There seems to be an influx of visiting bees in our conservatory lately, and today’s guest looked like nothing short of the Queen!

I have always loved nature, preferring to be outdoors (contrary to what those around me may have to say) from a young age, but it’s really been the last few years that my love of wildlife, animals, fauna and flora has really come alive.

I think nature is sent to not only provide for us, but to lift our moods and enhance our connection and purpose, although sometimes it takes going on a deeply inward journey in order to truly appreciate it.  When you awaken the goddess within, when you hear her cries and answer her calls I think you naturally become more sentient, more empathetic and can see the way that animals and nature (when kept alive) fit into the great wheel of life, as if they were fundamental cogs in the machines workings.

For me personally, I can see that my authentic self looks like a wild woman at the core, but somewhere along the line she got lost and scared.  She became frightened of spiders, scared of mice, too afraid to pick up and talk to a rat or walk through a field of cows, and that makes me sad.  It’s only now that I am seeing such sadness in those learned behaviours as I realise that I have missed out on so much, and am having to remove these layers and get back to the essence of who I am much later in life.  Somewhat behind where I should be as a result. Everything I do to heal and connect to my higher power and inner wounds takes me ever closer to this wild woman; and she is someone I like and respect a lot more than the girl I have allowed myself to be up until now.

But the problem comes with the fact that I put a great deal of pressure on myself.  To love nature I feel I must be able to roll around in it, covered in spiders and loving the process somewhere in a remote campsite…but that’s sadly not the case!

I do love camping, but the point is I am still learning to love spiders!  With these high expectations and now the line of work I find myself in, I feel it’s somehow my duty and reputation at stake to be at one with nature…including knowing how to save every bee who comes to Bristol for some time out!

However, whilst watching this bee take what I hope is a nap in our ambient temperature glass house, I began to panic and take an unhealthy responsibility for nursing this bee back to health.  Even my Mum has faith in me that I can save the day, which only ceases to add to my own self–administered pressure!  I opted for the ‘go to’ reaction of giving it a water and sugar solution, ensuring I took my instructions from a reputable Google search such as the RSPB or Wildlife Trust, but he didn’t seem interested.  My next step is always to sit as close as I feel comfortable to do so and send this striped fella some Reiki…which has been known to help in the past.  Even Bach Rescue Remedy can help when diluted!  I sat there and channelled my inner Wild Steve England (read Steve’s Honeysuckle guest blog here) , wishing I had his skills and confidence to pick said bee up and administer the sugar water…but I realised I was scared.  I was a Rock Rose level of scared, yet I am not sure why, as I wanted to save this bee more than anything.  So why couldn’t I just ‘get over it’ and help him when my desire to do so seemed to outweigh my fear?

I left the conservatory, with the spoon within the bee’s reach and went back upstairs.  I sat there restless and began to cry.  I went back downstairs 5-10 minutes later and started the process all over again.  And this rig-moral of going back and forth to the wilting bee went on for half an hour, maybe more!  Goggle searches such as ‘how do you know if a bee is sleeping or dying’ happened, tweets to Wild Steve for advice and a lot more empathetic tears shed on behalf of the Queen all followed this exhausting process.  Until I sat there and the penny dropped…. I needed to work with Pine…AGAIN!

Pine is one of my ‘type’ remedies and the negative aspects of the remedy underpins the majority of my feelings, outlooks and interactions, and this bee served as a reminder today that I still have intricate layers of Pine to balance.  For I took the blame for this bee and sole responsibility for it’s predicament.  I somehow felt guilty for the fact that he is sleeping, resting or heaven forbid preparing himself to cross the rainbow bridge.  I was sat there beating myself up for not being able to pick him up or remove my fear to get close enough to him to help.  I felt angry with myself and stupid for not instinctively knowing what to do with him and how to save him.  After all I am a ‘healer’ right?  Therefore it’s ‘my job’ to know how to help every living and sentient being and to not fear mother nature herself.  It just didn’t sit right with me and from that one flying visit I had spiralled into a deep self-reproach and fear, all from a situation that unless I morphed into David Attenborough I don’t think I could have done much more!

But the idea for this blog came as I sat staring at the bee for the 40th time.  Berating myself for not being a good enough healer, for not understanding nature enough and only having the useless and emotional connection of an empath, a gutless empath at that!  For what good is feeling the bee and witnessing its struggles if I can’t do anything to help.  My self talk was terrible and I really heard it today.  Why on earth was I feeling as though this was my fault?  Why did I think I ‘should’ know what to do?  What was I so afraid of?  All of these questions (and more) served as gentle reminders of my next layers presenting, Pine and Rock Rose.  Perhaps this yellow and black wonder was merely sent as a sign of what I need to do next, which remedies would help me unlock my potential. Perhaps he was sent to show me how to step bravely into the ‘fear bubble’ as Ant Middleton would say.   Or perhaps he was just tired, and nothing more!

The moral of the story is that I am human.  Sometimes I don’t know what to do in situations for the best.  Sometimes I can have deep connections, but be too fearful to see them through as my own emotions take over.   And that’s what this little guy was showing me today.  My best in any given moment is my best.  It’s not my fault he was there, and whilst he may have boded better in Steve or David’s house, he was given love and attention perhaps more than he would have been somewhere else.  So that needs to be enough.  With Pine and Rock Rose, which I will now prepare in a mixing bottle to see me through this next stage of my journey, I am sure I will be better prepared for the next bee-autiful guest who stops by.

Yours in love and light,



BEE-cause I thought you would like an update: Alas, good news!  Writing this blog inspired me to go back downstairs and to try again, with more determination and trust that my loving intention could replace my fear.  I made a solution of sugar and water and added Olive Bach remedy (for tiredness) and Rescue Remedy (to give this guy back its senses) and I added it to one of my Bach mixing bottles so I could administer it to the bees mouth, one drop at a time.  Within a few seconds of doing this he came alive before my very eyes and flew off as if by magic.  Thanks for the lesson little bee, god speed!

It’s important not to give bees honey, or to use certain sugars (such as Demerara).  For more information on how to revive tired bees, you can visit ‘save the bees’ website here


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Perhaps the origins of this Bach remedy need no introduction, for it is taken from the infamous Willow tree.

There are around 400 species of this deciduous tree and shrub and they thrive in moist soils, wetlands and cool climates.  The tree will search deeply in its widespread roots for water to feed from, which is unsurprising when we compare that a Willow state will find ways to root deeper in its surroundings to feed from its own problem.

Although the Bach remedy isn’t taken from the species of ‘Weeping Willow’, I find it easier to remember its purpose when we look at it from this point of reference.  For Willows do weep.   Whether physically through crying, or through their self-obsessed behaviours, they have a tendency to see the sadness in life’s lessons and difficulties.  They are self-pitying, self-denying and all consumed, often with a sulky, sullen or miserable disposition.  There’s an air of pessimism about a Willow, though unlike Gorse they often haven’t even tried for a period before losing hope, as they’re more likely to have given up at the first hurdle.  Perhaps as soon as they have been given a diagnosis they have surrendered to the sadness or unfairness of that.  Or perhaps when life just feels too tough they have become all consumed by it and internalised that pain to the point where it’s difficult to escape.  Willows will feel that they have been dealt a tough hand in life, that life is unfair in many ways and they don’t deserve their fate.  They are resigned to their luck, or rather lack of, and often won’t try and make changes to steer their thoughts or paths into a more positive direction as a result.

Willow’s are not only the hosts of a self-administered pity party, but often the only one invited!

Don’t get me wrong, like every Bach remedy, the feelings presenting may well be justified.  Especially in the case of chronic illness, where I believe you have every right to feel sorry for yourself and to not see a way out.  Battling a daily disability of any kind makes life even harder to manoeuvre, and therefore it’s easy to subconsciously slip into a Willow state of mind.  There is a feeling of unfairness, ‘poor me’ or injustice.  But when unbalanced, these feelings grow roots, and they become deep resentment and bitterness, which only feeds into illness and gives it permission to sprout deeper problems and additional metaphorical trees that become harder to chop down!

Living in a Willow state can be based on an unrealistic view of the world around you, almost as if you are working from everyone else’s ‘show reels’ rather than their very unenviable reality.  As listed in Healing Herbs, “Bach inferred that Willow people are concerned by their success in the material world.”  We see ourselves as the victim in a wallowing Willow mindset and it can be a very dark and sad place to be.  Feeling as if everyone else is enjoying life whilst we battle health, demons, addictions or troubles of any kind, magnified if we do not feel that others deserve their good fortune.  Willow is a place of resentment, of bitterness, of darkness and more importantly it’s a place of ego and self-centredness.  Perhaps without meaning to be, a Willow can’t see how their attitude when left unaddressed for too long, can become a bit of an energy hoover to be around or someone who people wish to avoid due to their inability to pull themselves out of it.  It’s not a sympathetic depression, and more of an inability to take personal responsibility, for the Willow is often the one sabotaging their own success, and keeping themselves imprisoned in darkness.

Willows are consumed by their state of mind and can be sulky in nature.  I find its a remedy of self-sabotage and sometimes can come from a fear of success, so we keep ourselves small and consumed by our pain.  Whether that be resentment, bitterness or sadness.  They will be feeding into every negative emotion and nourishing and giving their illness (or potential illness) more and more fuel to take over their lives.  It’s lonely and it’s difficult to admit when we’re in a Willow state, as it’s one of the remedies that often gets given bad press (blog to follow about this!)  But it’s deeply restorative when taken.

When we feel down we tend to think of Gorse, Sweet Chestnut or Gentian (to name but a few) but don’t underestimate what a sad and lonely place willow can be.  When we’ve reached a place of Willow we’re often all consumed by our own negatives, insecurities, demons, health complaints and outlooks.  We are usually at the stage where our self talk is critical and the way we see the world is through a tinge of resentment and unfairness.  We see others getting the opportunities we want and we see life in an unrealistic way, putting ourselves at the centre of that poverty.  It feels like a place of giving up and giving in, as there is a loss of hope that I think can be as strong as the aforementioned remedies.  Because we feel down, sorry for ourselves, fed up and like life has dealt us the crappiest of hands!  What have we done to deserve this fate?  Why are we here nursing our wounds when others seem to breeze through life unaffected and unscathed?  Any question that usually has an undertone of ‘why me’ or ‘poor me’ indicates Willow!  There’s a sense of injustice and it’s a bitter pill to swallow.

When you get to Willow I think it’s because you have often ignored the warning signs to intervene  in the flow, and to balance characteristics and emotions.  You’ve given too much love for example and not nipped it in the bud with Chicory.  You’ve not set clear boundaries or expectations and missed the call of Centaury.  It’s a domino effect and Willow passing moods can often be avoided with continuous, regular and appropriate remedy selection.  Of course with every remedy there are deeper layers, and Willow can sit there for some time, especially when there have been big let downs, heartbreaks, ill health or trauma.

There’s a real anger and frustration with Willow.  But unlike Holly, it feels more of an internalised loathing that comes from the depths of unjust, and I believe it’s often felt before a big energetic breakthrough.  It’s not outwardly angry at others and more of turning this in on oneself and clouding the way we see the rest of the world as a result.

I have picked Willow as the focus this month as I have seen it in a collective, including my own behaviour, perhaps on a much subtler scale than I have mentioned here.  I have seen those who have missed remedies they should have taken and as a result perhaps haven’t set clear boundaries for themselves or their businesses.  Through missing these earlier indications they have slipped into resentment towards those who have unsurprisingly taken advantage of their good natures.  I have seen those who haven’t learnt lessons and therefore become bitter about situations, blaming others and not taking any personal responsibility.  I have seen those consumed by their own limitations in illness and as a result falling into a dark place of injustice, not allowing them to see that those who seemingly do well around them are battling just as much as them…but perhaps aren’t screaming about it quite so much.   I have seen those who speak with venom and bitterness, because they haven’t been able to forgive themselves or others as their past traumas resurface for healing.   It’s a subtle Willow that runs through the air at the moment, and it’s unsurprising whilst we all realign and adjust to the many energetic changes and challenges we’ve had to deal with recently.  Social media, politics and TV are becoming triggers for Willow and whilst we tend to think of Holly for jealousy, there can be a green streak in a Willow, but they will more come from the stance of ‘it’s not fair’ and ‘poor me’.  Linked more to Chicory, Willow is a place of ego and self-centred behaviour as I mentioned before.  It’s all about the Willow state and they struggle to celebrate in others successes or to connect meaningfully with others as a result of being too lost in their own affairs.  It’s a real place of negativity breads negativity and bitterness attracts bitterness.

At this time we are being encouraged to forgive.  To forgive ourselves and to forgive others.  Forgiveness is a fundamental part of healing and Willow is the key.  I link Willow to Holly and Chicory as I feel all three remedies are amazing for the heart chakra by encouraging forgiveness and to invite heartfelt connection to our lives.

Willow really shouldn’t carry the bad press it does.  A lot like the tree, Willow can bend, and it can adapt, finding the positives in its surroundings and own ability.  We all find life too tough to deal with sometimes and we all struggle to move on from past traumas with pure forgiveness in our hearts.  As a result we stay locked inside these triggers and prisons, even when we think we have moved on.  Those battling disabilities need Willow even more, as my darlings life is that much harder for you, and Willow can be such a natural state as a result of your personal fights to survive and be heard.  It’s less about wallowing or weeping with Willow and more about replacing the darkness of that water with light, soaking that up into your roots and very being.

Forgiveness sets you free.  Willow sets you free.








PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.


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Today I am making the long overdue decision to free myself from perfection.

As I spent the morning in tears, I realised that this emotional eruption has once again all come from this need to be the ‘perfect’ person.  The perfect daughter, the perfect friend, the perfect sister, the perfect girlfriend, the perfect weight, the perfect Mum to one very demanding fur baby, the perfect light-worker and even the perfect loader of the dishwasher….you name it, I want to be perfect at it!  Everything I do is steeped in this deep desire to please, to be liked, to be enough and to some how prove to others that I am worth the air I breathe or their investment, and it is becoming exhausting!

I am not perfect, far from it, and I don’t claim to be.  I make mistakes, I try too hard, I overthink, I care far too much about the feelings and opinions of others and my self-talk is very cruel.  I remember feeling ‘imperfect’ from the age of 2, and different and on the outside every year since that tender age.  Never really sure, even to this date, just why I don’t fit in or just how to channel my shadows and imperfections into something to be proud of.  But what I am now realising is that perfection is an illusion.  Something that can only be represented as a hypothetical carrot that dangles just that tad out of reach in front of you.  Yet the reality is that that carrot is further than you think.  In fact that carrot doesn’t even exist!  Magnify this unrealistic perfection with my Bach type being ‘Pine’, and you have a recipe for disaster.  For when I feel less than perfect or a situation doesn’t quite go to plan then I will revert to my tendency to blame myself and to punish myself by moving that perfect carrot even further away from my reach.

Perfection comes from a source of comparison.  If you didn’t compare the beautiful rose to the rose with noticeable marks and defects then you wouldn’t even know what a beautiful rose was.  For every rose would be on an equal playing field and beautiful in its own right, just as it is.  The rose becomes flawed and criticised because it doesn’t shape up to its blooming neighbour.  And here lies the problem.  Stop the comparisons and you therefore stop the ideal of what perfection is.

Sure we all need to strive to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be, but does that mean striving for perfection?

What does perfection even look like anyway?
Does it have a colour, a face, a name, an identity, a certain size body, or perhaps a minimum amount of tasks that we should excel in?  Is there such a thing as the perfect skill or talent to validate our placement on the Perfect-ometer? When you reach perfection do you graduate with some kind of honours and a certificate that tells the world you did it, you achieved a perfect state.  NO!  of course not.  And that’s why it seems madness that so many of us want to be perfect, when we already know full well that there is no such destination as “Perfectsville” and perfection is simply subjective and a state of peace within ourselves.  It’s a ridiculous notion that so many of us hold on to and today I have decided I am ending my relationship with it and I am starting an affair with being perfectly imperfect!

I have lost count of the number of years that I have tried to be what I thought I needed to be.  I have behaved in ways that danced to everyone else’s tune apart from my own, and as a result I have reinvented myself time and time again following what felt like failure.  And when you strive for perfection, the fall is always that much harder to take.  I simply decided today that I cannot cry any more tears or mourn the loss of the ‘perfect Ami.’  I cannot feel that I am less than acceptable as a human because of how someone else see’s me or interprets my words or behaviours.  I cannot strive to be this being of light who doesn’t hurt, feel pain or have opinions and needs.  I am human, and albeit a human in service, I am making mistakes and learning just like everyone else, and that is a fundamental part of life and any healing journey worth being on.

They say that the circles in which you keep make a difference to how you feel.  Surround yourself with positive people and you will feel positive.  Surround yourself with negative people and you will feel negative.  Whilst I agree (particularly as an empath) that the energy around you has a huge affect on your mood and behaviour, I also realised today that if their aren’t nerves to hit then people can’t hit them!  Whilst I am going along, subconsciously striving to be this perfect person who everyone will like, I am exposing myself to harder falls and more criticism.  The main factor there, is that as I feel everything BUT perfect, I am too emotionally reactive and responsive to said criticism and judgements…because these people are only mirroring the negatives I feel about myself and highlighting the flaws in my own perfect plan.  So rather than just be selective of my circles, I need to continue to work on the rawness of my wounds and tend to the idealised perfection that seeps from this opening.  I need to learn to embrace my shadow sides rather than hide them or be ashamed of them.  I need to understand that it’s none of my business what people say or think about me, nor do their opinions and misjudgements define me.  I define me.  I need to be at peace with myself.  I need to find perfection in my wholeness.

Sometimes in a world of modification, air-brushing, filters and show reels it seems as if we are all fighting a losing battle to expose and challenge perfectionism.  For we purchase flowers for our homes that only look ‘perfect’ and like they have plenty of life left in them, celebs continue to have their unique body scars and marks ‘touched up’ in photos in order to appeal to a larger audience and we live in a time when even a fruit or vegetable can be genetically modified or enhanced!  Nothing seems real anymore, so how do we learn to accept our perfectly imperfect selves, when it seems just about everything around us is still so outwardly striving for perfection and a mass market.

It was Dr Seuss who said:

‘Today you are you!  That is truer than true! There is no-one alive who is you-er than you!

How amazing is that quote?! Those simple lines serve as a reminder that we are who we are, and the very fact that there is no one who can be “you-er than you” just shows how perfect and individual we already are.

If you are feeling less than perfect today, please be kind to yourself.  Chances are your light is so much brighter than you could ever imagine, just as you are.

Yours in love and unashamedly imperfect light,




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Chicorium Intybus is more commonly known as Chicory and this beautiful perennial is a member of the dandelion family.

Better known for its cultivation in the use of food; with its edible roots being used in salads, as a coffee substitute and even a good source of fibre.  But as always we are not looking at the herbal benefits of the plant or consuming the plant at all.  We harness our wonder-juice from the petal’s energy! Common Chicory flowers are a beautiful cornflower-Blue in appearance and to me present as a rather vintage looking specimen and something you might expect to find growing wildly in a picture-postcard house in the country.

The Chicory remedy is one that I feel carries unjustified bad press, as those who need it are often too proud to admit that they may be exhibiting the negative aspects of this essence.  But personally I believe it’s a remedy that can help absolutely everyone on their path to health and happiness, for learning how to contribute to the world from a pure and unconditional place is the key to unlocking every door.  Utilised by those who have a tendency to control or even manipulate, Chicory’s can be emotionally cunning and even like to play games.  They are types who fuss and over-care in many ways, often with the best of intentions, but nonetheless this can be their downfall and effect their relationships on every level.

Chicory is so relevant in today’s world, for no-one is exempt from giving without wanting to receive somewhere further down the line, whether consciously or subconsciously.  We are yet to fully master the art of unconditional love as a human race.

In the positive aspect a Chicory person is very loving.  When someone is upset they will be first on the scene with the hugs or words of encouragement.  They tend to be kind and thoughtful people who are often highly sensitive, perhaps  with an empathetic or clairsentient skill set.  They may likely have professions that support or care for people, and perhaps even hold space or run groups through paid or voluntary positions that help people to awaken or get back on their feet.

A chicory may often have good intentions, and will be a very loving and caring person in the positive.  They will want others to feel loved, appreciated and supported, and perhaps for this reason tend to be types who give others the love and affection they didn’t receive themselves as children or indeed adults. They may possibly find themselves in relationships where they give the most emotionally, and can unknowingly seek out people who are damaged souls or need ‘saving’ in some way, of course the Chicory feels that they are the one to save them!  A Chicory needs to feel needed.  They like to keep their family and loved ones close and they can often feel lonely if those around them stray too far or can’t be reached easily.  They tend to look for love in all the wrong places and are likely drawn to people who are emotionally cold or have narcissistic tendencies, perhaps enjoying deep down winning them over or the thrill of the chase.  Chicory’s can be manipulative in nature and some of the biggest game players in love, due to prioritising their own needs, validation and ego boosts at the end of the day.  They can be ignorant to others feelings as a result.

In terms of children, chicory infants are likely to be clingy.  They can be the toddlers who constantly seek attention, being very loud until they get it, and often play parents/grandparents off against each other to get what they want.  They may play up at the nursery or school gates, with the aim of leaving parents feeling guilty for not giving them what they want, even if they have unreasonable demands!  They’re clever little sprogs and quite likely to be able to turn on the water works at the drop of a hat, or delay bedtime in some way.  When looking at animals, it can be similar.  Those dogs that bark or whimper on demand until you acknowledge their presence.  Or perhaps pets that suffer from separation anxiety, making it hard for fur baby mums and dads to leave them or put their own needs first.  They might even like to leave you a present on the carpet just to punish you, even when the back door is open!

Chicory’s look for validation in many ways.  They need to feel loved, wanted and important to others and in turn they need to feel that their love and kindness is not taken for granted or rejected in some way.   As always there is a scale and at the end of the scale may well be someone with deeply narcissistic tendencies or someone who goes out of their way to control and manipulate people and situations until they get what they want, but at the beginning of the scale can be the simplest of behaviours that we all do from time to time.  Such as only leaving a review for a service if you get one in return, or following someone on social media until they un-follow you, sending a card with the subtle expectation of getting one back when you celebrate similar successes or even expecting our friends and partners to behave in a certain way.  It’s almost an attitude of ‘well I done this for you so you should do this for me’.

A Chicory will have high expectations of people and relationships, as they will often be people who go above and beyond to support others.  In the positive Chicory’s will be generous with their affection, gifts, time and love.   But what they often fail to see is that it will always be controlled in some way; as if a partner, child or anyone for that matter doesn’t exhibit their love in similar ways when the chicory needs it returned then there will be all hell to pay!  The chicory will feel slighted, hurt and even unloved as a result.  They may even go so far as to punish their loved ones by withholding acts of love or affection to teach them a lesson or just because they find it so hard to forgive and let go.

I believe that the underlying block for many chicory’s is governed by the heart chakra. As a result the remedy can present in everyday common traits that often stem from the recipient seeking some kind of validation or approval, or perhaps from feelings of inadequacy or fear of losing what they love.  Chicory’s will find it hard to let their tribe, family or loved ones fly and grow as this can be seen as a betrayal in some way or a rejection, as though a Chicory isn’t enough on their own.

Not as domineering as say a Vine, a chicory will be controlling.  To over-care is equally as abusive as to under-care and either behaviour calls for a toxic relationship.  Chicory’s fuss, particularly over children (even grown up ones!) and loved ones, and will want to keep asking people if they are alright when ill or will need to be involved in nursing them back to health whether physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually!  Chicory’s will want to remain in the lives of loved ones, especially children, and even ex-partners by way of influencing their decisions and shaping their paths.   There are so many examples, very simple and common examples, that demonstrate the presence of an unbalanced Chicory in need of the Bach remedy.   That’s because I believe the root cause is a deep desire to feel loved, and mistakenly Chicory’s don’t often know how to give or receive that equally and without condition.

I do believe that Chicory is a real ‘journey’ remedy and it’s one that I have really come to respect…I could talk about it for hours!  It’s one that presents in many subtle ways yet can also be a real ‘break through’ remedy when taken consciously as it helps us to break free from toxic relationships and conditioned behaviours.  It’s one that may take a BFRP to suggest before you even notice you need it, as it’s hard to see past the ego and the negative aspects of the remedy when you are at self-selection stage.  But like all remedies there really is a scale and Chicory is a remedy that will need to be taken for longer periods by some, and occasional use for others.  Either way it’s a hugely empowering and loving remedy.  Perhaps thinking less about whether you resonate with some of the negative aspects (and I have only highlighted some of the more obvious scenarios here), look at the positives that you can get from taking the remedy.  It invites more love into your life.  More openness in relationships and love without restriction.  It allows us to forgive friends and loved ones where we perhaps haven’t been able to before as they didn’t behave in ways we expected.   It opens up dialogue and promotes forgiveness and acceptance.  It supports abundance and freedom.  And above all else it encourages selfless love, which once given out will be returned to you ten fold.  It allows people to grow and fly, and in turn yourself to do the same as you are no longer so consumed by your love and pain for others.

There is a saying that seems fitting for so many Chicory’s in the negative,

“If you have the opportunity to treat them the same way they treated you, do differently”.

Yours in love and flowery light,








PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.


Sharing is caring!  Sharing my blogs, quoting my insights, and your continued support is always appreciated.  However, if you reference any of my work then please credit Honeysuckle Healing, and include links to the appropriate piece so that others may benefit from these tools too.  I work hard to ‘give back’ to my community through my free blogs and self-empowering online content.  I can only continue to meet this dedication through your respect and recognition.  Thank you

If you’re reading this blog then you’re likely to have already been using the Bach remedies at home or have had success with one or more bespoke blends from a BFRP.

Either way it sounds as if the remedies are working for you and you are feeling empowered in the process; perhaps now considering taking over the reins of remedy self-selection as a result…which is great!

Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner’s (BFRP’s) work to a strict framework and code of practice, as detailed in the legacy of Dr Bach and upheld by the Bach training centre in Oxfordshire. One of the main requirements of a BFRP is that they give their clients the tools to help themselves, which is an expectation I feel confident all BFRP’s are passionate about upholding. For this reason I personally share a lot of my knowledge, perhaps on occasions going over and above to simplify the system so as to enable many people to access it. I do this through blogs, self-empowering newsletters and detailed consultations and workshops, all with an aim of supporting people to feel confident in using the remedies for themselves. Therefore, it is something I come to expect when my clients start to build their own remedy stock and go it alone, or perhaps even feel inspired enough to do the Bach training for themselves, which I take as a huge complement rather than an insult.  However, there can be some flaws in this plan as sometimes people forget to ‘check in’ with a BFRP, or try to run before they can walk in some cases, which can have an effect on their progress and Bach relationship.

The answer to the opening question is that it’s a personal choice. There is no set time period for starting to use the remedies at home for yourself or indeed to build up your remedy collection, and it comes down to confidence and an ongoing willingness to learn.

The only thing to bear in mind, and I say this from personal experience, is that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Although the Bach system is marketed as a self-help system and one that prides itself on simplicity, I do feel that there are more complexities to the system and the remedies than perhaps books portray, which makes it open to errors when we go it alone too soon.  And as we all know, when we don’t get the results we want we tend to blame the system or therapy rather than perhaps admit that there are holes in our own knowledge.

Of course, there is no right or wrong and you cannot cause any harm if you select the ‘wrong’ remedy for example, but I just don’t think you get as much from it as a system of healing or in turn find it so easy to help family or friends, if that’s your aim. I find the remedies warrant respect and a period of earning your stripes so to speak. They are intricate and they weave deeply into the fabric of your very being, presenting surprising new layers each time you use them. Therefore, it’s a good idea to read up about them and to go on a bit of an apprenticeship with them before you get too confident I feel. And I truly believe that part of that apprenticeship is a process of working with one or more BFRP’s and taking time to process your feelings and the changes that occur.  As did I before, during and after qualifying.  The best books to read about Bach remedies is actually your own journal! One that you write during the process of taking remedies and as you experience first-hand the changes that occur, which is invaluable knowledge! You can make mistakes when you are not sure what you are feeling or indeed which remedy is most appropriate, and then it’s harder to witness the changes that occur as you can’t often link the feeling to the remedy.

Before I trained in the remedies I spent a year using them intuitively and reading books. Although I gained a sense of healing from this ‘trial and error’ approach, I wasn’t really in tune with the remedies and I did make mistakes about how to use them and mix blends accordingly. I also feel that my body chose to reject a lot of the remedies I took due to them being selected on a deeper level to what I was ready to deal with i.e. they were not selected based on presenting emotion and rather on higher guidance, or gaps in my knowledge. To qualify it took me 10 months from level 1 to completion of level 3, which is actually the quickest amount of time I would say you could achieve this in, but I was not only passionate but hugely determined to gain this knowledge as soon as possible as I was thirsty to learn. However, it was the year or so after qualifying that I feel I really started to understand each individual remedy and in turn how to best utilise them in accordance with Dr Bach’s original intentions. . For the books I read, and even my Bach approved training just didn’t prepare me for a personal relationship with the remedies and their many individual layers. Even now the remedies continue to surprise me and I learn new ways in which each characteristic may present differently in people, including myself. Becoming a practitioner has also opened my eyes to the many ways in which the system is perhaps misused and just how many misunderstandings there are about flower remedies and indeed the companies that manufacture them. There really are a lot of ‘old wives tales’ out there, and I think this feeds into not utilising the system in the most successful way, and so working closely with a BFRP can sort a lot of the facts from fiction.

When you see a BFRP although you get the opportunity to take home your own bespoke mix, the main thing you are signing up for is knowledge. The missing blanks and the opportunity to clarify things about the system that you do not understand. Of course you only get a short amount of time as consultations are not designed to be training sessions or to replace Bach approved courses, but you are working closely with a BFRP and forming a relationship. Like anything in life the more you put in the more you get out and committing to a long term relationship and regular follow up sessions not only gives you the healing and growth you seek, but you are being supported and held along the way with a BFRP’s knowledge and expertise.

It really is a personal choice but I would say that a year of regular 3-4 week follow up consultations is a good basis of knowledge and indeed healing that will help you to understand the system, remedies and in turn yourself and where you want to go from here.

The thing that sets the BFRP’s apart from other therapists using the remedies intuitively or having studied a short module in their course to become something else, is that it is a therapy which empowers its clients. You will be given knowledge and tools to help yourself rather than just told to take a blend or particular remedy and come back at a later date. Therefore you really are further forward on your path to self-empowerment and using the Bach system in everyday life than you perhaps first thought. So when you think about it, is it really too much to ask of yourself to invest in a relationship with a BFRP for a period of time? To give the practitioner who has worked so hard to master this field the respect to help you in ways that perhaps at this early stage you may not be able to equate to this knowledge through books or going it alone? Don’t forget, BFRP’s will have a goal of supporting you to a stage where the relationship between practitioner and client is reduced. Where you may only need dip in and out of seeing them due to having a greater understanding of remedy selection or possibly even being inspired enough to learn the system for yourself.

In simple terms it’s like learning to drive. How likely are you to pass your test after 1 lesson? Or even 3 or 4?

It’s likely to take a period of practice and a commitment to meet with a qualified instructor on a regular basis, so that you are supported to correct anything you are perhaps not understanding before you pick up too many bad habits and hit the open road. And even once you pass your test you may still need to complete a ‘pass plus’ to give you the confidence to drive at night or on motorways. There might even be a further period where you have a couple of little bumps and scratches to your first car whilst you are perfecting driving alone and you may need a refresher course as a result. And then if you go on to drive a motorbike or HGV you are going to need to do further training, and gain a deeper and more appropriate knowledge. I’m not saying any of this to put you off, infact I take it as a compliment when people feel ready to go it alone so quickly after seeing me as it means I am good at what I do, but as someone who has worked hard to gain her qualification as well as someone who is an intuitive channel, I know it’s not always as easy as people think to just choose a remedy intuitively or from a brief write up on a website, and it can leave them open to slowing down the success they have been having with a practitioner.

So for all those Impatiens or Vervain’s out there, who are keen to speed up the process perhaps or have a tendency to get over excited, slow down and work with someone who lives and breaths the system. Allow them to support you and share their knowledge, and trust that they are there to help you get the best from your Bach experience.

All good things come to those who wait!

Yours in love and flowery light,








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On 21st June 2018 we welcome the Summer Solstice to the UK, which officially marks the start of our summer season and the longest day of the year.

For anyone of alternative faith or spiritual practice this is a very important date in the calendar, which will encourage swarms of likeminded folk to connect their hearts across the world, and to ideally witness the first sunrise.

Since I have started blogging about all things healing related, with a view of helping others to connect to and witness their own paths through a collective journey, it has been my intention to write a blog each time we rotate to a new season, with the aim of giving my readers tools and insights into how to connect to this energy.  But on my morning run today (yes you heard that right!), I was finally given the guidance I have been waiting for as to what the summer solstice means to Honeysuckle Healing and in turn me and my readers.

This season feels less about telling you what to do and how to do it, and more about telling you in the words of Fleetwood Mac to ‘go your own way’.  That’s because summer is a time when we naturally find ourselves in a better frame of mind and with that I feel comes a subtle confidence in our own decisions and plans.  Our mental health seems brighter and we often seek out friends, new experiences and playful connection.  We want to go on walks or even runs to obtain our summer bodies, we crave to be outside in nature and take more day trips, enjoy weekends away or holidays to really soak up that current bun!

Like Christmas we allow ourselves a few more indulgencies with richer foods and cooling ice-cream enjoyed al fresco and even a couple of cheeky ciders in a ‘sun-trap’ beer garden.  These seasonal treats that we perhaps take for granted are all subtle signs of what this season holds.  It holds connection.  It holds vibrancy and it holds the opportunity for increased light and good times.  We tend to go with the flow a lot more in the summer, taking up friends and neighbours last minute invitations of BBQ’s in the garden, watching our England boys on the big screen down the local pub (well done on last nights victory by the way lads!), sneaking off from work a little earlier on a Friday to meet our mates or even stopping off for a swift half of adult lemonade on our way home from the office.  Summer sees the anticipated ‘festival’ season and we relax in open spaces, or even hop on a plane and visit another country to really escape the daily grind.  Children enjoy extended breaks from schools and we spend more time with family, which can be both a blessing and a trigger for many parents!

That said, as I ran alongside the lovely Will from Will Jones Fitness, he asked me what I was up to for the rest of the week and I said I was off to Brighton tomorrow!  It sounded really random saying it out loud and that’s because it wasn’t a planned break and more of an intuitive online search late last night!  With every lap of the park that made me lose my puff I spoke about the need to follow your heart on Thursday, and as I shared this with Will I realised the very content of my Summer Solstice blog.  And that was that, just as I told him,

where you need to be on the Summer Solstice is exactly where your heart leads you.

From those avid solstice gatherers to those who are awakening and may well be considering attending an event or marking it in some way for the first time this year, I think we all often make a common mistake.  We all follow the crowds.  Like spiritual sheep on some kind of pilgrimage we seek out the international points of focus and collective worship such as Stonehenge, Avebury, Stanton Drew and Glastonbury to name but a few in the UK.

We feel as though the only way in which to mark this occasion is to do something that our fellow gods and goddesses are doing, or to be barefoot, cloaked, adorning seasonal flowers in our hair and carrying a larger than life crystal around with us for the rest of the day.  Something ‘simple’, solitary or that isn’t even a designated solstice ceremony seems a little too out there for some.  But what I realised this very day is that this Thursday you will have no more of a solstice connection, no more support from Gaia or be no more enlightened by visiting the sacred Ganges than you will be if you sat around a puddle in the middle of the road! You will be no more witnessed in a temple than you will be in your own home and you will be no more enlightened sat in Glastonbury than you will be in your own garden!  Don’t get me wrong, being witnessed by your tribe can take the vibration through the roof, but the point is that if you aren’t answering a call, and I mean a true call from within, to be at this place of worship then you may as well be at home or in your local park creating your own ceremony.  That’s because we do not need temples, we do not need ‘sacred’ places and we do not need to necessarily be led in ceremony on this day any more than we do any other day, for on this day more than ever we need to listen to our guts and we need to go where we are drawn.  The overlighting ‘solar’ energy of this time will be about igniting that ‘solar’ energy in your centre, so connect to those yellow chakras that mimic the sun and trust that gut!   For often, if you are on a healing journey and evolving at any rate, then you won’t necessarily be called to the closet place to your home or the space you always go to (or hold) out of habit or because all of your tribe congregate there, instead you will be called to what will help you to fulfil YOUR renewed intentions for this next 3 month healing spiral.

For me I am called to Brighton this year.  To connect with my soul sisters Katy and Kath from Starlight and to connect with the sea.

To be held in a space that I know will release deep wounds, aided before I even arrive in Brighton by taking a side step away from that circle of comfort.  As they say, life begins where your comfort zone ends!  When I was guided that this is where I needed to be at 4.15am no less on Thursday, I found all the reasons I couldn’t be there.  I couldn’t afford it.  I had pre-arranged appointments.  I’m tired.  I didn’t feel up to a 3-4 hour drive.  I had to take Audrey with me as no-one was home to pup sit (plus I don’t like to go away without her really), I’d put on weight since I last saw them and wasn’t looking my best.  You name it, I found a reason not to go.  But I realised that this was resistance.  And I asked myself what I wanted from the next 3 months – did I want to be kept in my comfort zone by going to the nearest and easiest place to my home or did I want to be taken out of it, addressing fears and ‘showing up’ head on.  The latter would take me to Brighton.

As I bit the bullet and booked my accommodation I also started to challenge the ‘I cant’s’ and with a dose of inner alchemy they become ‘I cans’’.  For example, taking Audrey to a 5 hour early morning meditation doesn’t come without its anxieties.  I know that she may choose to wriggle and bark throughout the whole thing, ruining it for me and those who choose to come, meaning we could end up driving all that way and end up spending the morning on our own for disrupting the circle.  But again, I challenged this and thought, why wouldn’t I want to see the sunrise with my best friend, the one who always ‘shows up’ for me with no questions asked.  Why wouldn’t I want to invite unconditional love and loyalty, which are just some of the traits of a dog, into my ceremony and intentions for summer.  That said, of course she needs to be there.  And the fear and worries of what could go wrong, only serve as a reminder of exactly why I am choosing to drop everything, rearrange my appointments and bomb it down the M27 to Brighton…..because I want to do something out of my comfort zone.  I want to tell the universe that I am ready.  I invite change this season.  I invite a different way of doing things and I trust the flow.

The solstice is not a time to ostracize yourself, it’s a time of inclusion.  But that doesn’t mean that you have to follow a particular religion, or way of life to benefit from this event and season that follows.  This is not a time that is only present for channels, space-holders, healers, priestesses, druids and alike.  It’s an ancient gift that’s open to all, regardless of age, gender, sexuality or religion and there is no one practice that means you will get the most from the season.

Those who will obtain the most growth from what will unfold are those who listen to what they need to do.  Who don’t necessarily follow the crowds or clicks (unless that’s right for them) and instead do what feels ‘right’ for them.  We are all equal on the solstice and she is there for whoever is ready to connect and honour her, in whatever service that means.  This time it’s about challenging what you have been doing and look to do things a bit differently.  It’s been a real wave of emotions and energy of late and people are being deeply challenged and triggered.  It feels a rebellious time, when I personally am so sick and tired of being told what to do or how I should act and feel.   It’s a season of losing the pacifier or filter in some respects.   So ask yourself do you want to stay within that familiar cycle of pain or do you want to shake it up, and show up?

My seasonal message and advice to you this solstice is to simply enjoy it.  Follow your own path.  Do things your own way.  And perhaps push through resisting boundaries a little that say there is a right way and a wrong way to connect.  For you, it may only mean creating a summer inspired altar in your home.  Or offering a crystal to the sea or ground.  Or getting up earlier on Thursday to watch the sun come up somewhere.  The solstice is a time of change and it’s a time of solar energy, so follow that ‘gut’ and you might just be surprised where it leads you.

Solstice blessings everyone.  Wishing you a wonderful 3 months.  It’s time to step into that light.  Life is for living, so take that road trip!

Yours in love and light,




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Jealousy is a common feeling, one that all of us experience far more than we perhaps care to admit.

It starts as early as childhood and usually results in squabbling siblings, competitive natures or comparable tendencies.  We are programmed when we are young that this is one of the ‘negative’ emotions and traits that we shouldn’t exhibit, yet we are rarely given the supportive tools to unlearn this behaviour, and instead tend to suppress or bury our feelings.

With that in mind, it is no surprise that we carry these feelings through to adulthood and often feel jealous long after it’s socially acceptable to be, even sometimes holding on to childhood rivalries as a result.  People like to put an ‘age’ on jealousy.  After perhaps the excusable cute stages of being a toddler, we have to ‘man up’.  We have to own these strong and often confusing feelings (usually in secret) forcing us to move on at hurried speeds, especially when we are unexpectedly triggered by them in later life.  When you start to understand jealousy, where it comes from and the effects of childhood supression, it becomes no surprise that so many adults still hold enviable comparisons and still feel the need to compete.  But what makes it worse is that when we feel jealous in later life our inner child comes along for the ride!  Bringing up old insecurities and suppressed emotions just to make the process feel even harder to deal with and to sprinkle a little self-guilt over the proceedings!

So why is jealousy such an important emotion to acknowledge?


In later life, since I’ve really begun to awaken, I have become increasingly aware of my own shadow side.  Today I was reminded in such a fleeting feeling that jealousy is still a part of who I am, albeit a continually self-challenged and reducing emotion.  An emotion that pacifies with every high vibrational discipline I practice, with every Bach remedy I take and with every day that I learn to love myself that little bit more, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a feeling that rears its head in different forms every now and again.

As a practitioner, and someone who has done a lot of self-healing in a short space of time, I understand that jealousy is what is known as a low vibrational energy.  It is something that comes more from ego, unbalanced emotions and often a place of disconnect within the heart.  But I also believe that it can be a wonderful learning tool when you’re ready to listen, as I see it as a ‘trigger’ emotion.  A trigger emotion is one that acts as a catalyst for great change, but one that can often be uncomfortable and challenging for not only ourselves but those around us.  It’s an emotion that is rarely about the other person and EVERYTHING about us.

Jealousy doesn’t always come from a place of resentment, bitterness or anger, which is often why it is seen to be so bad.  It gets subconsciously grouped together with other so called ‘bad’ emotions and the whole process portrays those experiencing it to be some kind of green eyed ‘monster’.  Yet I find jealousy is more linked to a place of self-worth, self-love and self-esteem or rather, lack of.

When we feel jealous it’s often because we don’t feel worthy.  We don’t feel we can have the same success or achievements as others, or when we need validating because we’re not quite giving ourselves the love and respect we seek, and it’s often only experienced when our own feelings of self-acceptance are too much in the negative.  Don’t be fooled into thinking that those truly living in their power won’t still experience feelings of jealousy, as they will, but for them it’s more likely to be quieter, infrequent, and will only serve as a learning tool when it surfaces.  Like every emotion, jealousy will appear multiple times on a healing journey.  It will be weaved into the fabric of your very being, linked subconsciously to intricate layers of past trauma, belief systems and core values.  Some feelings of envy will be strong and noticeable, whilst others will be subtle and take a period of processing to be able to put a name to the emotion.  And that in itself is healing!

Our shadow sides can teach us so much.  Just sitting with a feeling of jealousy can tell us what remedies for example are needed for the next part of our healing journey.  Holly Bach remedy is often associated with feelings of jealousy, but it isn’t always the most appropriate.  For squabbling children, I would say it is usually the ‘go to’ remedy, but Holly is for when we feel extremes of a negative.  So in the case of needing to invite love into the heart or balance extremes of jealousy then it’s one to consider, but I often think people with Larch and Pine tendencies can also experience a lot of jealousy.  For they often compare themselves, never quite feel good enough at what they do and in turn can look at everyone through an emerald tint for it’s less about the person they’re jealous of and more about their own feelings of inadequacy.

When I have been on retreats, taken part in intense healing courses and integrated into close-knit circles I have been surprised by how much jealousy I have felt.

I have felt as though others are getting opportunities that I am not, I have felt that I will never be as good as someone else and I have felt that space holders have given praise to others that I wanted for myself.  And at the time I know I was jealous in some form.  But what has been a huge breakthrough on my journey to releasing this jealousy, was to admit it.  Admit it to myself and in turn to the people I was sharing space with.  This admission was healing in itself for it would NEVER have been something I would have said out loud, I wouldn’t even have been able to say it to myself as I wouldn’t have been so aware.  But in saying out loud how I felt, I gave power to those words, I released them from my body and in turn I found the humour in the emotion. For I had spoken my truth, without filter, and let go, trusting the process.  I had chosen to do something differently to what I usually would and with that decision came deep healing, still to this day.

In a closing circle at a soul-journey I went on last year, the honesty stick made its way around the circle until it got to me.  I was asked to sum up what I was feeling, and in that moment, I felt my body get hot and my adrenalin fuelled feelings rush to my chest as if I were to have a panic attack at any given moment, for I knew I needed to say out loud, to all these people who seemed so perfect and so enlightened, that I was feeling jealous.  Jealous that the space holder gave her praise to someone else and not to me.  But luckily enough the two space holders were encouraging, created a safe space and they understood the need to expose the shadow side as much as the light, so I reluctantly shared.  I can’t even remember what was said in response to my words, but I felt better, I felt lighter and I no longer felt jealous! I realised in that moment that the jealousy triggered an emotion linked into my childhood insecurities, and I looked to that space holder as if she were my mother, wanting her to tell me what a good job I have done and that I had her seal of approval.

But I also realised in that moment that had she have given it to me, it wouldn’t have been enough.  She could have praised me 10 times over but until she gave me that 11th dose of praise it wouldn’t have felt enough.  And that’s because one of my main Bach types is Pine.  So, jealousy for me usually indicates a need for me to take Pine, to improve my self-worth and to find validation of myself.  The much feared feeling of jealousy actually became the tool that set me free in this case.  It gave me closure.  It gave me understanding. And it gave me a gentle reminder that I hadn’t taken enough Pine!  It also sparked a hugely emotive and honest closing circle, that I can now see perhaps wouldn’t have happened had I not been so open.  Had I not found the courage to share my shadow then others may not have been so rebelliously led to share theirs.  But in doing so we ALL exposed our shadow sides.  We ALL understood what triggered us and what needed deeper healing.  And it ended in such a deep respect, love and understanding  for each other and served as a humorous reminder of what we all needed to individually heal.  It couldn’t have ended better.  From such pain came an undoubtedly uncomfortable lesson and situation, but one that ended so blissfully and couldn’t have taught us what we all needed to know without my initial green eyes.

So, challenge your shadow sides.  Notice who and what triggers you.  Notice who you feel in competition with or enviable of.  For they can be your biggest teachers and your greatest tool for healing.

Yours in love and light,


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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

I first met Joanne at a regular ladies pamper night I attend in Bristol, whereby I was offering Bach flower taster sessions and she was offering seated acupressure massage.

I remember being intrigued at the time by the services Jo offered once I caught a glimpse of her beautiful business cards, as they seemed to bring a taste of the orient and tranquillity with their eastern design, which made me pick one up to find out more.  However, it wasn’t until recently, when I stumbled across said-business card in my home and followed a series of synchronicities and intuitive calls, that I was led to using Jo in my own personal path of healing.  I booked a tarot reading with Jo, something I rarely feel the need to do, since I have become lucky enough to be able to channel my own guidance and messages.  However, we all need that outside influence sometimes and that reassurance that we are indeed on the right path and that tougher times will ease.

I have to say, I loved it!  My reading was 100% accurate and moved me to tears, and I was lucky enough to be joined by my spirit guides, which I could feel stronger than ever in Jo’s presence, as could she.  I noticed lots of beautiful crystals around Jo’s home, over-lighting our session and indeed in Jo’s beautifully bold jewellery that she wore.  At the end of my session Jo offered me a choice of crystal pendants to take away with me and I instinctively selected tigers eye, a crystal I have worked with many times before, and one that was appropriate at the time; given I was finding myself being energy attacked from several angles and needing protection.

From that moment on, I knew I needed to work with Jo, that she was sent to teach me my next lessons in life, and perhaps I was indeed sent to teach her some of hers.  I have since been lucky enough to sit in circle with Jo and to experience her energy, which cemented my decision to invite her to this months Guest Corner, as I witnessed first hand that Jo, like me, is keen to give others the tools and knowledge to help themselves, which is the type of people I am increasingly keen to source for my readers.

I have really enjoyed this month’s interview with Jo and she provided me with so much useful content from our time together that it was difficult to edit it all, whilst still giving enough for you to enjoy and learn from.

My journey with crystals is really awakening and I often use them in my own personal and professional practice, so I have really appreciated the tips Jo has kindly shared in this edition of ‘Guest Corner’.

Heartfelt thanks to Jo for her time, expertise and abundant enthusiasm, and for giving my readers so many easily adopted ways to connect to crystalline energy.  I can’t wait to experience my own crystal vibrational sound therapy session with Jo later today.


Yours in love and light,


May Guest Corner

Q&A With Joanne Hopes


‘Crystal Healing’


What is crystal healing?

Crystal healing is an ancient and powerful treatment that has been used for thousands of years by Tibetans, Mayans and Egyptians. Crystals are powerful transmitters of energy, which when placed on the appropriate areas of the body can work deeply on the physical, emotional and spiritual levels, in a way unlike traditional medicine that treat symptoms alone. Crystals balance energy flow, release disease from the body and leave you feeling relaxed.

What are the benefits of crystal healing?

The main benefits are a deep healing. When I perform crystal healing I do an ‘aura sweep’ which concentrates on healing the 7 subtle bodies, that includes the mental body, physical body and working with the chakric systems and auric fields.

Like many healing systems, it can help with low mood, illness management and prevention, as well as aid deep relaxation and necessary energy flow around the body.

Is crystal healing just for humans?

Crystal healing can be used to benefit animals. It can also be used within the home or other spaces, to remove stagnant or negative energy or indeed to invite in new energy.

When using crystals within the home, the easiest way is to create  a ‘grid’ or multiple grids.  Simply put a crystal of equal size in each corner of a room, or around each point of your bed, whichever area you want to invite renewed energy or healing to; clear Quartz works particularly well for this, or Rose Quartz if you’re inviting love for example, and this focused area will receive the invited healing.

How did you discover crystal healing?

I was diagnosed with cancer in 2009, and whilst I was lucky enough to make a full recovery following treatment, it did make me sit up and think about where my life was going and what I was doing, and I realised I needed healing.

As a child I was always drawn to fossils, beautiful stones and crystals, I liked holding them and collecting them and I was always into spiritual practices growing up.  I had a visit from my Aunt who was in the spirit world, and I took all of these things to be a sign that I needed to re-evaluate my life and my path.

I trained in Reiki and then later qualified as a certified crystal therapist.  I really enjoyed healing myself, my friends and family and helping others on their journey.

Do you have a favourite crystal?

Yes, labradorite. It’s full of flashes of colour with iridescent blues, golds and greens so I think it’s gorgeous to look at. It’s a powerful protector as it takes away negative thoughts and energy. It can be used to balance insecurities and fears, calming overactive minds, dispelling illusions, as well as helps with intuition and wisdom, clarity and concentration.  It’s widely used by shamans and psychics for its awakening properties.

What are good ‘starter’ or generically useful crystals?

Clear Quartz – It is easy to source and not too expensive. It’s a great general healer as it’s like the paracetamol of the crystal world! You can use it to amplify other crystals, i.e if you put any other crystal in the middle of a clear quartz grid it will amplify that crystals energy and healing properties. You can work with clear quartz points to heal a specific problem, so if someone had a bad knee you can hold the crystal points towards the knee to invite healing to this area, and point it away from the knee to remove the pain/ailment/illness etc.  It’s just a generally good crystal to work with in all aspects of healing.

Amethyst – a general first aid crystal as it is great for headaches and removing negative energy.  It’s a powerful protector, particularly good for physic work and awareness.

Rose Quartz – a great protector for the human energy field, brings in love and calmness and has a positive effect on all the chakras.  It’s a much lighter energy so it can be used with children, people with learning difficulties, those with sensitive energies, empaths etc.  It’s a crystal that doesn’t affect the electro-magnetic field too much, so it’s not going to make you feel all ‘spacey’.

Outside of these 3 crystals, I would suggest people start with a basic set of chakra crystals, so select 7 crystals you are drawn to, based on the colours of the chakras (red for root chakra, orange for sacral, yellow for solar plexus, pink or green for the heart chakra, blue for throat chakra, purple for third eye and a clear quartz perhaps for the crown chakra).  This is a good set to start with for self-healing.

Do bigger crystals have bigger/better benefits?

No not at all! It’s all about the power of the crystal really and the quality of the crystal or gemstone. For example, you could be working with a smaller crystal of a better quality such as an emerald, which may be really tiny but more powerful over say a huge chunk of poor quality rose quartz.

How do you suggest you source good quality crystals?

The best way to source crystals in my opinion is from local stall-holders, smaller independent shops and reputable crystal ‘traders’ as opposed to shop chains or the internet. Find people who know their stuff, it’s their business, it’s their passion; places like Glastonbury, Wells and other places where healers naturally gather for example. I would personally pick the crystals up, feel them, see if you are drawn to their energy, speak to the owner, get an idea based on your intuition and the feeling you get when you hold each crystal.  It’s a really personal choice and decision.  Use your hand to hover over crystals, you might be drawn to colour or shape, and I would say go with what you are drawn to rather than what books say.  You can look in the book after, and you might be surprised that you have picked the very thing you need to work on.

What does a crystal healing session with you involve?

I work from my home in South Bristol, and I create an atmosphere that would encourage someone to relax; with music, incense and crystals surrounding the room for example. Lying on a couch, I would place crystals on the main chakra points and begin with a chakra balancing, using my other tools and intuition.  I will also perform an aura sweep, to remove trauma and negativity from every aspect of the physical and auric body.  Then depending on what someone wishes to work on, I will use specific crystals I am drawn to or are known to contain specific properties, and use grids on the body or around the couch to aid healing.  

Recently I have re-branded my crystal healing treatment as crystal vibrational sound therapy, as I use other tools during a session such as my singing bowls and tuning forks for example.  Treatments are tailored to the individual so will vary from person to person.

What are some of the ways that we can work with crystals in everyday life?

Program crystals – every crystal sends out a subtle electro-magnetic vibration and they can be ‘programmed’ to aid a particular person or situation to enhance their properties. If you wish to programme a crystal without the advice or assistance of a crystal therapist, I would suggest using something like a clear quartz or rose quartz as these will generically be good to programme. You can programme crystals for yourself and others, for the highest good of course, you can request crystals bring clearer communication, improved health, improved family life or indeed invite love into your life.  Take it in either hand, whichever feels more appropriate, say out loud and repeat several times what you want it to do i.e. hold a rose quartz and say “I want this crystal to bring more love into my life/more peace into my family/to help me with self love” etc.  You can ask the crystal to help you with addictions, health problems and just about anything!

I would also suggest you take a photo of the crystal before you programme it as often they can change colour once they are programmed and used regularly.  It’s not uncommon for a clear quartz to become cloudy or to show rainbow light once programmed, as it becomes a ‘record keeper’ due to the intention that has been stored and recorded.  I would personally only use this crystal for this purpose moving forward, I wouldn’t use it for general healing once it’s been programmed specifically.

Wear and carry them wearing jewellery is a simple way to connect with crystal energy and their properties.  Wearing bracelets, necklaces, rings and even carrying crystals in your pocket are an easy way to aid healing, work with crystals and indeed benefit from them.

What are some easy ways to cleanse crystals?

There are lots of ways to cleanse them, but the easiest way is to run them under water, put them out in the sun, move them through sage or incense smoke, and use sound. When using the water method, you need to ensure they are not water soluble, as running crystals under water can damage them and soften them in some cases, as can some crystals when they are left out under the moon.    Water soluble crystals tend to end in ‘ite’, such as flourite, calcite, angelite, sodalite.  Lapis Lazuli is also water-soluble.  I personally use sound to cleanse mine, as I can cleanse a few at one time by putting them in my Tibetan singing bowl and asking for any negative energy to be removed and inviting in new charge. If you have nothing around you such as water, sun, sound etc you can just ask your guides and helpers to cleanse them.


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In this edition of Honeysuckle’s Bach flower series we bring our attention to the remedy of Vervain.

This wasn’t the remedy I intended to concentrate on this month, however after witnessing an overwhelming and recent collective need for Vervain, as well as experiencing new layers of the remedy presenting on my own journey, it seemed too hard to ignore!

Verbena officinalis is better known as Vervain, and it tends to grow on dry or stony ground with a chalk presence, where it’s not surrounded by much competition.  It will also nestle amongst hedges and roadside verges, although this is not such a common sighting in the UK today since the introduction of chemical sprays.  Vervain tends to gravitate towards areas that have been recently cleared or left sparse.  It is a tall and slender perennial, which bears pale lilac flowers that surround leafless stems and nobbled spear-like heads.   There are many species of Vervain/Verbena, and the plant itself has been widely used and respected for centuries due to it’s medicinal benefits, including it’s use in tea and Homeopathic tinctures and as a common offering to altars.

However, as always with the Bach remedies, we look at the energy harnessed from the plant to support the emotions of a Vervain type or mood, rather than consuming the plant itself.

Vervain’s can be intense individuals for they will have a strong sense of self and purpose.

Some people might even find them a little intimidating, if they perhaps don’t share the Vervain’s passions.  However, by and large, Vervain’s will be infectiously persuasive and to witness them in action can be very impressive!  They will be sure of what they believe in and what they are willing to fight for, and as a result they will not tolerate injustice of any kind, whether that’s against themselves or others.  They will often be the first to fight the case for others who don’t perhaps feel strong enough to fight for themselves or are more willing to ‘let things go’, they will not be afraid to take on organisations, stand up for the underdog and indeed will remain very loyal.  Animal rights campaigners or eco-activists for example can be strong Vervain types or indeed exhibit Vervain tenancies.

The Vervain remedy links to a feeling of being ‘overworked’, both mentally and physically and although it can be common for people to identify Olive as the remedy for exhaustion, Vervain’s can often reach burnout due to their inability to relax or switch off.  Vervain’s tend to keep going and to keep moving; from one campaign to the next or from one project to the next and they will often adopt other peoples battles along the way.  For this reason, Vervain can be a great remedy for stress or tension, difficulty to sleep, fidgety or restless natures, overactive minds, and for those who like to be doing things all the time.  Vervain’s tend to be perfectionists and can be very methodical, organised, and have a natural mental energy to get things done or to see things through.  They tend to like to work in a group, but naturally adopt the role as team leader due to their noticeable ability to lead and direct, for they are great organisers, motivators and like to get everyone on board and into their way of thinking.   Steering the ship as it were to their chosen destination, with as many people on board as possible.

Vervain’s will often be tolerant in nature, they will tend to stick at a cause or a task long after others may have given up, but often to the point where they will push themselves too far both physically and mentally, and are very susceptible to burnout.  In illness, Vervain’s tend not to listen to their bodies and will push themselves, often too far. I think of a Vervain a bit like the stereotypical Duracell bunny that is relentless in it’s goal, but in it’s haste the batteries eventually deplete and they need to recharge. Or a fancy sports car, which has the ability to reach great speeds and cover more ground than your average Morris Minor, but isn’t so efficient on preserving energy or leaving enough fuel in the tank. Vervain’s can also be like a lifeboat, speeding through the waters, collecting those stranded at sea along the way, eventually realising they have taken on too much water and overloaded their very vessel.

Vervain’s tend to start off very passionately, often with rigid ideas of what they want to achieve and what needs to be done, but they can lose interest as they tend to take on too much at one time.  Although this often isn’t a trait described for a Vervain, it can be one that presents further into the deeper layers of healing, due to their enthusiasm meaning that they take on too many projects and can’t always perhaps give their all to each one.    In the negative aspect of the remedy, a Vervain’s drive, their zest for life and their desire to learn can mean that they will start things and not always finish them.  Perhaps trying many new courses, attending copious events and lectures, without perhaps taking the necessary quiet integration or processing period that’s needed in any successful path of healing or self-development.

Vervain’s find it hard to take advice and to be told what to do, for they have strong views and opinions, which mean they struggle to see the flaws in their plans or to take on others viewpoints.

They aren’t coming from quite the same angle as say a Vine, who would be more domineering and perhaps even controlling in their ways, but Vervain’s will just want to get everyone on board, and can be quite persuasive and even infectious due to their passionate stance.

Vervain’s fight for injustice.  They tend to be those who are compelled to drive change on epic levels!  They will be the platforms and protesters for equality, for human and animal rights, for justice of any kind and will be the strong voice for those who cannot speak for themselves.   They are courageous and restless in many ways, wishing to build communities who share their strong ethics and sense of fairness, and to do what’s ‘right’.  They have many admirable and loyal qualities, but where they fall short is that sometimes they can come across as a little ‘too much’.  Vervain’s are the sorts who will come back from their Bach flower training and need to tell everyone about how amazing the system is (naming no names haha!)  In their plight to win everyone over to their strong way of thinking, they can tend to do the opposite, and can come off as a preacher and teetering on the edge of domineering.

The danger for Vervain’s is that they are at risk of becoming fanatical.  Their strong need to ‘rally everyone up’ and around to their ways of thinking can be obsessive and can be too much for some people to handle.  Vervain’s can be the very cause of their own stresses and strains for they put a lot of pressure on themselves to be the change they want to see in the world so to speak.  They almost see this as their plight, and they will often struggle to switch off or relax, for they naturally ‘buzz’ and thrive on life, with a real zest for living and need to fulfil their destiny’s.

As always, there is a scale with Vervain and many reasons for why you may take it.

Vervain’s do have many wonderful qualities, and like all the remedies, we need Vervain’s in this world.  We need people who want to leave a better world for the next generation, who are willing to stand up for what they believe in and may often foresee things that others can’t, and for this reason

I often associate Vervain with the Indigo children.

This is of course just a general outline of some of the more unbalanced natures of a Vervain, which may be having a knock on effect on their physical or mental health conditions.  Taking the remedy can help us to find a balance, to remain passionate and authentic in our causes, to still be supportive of others, but to also respect the need for individuality, varied viewpoints and to be able to interact on a more equal playing field.  It can allow us to stop and smell the roses (or Vervain in this case) a little, trusting the process and relaxing, without the need to be quite so wired or fidgety.  The remedy carries an air of calmness and an ability to soften our views in order to consider and support others, whilst still respecting ourselves and the need to take downtime.

The world needs you Vervain’s, so take this remedy to check in with those ego’s and to find the balance in all that you do.

Yours in love and flowery light,






PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.


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Ulex Europaeus is better known as Gorse and this beautiful evergreen shrub seeds and propagates itself extensively.

Gorse is a member of the pea family and it is wide-spread, seen anywhere from coastal paths and woodlands to growing wildly along the side of motorways and on golf courses in the UK.

Gorse is a distinctive looking shrub when it commonly flowers from January to June, as it has delicate perfumed Yellow petals which bloom amidst needle-like leaves.  Dr Bach first prepared remedy number 13, Gorse, in 1933 in Buckinghamshire.

Following on from last month’s focus remedy of Agrimony, I again feel like you can tell a lot about why you might take this remedy from studying the plant in which it comes from.  Gorse has many uses and is a great protector of wildlife; providing shelter and food for many insects and birds.  But like Heather, when Gorse grows wildly and is left to its own devises it can quickly become invasive, leaving dense pockets which make it impossible to pass through or enter. Gorse can also flower sporadically, making it often unpredictable to witness its movements.

Gorse is the remedy for when we feel hopeless or in a dark despair.

It is often indicated for an air of pessimism, when we don’t see the point in trying because the situation isn’t going to improve (in our opinion).  Looking at the plant, the remedy can be a lot like this.   A Gorse mood can be unpredictable. I find it comes on sometimes suddenly and subtly, each day getting that much harder to bounce back from, especially for those who are battling long term health conditions, when days can seem relentless and the future can look bleak.  It’s not to be confused with Mustard, for a Gorse state will often hang around a lot longer and be that much more difficult to shift.  Like the plant, a Gorse state can be invasive and difficult to wade through once the feelings of hopelessness settle in.  It’s difficult to see the wood through the trees so to speak when a Gorse mood comes to town and if left untreated it can quickly become a very dark and dense place to reside.

Gorse sits somewhere between Gentian and Sweet Chestnut on the despair-ometer.  Gentian is more for those who tend to bounce back a bit quicker and Sweet Chestnut would tend to supersede Gorse as it’s often referred to as the ‘dark night of the soul’.  Gorse for me can be more common a feeling than we often care to admit.  Like all remedies, everyone will experience Gorse states at multiple times during their lives, but for some, perhaps with good reason, they may need to utilise this remedy alot more.

Gorse haven’t completely lost hope in many ways as they will still be willing to try something, but they will need a lot more support than a Gentian to get there.  Often a Gorse will go along with things just to be able to say ‘I told you so’ or just to keep the peace and an appearance that they are still trying, but this will be more for the benefit of others rather than for the Gorse themselves.  For example, if a friend suggests a Gorse tries a new activity or perhaps a Dr suggests a change to a treatment plan or medication then a Gorse will need an element of hand holding to make the appointment or to even attend.  Gorse’s will just have given up hope in many ways that the situation will get any better, so no longer see the point in trying.  They can feel as though they are just setting themselves up for a fall.

Gorse can be quite a negative mindset and leaning more towards a glass half empty attitude rather than a glass half full.  Expecting the worst results or outcome, just so they won’t be left further disappointed.

In a Gorse state we believe that nothing will improve.

A Gorse is likely to have tried many things before they have got to this state and perhaps have simply, and in some cases quite justifiably, given up.  Gentian is often the remedy that is suggested for those who are battling with long term health complaints, but personally I think Gorse is a much more appropriate tonic.  That’s because chronic conditions can be relentless.  Every day has the same high level of devotion required to ‘keep going’, to stay positive and to always be striving to never completely give up.  Therefore, I think Gorse states are more common with this increased battle of will and can provide a much needed change in outlook when people are bravely fighting never ending wars against physical and mental health.

That’s not to say that Gorse isn’t the remedy for a subtler pessimism or negative outlook, as with all remedies there continues to be a scale.  Gorse may be indicated earlier along the scale when someone exhibits a general ‘mood-hoover’ tendency or assumption of the worst case scenario.  Even expecting it to rain on holiday as it ‘always does at this time of year’, or not seeing the point in making an effort with our appearance as ‘were not going to meet anyone’, or even something as simple as avoiding a certain shop because we know its ‘not going to sell anything we like’.  Gorse negativity, is not limited to those who are fighing permanent low moods, and can be just as effective for a general Mr or Mrs Grumpy who isn’t even willing to try.

There can be a real melancholy to Gorse and they will often voice their concerns, whether subtle or extreme, that there is little point in trying for they know the outcome will bring no relief or success.

What I love about Gorse is it can be a subtle stimulant,

sometimes taking one to two weeks (or more) before we look back and realise just how much our mood has lifted, our outlook has changed or we’ve become more productive.  For this reason poor Gorse often doesn’t get the recognition it deserves, as we often forget just how low we were when we first took it or indeed what a lack of optimism we were exhibiting.  Whilst the benefits of Gorse can be experienced quickly, I mention it can take one to two weeks to ‘kick in’ as this can be how long it takes before the penny drops as to why we feel better…it’s almost like a ‘ahhhh, yes, I took Gorse some weeks back!’ realisation.  I have seen an extreme difference both physically, mentally and emotionally in clients who have taken Gorse, yet they will swear it’s because of a change in something else like getting more sleep, a new relationship or their long-prescribed medication finally kicking in.  It can be nothing short of amazing to witness the positive changes, which perhaps to me and those who have taken Gorse for some time, understand is very likely to be as a result of this wonder shrub.

When Gorse is given early in any chronic case, it can be nothing short of a life saver.

Gorse can be seen as a negative remedy by some, and resistance can kick in if we don’t want to admit we are in this state.  But, why wouldn’t you want to feel more positive, hopeful and strong in your convictions that any obstacle in life can be overcome?

Yours in love and flowery light,






PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.


Sharing is caring!  Sharing my blogs, quoting my insights, and your continued support is always appreciated.  However, if you reference any of my work then please credit Honeysuckle Healing, and include links to the appropriate piece so that others may benefit from these tools too.  I work hard to ‘give back’ to my community through my free blogs and self-empowering online content.  I can only continue to meet this dedication through your respect and recognition.  Thank you



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