside of my area, by way of wishing to witness and connect to the different ways in which people work with and love this natural system of healing.  I remember meeting one therapist for a coffee and I ordered a water which was made by a company called ‘Willow’.  When I excitedly pointed out the synchronicity with Willow being one of the Bach remedies, she said ‘no-one wants to be a Willow!’  and that always stuck with me, as at the time I tended to agree.  But this collective opinion doesn’t help the undeserving stigma attached to these remedies.

I have been utilising Bach flower remedies personally, and now professionally, for some years.  Learning with every new situation and experience, the many layered intricacies and subsequent positive reactions people have when releasing these conditioned ways and emotional traumas.  Together with my Bach qualification as a strong foundation, this has taken me on a real journey of discovery, which never ceases to amaze me.  Through meeting many wonderful clients and various holistic practitioners who use the remedies in their work, I have witnessed these same 5 remedies have a negative ripple in the wider community when my suggestion has been to take them.  When my ego isn’t in check and my own insecurities of ‘impostor syndrome’ raises its ugly head, then even I as a BFRP can still find it hard to suggest to clients that they need one of these 5.  Especially as these remedies in particular might appear more through interactive behaviour, aura or body language in a consultation, rather than actual words spoken by the client, which doesn’t give me an easy route in to suggesting they take it.

So, without any further ado it probably makes sense at this point to share what the famous five are!

They are Beech, Chicory, Heather, Vine and Willow.

 

Now, it’s important to mention that this is my opinion and that it is stated nowhere in any publication or learning tool that these 5 remedies are the bad boys of Bach.  It’s merely a collective observation, together with my own preconceived opinions at the time of learning, which made me realise just how many ways resistance to the Bach system and in turn our own healing can occur.

The reason I think these remedies are so difficult to broach is because they all relate to the ego and have an element of self-centredness, which lets face it, no-one wants to admit is out of balance!  When we tend to be in any one of these states, or have them as a ‘type’ remedy, we like the sound of our own voice in many ways.  Our connections with others become limited due to our overwhelming need to be heard, validated or the most important person in the room.  Our feelings, opinions and emotions take hierarchy over others whilst in the negative aspect of these remedies, and we often can’t see this before taking them.

But what I have learnt through going on my own personal journey with these remedies, and in turn seeing my clients taking these remedies at the appropriate point of presenting; is that the only way to gain the healing you seek is to address every aspect of your wholeness, and that includes the ego and the shadows.  There is no negative connotation to these remedies, its a myth.

Beech‘s in the positive will be strong people who are able to see the beauty in every situation.  They will be tolerant and considerate types, who are able to value the individuality of each person and learn from any differences.

Chicory‘s in the positive will be loving, open hearted, mindful and selfless.  They will be willing to constantly check in with their ego and to take self acceptance for when it’s out of balance, correcting it with compassion and independence.

Heather‘s in the positive will be those who are caring and close to hand.  They will be able to communicate well, striking up conversations across a broad scale and on all levels.  They will be great at ‘reading a room’ and a situation, knowing when it’s appropriate to share and when it’s right to hold back and allow others the floor.

Vine‘s, we all need Vines.  Some of the strongest leaders and advocates will be Vine’s.  In the positive, Vine’s are powerful types who can really lead from the front, whilst being flexible in that approach.  They will understand the need to see plans through, but not to exclude or dominate others in doing so.  A positive Vine is one that softens and climbs whilst encouraging others without agenda.

Willow‘s, contrary to what was said before, everyone want’s to be a Willow!  For a positive Willow will be forgiving, generous, accepting and adaptive.  They will be able to support others and relish in their successes, even when they have their own troubles, and are able to see the lessons in all situations, even the bad ones!

Now you have heard all of that, how can any of those remedies be negative eh? 

To explain the remedies we often need to look at the negative in order to identify why we might need them, and perhaps that’s where we have gone wrong.  We all grow up learning ‘good and bad emotions’, and the 5 aforementioned remedies feed into what is perceived to be the ‘bad’ ones.  But when you go on a healing journey you begin to understand that there is no such thing as good and bad emotions.  To be whole, we must embrace every emotion.  We must learn to balance them and find a point of equilibrium, which puts us no more in the positive than it does the negative.  We find harmony in every characteristic and every unique trait, discovering new ways to bring the best versions of ourselves to the table.

So, next time a BFRP suggests one of these 5, or you see traits of yourself in any of these remedies, then step aside from the ego and think of the positive aspect of each remedy and just what it can bring to your life.  Don’t see this as a character flaw or a slight on your part, for we will all be every single one of those 38 remedies at multiple times on our personal journey.

The best thing you can do for yourself when working with the remedies is to take the ones you don’t want to.  As when taken at the right point in your journey, they can bring the biggest breakthroughs!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Chicorium Intybus is more commonly known as Chicory and this beautiful perennial is a member of the dandelion family.

Better known for its cultivation in the use of food; with its edible roots being used in salads, as a coffee substitute and even a good source of fibre.  But as always we are not looking at the herbal benefits of the plant or consuming the plant at all.  We harness our wonder-juice from the petal’s energy! Common Chicory flowers are a beautiful cornflower-Blue in appearance and to me present as a rather vintage looking specimen and something you might expect to find growing wildly in a picture-postcard house in the country.

The Chicory remedy is one that I feel carries unjustified bad press, as those who need it are often too proud to admit that they may be exhibiting the negative aspects of this essence.  But personally I believe it’s a remedy that can help absolutely everyone on their path to health and happiness, for learning how to contribute to the world from a pure and unconditional place is the key to unlocking every door.  Utilised by those who have a tendency to control or even manipulate, Chicory’s can be emotionally cunning and even like to play games.  They are types who fuss and over-care in many ways, often with the best of intentions, but nonetheless this can be their downfall and effect their relationships on every level.

Chicory is so relevant in today’s world, for no-one is exempt from giving without wanting to receive somewhere further down the line, whether consciously or subconsciously.  We are yet to fully master the art of unconditional love as a human race.

In the positive aspect a Chicory person is very loving.  When someone is upset they will be first on the scene with the hugs or words of encouragement.  They tend to be kind and thoughtful people who are often highly sensitive, perhaps  with an empathetic or clairsentient skill set.  They may likely have professions that support or care for people, and perhaps even hold space or run groups through paid or voluntary positions that help people to awaken or get back on their feet.

A chicory may often have good intentions, and will be a very loving and caring person in the positive.  They will want others to feel loved, appreciated and supported, and perhaps for this reason tend to be types who give others the love and affection they didn’t receive themselves as children or indeed adults. They may possibly find themselves in relationships where they give the most emotionally, and can unknowingly seek out people who are damaged souls or need ‘saving’ in some way, of course the Chicory feels that they are the one to save them!  A Chicory needs to feel needed.  They like to keep their family and loved ones close and they can often feel lonely if those around them stray too far or can’t be reached easily.  They tend to look for love in all the wrong places and are likely drawn to people who are emotionally cold or have narcissistic tendencies, perhaps enjoying deep down winning them over or the thrill of the chase.  Chicory’s can be manipulative in nature and some of the biggest game players in love, due to prioritising their own needs, validation and ego boosts at the end of the day.  They can be ignorant to others feelings as a result.

In terms of children, chicory infants are likely to be clingy.  They can be the toddlers who constantly seek attention, being very loud until they get it, and often play parents/grandparents off against each other to get what they want.  They may play up at the nursery or school gates, with the aim of leaving parents feeling guilty for not giving them what they want, even if they have unreasonable demands!  They’re clever little sprogs and quite likely to be able to turn on the water works at the drop of a hat, or delay bedtime in some way.  When looking at animals, it can be similar.  Those dogs that bark or whimper on demand until you acknowledge their presence.  Or perhaps pets that suffer from separation anxiety, making it hard for fur baby mums and dads to leave them or put their own needs first.  They might even like to leave you a present on the carpet just to punish you, even when the back door is open!

Chicory’s look for validation in many ways.  They need to feel loved, wanted and important to others and in turn they need to feel that their love and kindness is not taken for granted or rejected in some way.   As always there is a scale and at the end of the scale may well be someone with deeply narcissistic tendencies or someone who goes out of their way to control and manipulate people and situations until they get what they want, but at the beginning of the scale can be the simplest of behaviours that we all do from time to time.  Such as only leaving a review for a service if you get one in return, or following someone on social media until they un-follow you, sending a card with the subtle expectation of getting one back when you celebrate similar successes or even expecting our friends and partners to behave in a certain way.  It’s almost an attitude of ‘well I done this for you so you should do this for me’.

A Chicory will have high expectations of people and relationships, as they will often be people who go above and beyond to support others.  In the positive Chicory’s will be generous with their affection, gifts, time and love.   But what they often fail to see is that it will always be controlled in some way; as if a partner, child or anyone for that matter doesn’t exhibit their love in similar ways when the chicory needs it returned then there will be all hell to pay!  The chicory will feel slighted, hurt and even unloved as a result.  They may even go so far as to punish their loved ones by withholding acts of love or affection to teach them a lesson or just because they find it so hard to forgive and let go.

I believe that the underlying block for many chicory’s is governed by the heart chakra. As a result the remedy can present in everyday common traits that often stem from the recipient seeking some kind of validation or approval, or perhaps from feelings of inadequacy or fear of losing what they love.  Chicory’s will find it hard to let their tribe, family or loved ones fly and grow as this can be seen as a betrayal in some way or a rejection, as though a Chicory isn’t enough on their own.

Not as domineering as say a Vine, a chicory will be controlling.  To over-care is equally as abusive as to under-care and either behaviour calls for a toxic relationship.  Chicory’s fuss, particularly over children (even grown up ones!) and loved ones, and will want to keep asking people if they are alright when ill or will need to be involved in nursing them back to health whether physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually!  Chicory’s will want to remain in the lives of loved ones, especially children, and even ex-partners by way of influencing their decisions and shaping their paths.   There are so many examples, very simple and common examples, that demonstrate the presence of an unbalanced Chicory in need of the Bach remedy.   That’s because I believe the root cause is a deep desire to feel loved, and mistakenly Chicory’s don’t often know how to give or receive that equally and without condition.

I do believe that Chicory is a real ‘journey’ remedy and it’s one that I have really come to respect…I could talk about it for hours!  It’s one that presents in many subtle ways yet can also be a real ‘break through’ remedy when taken consciously as it helps us to break free from toxic relationships and conditioned behaviours.  It’s one that may take a BFRP to suggest before you even notice you need it, as it’s hard to see past the ego and the negative aspects of the remedy when you are at self-selection stage.  But like all remedies there really is a scale and Chicory is a remedy that will need to be taken for longer periods by some, and occasional use for others.  Either way it’s a hugely empowering and loving remedy.  Perhaps thinking less about whether you resonate with some of the negative aspects (and I have only highlighted some of the more obvious scenarios here), look at the positives that you can get from taking the remedy.  It invites more love into your life.  More openness in relationships and love without restriction.  It allows us to forgive friends and loved ones where we perhaps haven’t been able to before as they didn’t behave in ways we expected.   It opens up dialogue and promotes forgiveness and acceptance.  It supports abundance and freedom.  And above all else it encourages selfless love, which once given out will be returned to you ten fold.  It allows people to grow and fly, and in turn yourself to do the same as you are no longer so consumed by your love and pain for others.

There is a saying that seems fitting for so many Chicory’s in the negative,

“If you have the opportunity to treat them the same way they treated you, do differently”.

Yours in love and flowery light,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.

 

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