During my Bach training I noticed a common opinion of 5 remedies in particular, and their universal reputation as being ‘the bad guys’.

Like a lot of people I started my Bach love affair with his emergency formula, more commonly known as ‘Rescue Remedy’, but it was a good 10 years later before I discovered this wonder tincture derived from a system of 38 plant based remedies.  Wow, who knew!

I fell in love with the Bach remedies as soon as I took that first individual stock bottle, and I was desperate to know more.  This deep rooted desire led me to complete a Bach centre approved qualification and in short succession, achieving my BFRP status and completing all 3 levels in only 10 months.  During my level 3 training at the Bach Centre, which is the final qualification required to practice as a Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner (BFRP), I started to notice how difficult myself and my fellow students found it to approach these 5 in mock consultations.  There was an apparent fear of upsetting or offending the client by suggesting they take one or more of these remedies, and almost a personal insult if it was suggested you need to take it too!

Later after qualifying, I met with a few BFRP’s and self taught flower practitioners in and outside of my area, by way of wishing to witness and connect to the different ways in which people work with and love this natural system of healing.  I remember meeting one therapist for a coffee and I ordered a water which was made by a company called ‘Willow’.  When I excitedly pointed out the synchronicity with Willow being one of the Bach remedies, she said ‘no-one wants to be a Willow!’  and that always stuck with me, as at the time I tended to agree.  But this collective opinion doesn’t help the undeserving stigma attached to these remedies.

I have been utilising Bach flower remedies personally, and now professionally, for some years.  Learning with every new situation and experience, the many layered intricacies and subsequent positive reactions people have when releasing these conditioned ways and emotional traumas.  Together with my Bach qualification as a strong foundation, this has taken me on a real journey of discovery, which never ceases to amaze me.  Through meeting many wonderful clients and various holistic practitioners who use the remedies in their work, I have witnessed these same 5 remedies have a negative ripple in the wider community when my suggestion has been to take them.  When my ego isn’t in check and my own insecurities of ‘impostor syndrome’ raises its ugly head, then even I as a BFRP can still find it hard to suggest to clients that they need one of these 5.  Especially as these remedies in particular might appear more through interactive behaviour, aura or body language in a consultation, rather than actual words spoken by the client, which doesn’t give me an easy route in to suggesting they take it.

So, without any further ado it probably makes sense at this point to share what the famous five are!

They are Beech, Chicory, Heather, Vine and Willow.

 

Now, it’s important to mention that this is my opinion and that it is stated nowhere in any publication or learning tool that these 5 remedies are the bad boys of Bach.  It’s merely a collective observation, together with my own preconceived opinions at the time of learning, which made me realise just how many ways resistance to the Bach system and in turn our own healing can occur.

The reason I think these remedies are so difficult to broach is because they all relate to the ego and have an element of self-centredness, which lets face it, no-one wants to admit is out of balance!  When we tend to be in any one of these states, or have them as a ‘type’ remedy, we like the sound of our own voice in many ways.  Our connections with others become limited due to our overwhelming need to be heard, validated or the most important person in the room.  Our feelings, opinions and emotions take hierarchy over others whilst in the negative aspect of these remedies, and we often can’t see this before taking them.

But what I have learnt through going on my own personal journey with these remedies, and in turn seeing my clients taking these remedies at the appropriate point of presenting; is that the only way to gain the healing you seek is to address every aspect of your wholeness, and that includes the ego and the shadows.  There is no negative connotation to these remedies, its a myth.

Beech‘s in the positive will be strong people who are able to see the beauty in every situation.  They will be tolerant and considerate types, who are able to value the individuality of each person and learn from any differences.

Chicory‘s in the positive will be loving, open hearted, mindful and selfless.  They will be willing to constantly check in with their ego and to take self acceptance for when it’s out of balance, correcting it with compassion and independence.

Heather‘s in the positive will be those who are caring and close to hand.  They will be able to communicate well, striking up conversations across a broad scale and on all levels.  They will be great at ‘reading a room’ and a situation, knowing when it’s appropriate to share and when it’s right to hold back and allow others the floor.

Vine‘s, we all need Vines.  Some of the strongest leaders and advocates will be Vine’s.  In the positive, Vine’s are powerful types who can really lead from the front, whilst being flexible in that approach.  They will understand the need to see plans through, but not to exclude or dominate others in doing so.  A positive Vine is one that softens and climbs whilst encouraging others without agenda.

Willow‘s, contrary to what was said before, everyone want’s to be a Willow!  For a positive Willow will be forgiving, generous, accepting and adaptive.  They will be able to support others and relish in their successes, even when they have their own troubles, and are able to see the lessons in all situations, even the bad ones!

Now you have heard all of that, how can any of those remedies be negative eh? 

To explain the remedies we often need to look at the negative in order to identify why we might need them, and perhaps that’s where we have gone wrong.  We all grow up learning ‘good and bad emotions’, and the 5 aforementioned remedies feed into what is perceived to be the ‘bad’ ones.  But when you go on a healing journey you begin to understand that there is no such thing as good and bad emotions.  To be whole, we must embrace every emotion.  We must learn to balance them and find a point of equilibrium, which puts us no more in the positive than it does the negative.  We find harmony in every characteristic and every unique trait, discovering new ways to bring the best versions of ourselves to the table.

So, next time a BFRP suggests one of these 5, or you see traits of yourself in any of these remedies, then step aside from the ego and think of the positive aspect of each remedy and just what it can bring to your life.  Don’t see this as a character flaw or a slight on your part, for we will all be every single one of those 38 remedies at multiple times on our personal journey.

The best thing you can do for yourself when working with the remedies is to take the ones you don’t want to.  As when taken at the right point in your journey, they can bring the biggest breakthroughs!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This week I proudly announced that I was going vegan!

Whilst this is a decision I feel I have been building up to all my life, following 24 years as a vegetarian, I find myself now only 6 days in and rapidly regretting that statement.

I knew it wasn’t, and isn’t, going to be an easy process, especially as I am a cheese-aholic and have recently gained a bit of an addiction to corner shop convenience.  But this decision was almost taken out of my hands by divine guidance, as it’s a way of life that I now know is necessary to best support my physical and spiritual health.

Being an empath, and I don’t just mean an empathetic person, I feel things deeper than ever now, which extends of course to the animal kingdom.  The guilt I have been feeling as I connect without intention to nature, has been nothing short of unbearable.  I have been feeling their cries as if they were my own, which has actually been keeping me awake at night.  So ‘veganism’ is something that I have been taking many steps towards for some time; whilst beating myself up for every day that I haven’t been able to do it.  “I should have known better” I told myself as I took my new Bach mix this evening, containing Pine (for the critical self talk) and Chestnut Bud (for not learning from my mistakes).

Like everyone I have grown up with labels all my life, and I’m not just talking about the obvious ones such as my gender at birth.  Labels like ‘needy’, ‘sensitive’ and ‘difficult’ are just some of the negative tags that I’ve carried and fought against to date.  And no matter what I do to change or evolve, they just never seem to fully dissolve from the opinions of those I love.

By the age of 35, still a baby some kind souls might say, I have 6 labels attached to me that I know of.  To make matters worse, all of these labels come from a minority group, with half of which being recorded strands on the Equality Act.

I read a book by Mel Wells not so long ago called The Goddess Revolution.  In that book I remember being inspired by a section where Mel states (unquoted), that she chooses to say she tries to follow a plant based way of life when asked about her diet.  I could appreciate Mel’s unwillingness to put herself in a box clearly marked ‘vegan’.  As her decision to do so would have instantly placed a restrictive label upon her, and an imaginary bar that she would strive to reach for the rest of her life.  See, when we give ourselves labels, we give others the power to judge us and to criticise our choices.  When you’re at the start of any journey, and a flawed human being like everyone else out there, you just don’t need that level of peer pressure.  As chances are if you’re anything like me, then you are good enough at judging and berating yourself without the help of anyone else.

I have felt an incredible pressure on myself this week, some self administered and some no doubt from the critics I have out there just waiting for me to fail.  I haven’t felt at all liberated by my decision to go Vegan and instead I feel imprisoned and hugely dis-empowered.  If anything, this additional label will be one of the reasons I am likely to relapse and tuck into a chunk of cheese (mmmm, cheese) or a square of Dairy Milk!

I already feel angry with myself for adding yet another daily battle to my already difficult days.  A war that I no longer feel I can fight in private, as my announcement took the opportunity to tackle this huge life change day by day and at my own pace away from me.  I feel as though I have another lifestyle choice that is open to opinion, to scrutiny and a pre-conceived and timed expectation from others.  Oh jeez Ami, what were you thinking girl?!

Last year I had a new tattoo, and whilst sat in the hot-seat I witnessed a nearby conversation with a fellow ink junkie.  I remember hearing them discuss ‘bloody vegetarians’ who go around with these strong opinions whilst wearing leather Dr Martens!  I remember having to bite my lip so as not to say anything, as it just didn’t feel like my counter-argument would go down too well.  But all the time I was thinking ‘how dare you’ pass judgement on people who are trying their best to make positive changes in the welfare of animals.  For these Doc Marten loving veggies could well have bought those shoes second hand, or have every intention of replacing them when they get past a few months of their overwhelming new regime.  Perhaps they haven’t bought the handbook on ‘how to be the perfect vegetarian’, or perhaps they have only purchased volume one of the series.  You just never know what’s behind someone’s story, so should we really be judging others who are trying their best, and lets face it, doing far more than these meat eating tattooed dudes were!

What’s more, a few years ago , after having always been very distinctively ‘vintage’ in my appearance, I started wearing jeans.   Following a break up, one that was quite controlled in the length of my hair and the clothes in which I could wear, I met a friend for coffee wearing something that I guess was quite ‘masculine’ and plain from what she was used to seeing me in.  I will never forget that this ‘friend’ made a comment about how I didn’t look like me and she didn’t like it.  Given that following a break up always equals cutting off all your hair and trying to look the total opposite of what you looked like when you were with said partner, I was crushed.  Especially as I already felt I had lost my identity.  Right there became another label, the ‘vintage label.’  One that I am still trying to liberate myself from today, when I choose an outfit on my more ‘masculine’ days.  Oh, and all whilst being mindful not to look ‘too gay’…so as to be sure I really don’t offend (said with sarcasm!)

And that’s just it.  The moment you give yourself a label you are open to judgement.  You leave yourself wide open to ridicule, and find yourself having to justify everything you do that just doesn’t meet others strong opinions or expectations of who you told them you would be.

I have gone on a real journey with labels recently.  Rebelling against them and trying to find cruel acts of self-sabotage and defiance whilst I act from a place of pain or unworthiness.  My Indigo nature has wanted to revisit and re-brand all of these labels, even the basic ones such as gender and sexuality, and turn them on their head…just to piss everyone off and give them something to talk about if nothing else!  But all I have done is hurt myself as a result, and moved further away from the empowering points of why I shared these expressed characteristics in the first place.

I’m so fed up of being defined by the restraints of my health, who I fancy, what I eat and what gender I class myself as to name but a few.  And that’s not because anything has changed since I’ve given myself these labels, infact quite the opposite, but more so because I no longer want to live in a world of labels just to make other people feel comfortable about how to address me, cook for me or explain who I am to others in social situations.

I am not these labels.  They do not define me.  But they do seem to limit me.

So whilst I begin my new Bach mix complete with Centaury, which no doubt will help me reassert and redefine myself (much to those around me’s disgust); as of today I am removing my labels!

I do not want to call myself anything, unless it feels right to do so for me at the time, and I no longer feel the need to explain myself to anyone anymore.  My actions whilst I grow, find my authentic self and reawaken my truth mean that I am sometimes going to get things ‘wrong’ and I am going to go against all of the textbook meanings I have set for myself.

Some labels are inevitable, and I am ok with that.  In fact I believe that in the fight against labels we often end up giving ourselves more.  So my hope is that by loosening the restraints of my own identities and pigeon-holes then I will actually be able to live more in flow and more authentically.  Being a lot kinder to myself in the process, especially on the days when it’s an achievement just to be alive and to be me!  However she presents, whoever she kisses and whatever she eats!

Yours in love and light,

 

 

 

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There seems to be an influx of visiting bees in our conservatory lately, and today’s guest looked like nothing short of the Queen!

I have always loved nature, preferring to be outdoors (contrary to what those around me may have to say) from a young age, but it’s really been the last few years that my love of wildlife, animals, fauna and flora has really come alive.

I think nature is sent to not only provide for us, but to lift our moods and enhance our connection and purpose, although sometimes it takes going on a deeply inward journey in order to truly appreciate it.  When you awaken the goddess within, when you hear her cries and answer her calls I think you naturally become more sentient, more empathetic and can see the way that animals and nature (when kept alive) fit into the great wheel of life, as if they were fundamental cogs in the machines workings.

For me personally, I can see that my authentic self looks like a wild woman at the core, but somewhere along the line she got lost and scared.  She became frightened of spiders, scared of mice, too afraid to pick up and talk to a rat or walk through a field of cows, and that makes me sad.  It’s only now that I am seeing such sadness in those learned behaviours as I realise that I have missed out on so much, and am having to remove these layers and get back to the essence of who I am much later in life.  Somewhat behind where I should be as a result. Everything I do to heal and connect to my higher power and inner wounds takes me ever closer to this wild woman; and she is someone I like and respect a lot more than the girl I have allowed myself to be up until now.

But the problem comes with the fact that I put a great deal of pressure on myself.  To love nature I feel I must be able to roll around in it, covered in spiders and loving the process somewhere in a remote campsite…but that’s sadly not the case!

I do love camping, but the point is I am still learning to love spiders!  With these high expectations and now the line of work I find myself in, I feel it’s somehow my duty and reputation at stake to be at one with nature…including knowing how to save every bee who comes to Bristol for some time out!

However, whilst watching this bee take what I hope is a nap in our ambient temperature glass house, I began to panic and take an unhealthy responsibility for nursing this bee back to health.  Even my Mum has faith in me that I can save the day, which only ceases to add to my own self–administered pressure!  I opted for the ‘go to’ reaction of giving it a water and sugar solution, ensuring I took my instructions from a reputable Google search such as the RSPB or Wildlife Trust, but he didn’t seem interested.  My next step is always to sit as close as I feel comfortable to do so and send this striped fella some Reiki…which has been known to help in the past.  Even Bach Rescue Remedy can help when diluted!  I sat there and channelled my inner Wild Steve England (read Steve’s Honeysuckle guest blog here) , wishing I had his skills and confidence to pick said bee up and administer the sugar water…but I realised I was scared.  I was a Rock Rose level of scared, yet I am not sure why, as I wanted to save this bee more than anything.  So why couldn’t I just ‘get over it’ and help him when my desire to do so seemed to outweigh my fear?

I left the conservatory, with the spoon within the bee’s reach and went back upstairs.  I sat there restless and began to cry.  I went back downstairs 5-10 minutes later and started the process all over again.  And this rig-moral of going back and forth to the wilting bee went on for half an hour, maybe more!  Goggle searches such as ‘how do you know if a bee is sleeping or dying’ happened, tweets to Wild Steve for advice and a lot more empathetic tears shed on behalf of the Queen all followed this exhausting process.  Until I sat there and the penny dropped…. I needed to work with Pine…AGAIN!

Pine is one of my ‘type’ remedies and the negative aspects of the remedy underpins the majority of my feelings, outlooks and interactions, and this bee served as a reminder today that I still have intricate layers of Pine to balance.  For I took the blame for this bee and sole responsibility for it’s predicament.  I somehow felt guilty for the fact that he is sleeping, resting or heaven forbid preparing himself to cross the rainbow bridge.  I was sat there beating myself up for not being able to pick him up or remove my fear to get close enough to him to help.  I felt angry with myself and stupid for not instinctively knowing what to do with him and how to save him.  After all I am a ‘healer’ right?  Therefore it’s ‘my job’ to know how to help every living and sentient being and to not fear mother nature herself.  It just didn’t sit right with me and from that one flying visit I had spiralled into a deep self-reproach and fear, all from a situation that unless I morphed into David Attenborough I don’t think I could have done much more!

But the idea for this blog came as I sat staring at the bee for the 40th time.  Berating myself for not being a good enough healer, for not understanding nature enough and only having the useless and emotional connection of an empath, a gutless empath at that!  For what good is feeling the bee and witnessing its struggles if I can’t do anything to help.  My self talk was terrible and I really heard it today.  Why on earth was I feeling as though this was my fault?  Why did I think I ‘should’ know what to do?  What was I so afraid of?  All of these questions (and more) served as gentle reminders of my next layers presenting, Pine and Rock Rose.  Perhaps this yellow and black wonder was merely sent as a sign of what I need to do next, which remedies would help me unlock my potential. Perhaps he was sent to show me how to step bravely into the ‘fear bubble’ as Ant Middleton would say.   Or perhaps he was just tired, and nothing more!

The moral of the story is that I am human.  Sometimes I don’t know what to do in situations for the best.  Sometimes I can have deep connections, but be too fearful to see them through as my own emotions take over.   And that’s what this little guy was showing me today.  My best in any given moment is my best.  It’s not my fault he was there, and whilst he may have boded better in Steve or David’s house, he was given love and attention perhaps more than he would have been somewhere else.  So that needs to be enough.  With Pine and Rock Rose, which I will now prepare in a mixing bottle to see me through this next stage of my journey, I am sure I will be better prepared for the next bee-autiful guest who stops by.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

BEE-cause I thought you would like an update: Alas, good news!  Writing this blog inspired me to go back downstairs and to try again, with more determination and trust that my loving intention could replace my fear.  I made a solution of sugar and water and added Olive Bach remedy (for tiredness) and Rescue Remedy (to give this guy back its senses) and I added it to one of my Bach mixing bottles so I could administer it to the bees mouth, one drop at a time.  Within a few seconds of doing this he came alive before my very eyes and flew off as if by magic.  Thanks for the lesson little bee, god speed!

It’s important not to give bees honey, or to use certain sugars (such as Demerara).  For more information on how to revive tired bees, you can visit ‘save the bees’ website here

 

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Perhaps the origins of this Bach remedy need no introduction, for it is taken from the infamous Willow tree.

There are around 400 species of this deciduous tree and shrub and they thrive in moist soils, wetlands and cool climates.  The tree will search deeply in its widespread roots for water to feed from, which is unsurprising when we compare that a Willow state will find ways to root deeper in its surroundings to feed from its own problem.

Although the Bach remedy isn’t taken from the species of ‘Weeping Willow’, I find it easier to remember its purpose when we look at it from this point of reference.  For Willows do weep.   Whether physically through crying, or through their self-obsessed behaviours, they have a tendency to see the sadness in life’s lessons and difficulties.  They are self-pitying, self-denying and all consumed, often with a sulky, sullen or miserable disposition.  There’s an air of pessimism about a Willow, though unlike Gorse they often haven’t even tried for a period before losing hope, as they’re more likely to have given up at the first hurdle.  Perhaps as soon as they have been given a diagnosis they have surrendered to the sadness or unfairness of that.  Or perhaps when life just feels too tough they have become all consumed by it and internalised that pain to the point where it’s difficult to escape.  Willows will feel that they have been dealt a tough hand in life, that life is unfair in many ways and they don’t deserve their fate.  They are resigned to their luck, or rather lack of, and often won’t try and make changes to steer their thoughts or paths into a more positive direction as a result.

Willow’s are not only the hosts of a self-administered pity party, but often the only one invited!

Don’t get me wrong, like every Bach remedy, the feelings presenting may well be justified.  Especially in the case of chronic illness, where I believe you have every right to feel sorry for yourself and to not see a way out.  Battling a daily disability of any kind makes life even harder to manoeuvre, and therefore it’s easy to subconsciously slip into a Willow state of mind.  There is a feeling of unfairness, ‘poor me’ or injustice.  But when unbalanced, these feelings grow roots, and they become deep resentment and bitterness, which only feeds into illness and gives it permission to sprout deeper problems and additional metaphorical trees that become harder to chop down!

Living in a Willow state can be based on an unrealistic view of the world around you, almost as if you are working from everyone else’s ‘show reels’ rather than their very unenviable reality.  As listed in Healing Herbs, “Bach inferred that Willow people are concerned by their success in the material world.”  We see ourselves as the victim in a wallowing Willow mindset and it can be a very dark and sad place to be.  Feeling as if everyone else is enjoying life whilst we battle health, demons, addictions or troubles of any kind, magnified if we do not feel that others deserve their good fortune.  Willow is a place of resentment, of bitterness, of darkness and more importantly it’s a place of ego and self-centredness.  Perhaps without meaning to be, a Willow can’t see how their attitude when left unaddressed for too long, can become a bit of an energy hoover to be around or someone who people wish to avoid due to their inability to pull themselves out of it.  It’s not a sympathetic depression, and more of an inability to take personal responsibility, for the Willow is often the one sabotaging their own success, and keeping themselves imprisoned in darkness.

Willows are consumed by their state of mind and can be sulky in nature.  I find its a remedy of self-sabotage and sometimes can come from a fear of success, so we keep ourselves small and consumed by our pain.  Whether that be resentment, bitterness or sadness.  They will be feeding into every negative emotion and nourishing and giving their illness (or potential illness) more and more fuel to take over their lives.  It’s lonely and it’s difficult to admit when we’re in a Willow state, as it’s one of the remedies that often gets given bad press (blog to follow about this!)  But it’s deeply restorative when taken.

When we feel down we tend to think of Gorse, Sweet Chestnut or Gentian (to name but a few) but don’t underestimate what a sad and lonely place willow can be.  When we’ve reached a place of Willow we’re often all consumed by our own negatives, insecurities, demons, health complaints and outlooks.  We are usually at the stage where our self talk is critical and the way we see the world is through a tinge of resentment and unfairness.  We see others getting the opportunities we want and we see life in an unrealistic way, putting ourselves at the centre of that poverty.  It feels like a place of giving up and giving in, as there is a loss of hope that I think can be as strong as the aforementioned remedies.  Because we feel down, sorry for ourselves, fed up and like life has dealt us the crappiest of hands!  What have we done to deserve this fate?  Why are we here nursing our wounds when others seem to breeze through life unaffected and unscathed?  Any question that usually has an undertone of ‘why me’ or ‘poor me’ indicates Willow!  There’s a sense of injustice and it’s a bitter pill to swallow.

When you get to Willow I think it’s because you have often ignored the warning signs to intervene  in the flow, and to balance characteristics and emotions.  You’ve given too much love for example and not nipped it in the bud with Chicory.  You’ve not set clear boundaries or expectations and missed the call of Centaury.  It’s a domino effect and Willow passing moods can often be avoided with continuous, regular and appropriate remedy selection.  Of course with every remedy there are deeper layers, and Willow can sit there for some time, especially when there have been big let downs, heartbreaks, ill health or trauma.

There’s a real anger and frustration with Willow.  But unlike Holly, it feels more of an internalised loathing that comes from the depths of unjust, and I believe it’s often felt before a big energetic breakthrough.  It’s not outwardly angry at others and more of turning this in on oneself and clouding the way we see the rest of the world as a result.

I have picked Willow as the focus this month as I have seen it in a collective, including my own behaviour, perhaps on a much subtler scale than I have mentioned here.  I have seen those who have missed remedies they should have taken and as a result perhaps haven’t set clear boundaries for themselves or their businesses.  Through missing these earlier indications they have slipped into resentment towards those who have unsurprisingly taken advantage of their good natures.  I have seen those who haven’t learnt lessons and therefore become bitter about situations, blaming others and not taking any personal responsibility.  I have seen those consumed by their own limitations in illness and as a result falling into a dark place of injustice, not allowing them to see that those who seemingly do well around them are battling just as much as them…but perhaps aren’t screaming about it quite so much.   I have seen those who speak with venom and bitterness, because they haven’t been able to forgive themselves or others as their past traumas resurface for healing.   It’s a subtle Willow that runs through the air at the moment, and it’s unsurprising whilst we all realign and adjust to the many energetic changes and challenges we’ve had to deal with recently.  Social media, politics and TV are becoming triggers for Willow and whilst we tend to think of Holly for jealousy, there can be a green streak in a Willow, but they will more come from the stance of ‘it’s not fair’ and ‘poor me’.  Linked more to Chicory, Willow is a place of ego and self-centred behaviour as I mentioned before.  It’s all about the Willow state and they struggle to celebrate in others successes or to connect meaningfully with others as a result of being too lost in their own affairs.  It’s a real place of negativity breads negativity and bitterness attracts bitterness.

At this time we are being encouraged to forgive.  To forgive ourselves and to forgive others.  Forgiveness is a fundamental part of healing and Willow is the key.  I link Willow to Holly and Chicory as I feel all three remedies are amazing for the heart chakra by encouraging forgiveness and to invite heartfelt connection to our lives.

Willow really shouldn’t carry the bad press it does.  A lot like the tree, Willow can bend, and it can adapt, finding the positives in its surroundings and own ability.  We all find life too tough to deal with sometimes and we all struggle to move on from past traumas with pure forgiveness in our hearts.  As a result we stay locked inside these triggers and prisons, even when we think we have moved on.  Those battling disabilities need Willow even more, as my darlings life is that much harder for you, and Willow can be such a natural state as a result of your personal fights to survive and be heard.  It’s less about wallowing or weeping with Willow and more about replacing the darkness of that water with light, soaking that up into your roots and very being.

Forgiveness sets you free.  Willow sets you free.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PLEASE NOTE: I would always recommend having a consultation with a qualified and registered Bach Foundation practitioner/BFRP, to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive.  Guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time or without suitable qualification.

 

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Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

It seems very fitting to welcome Starlight as my August guests, as it was a year ago this month that I first put faces to the name.

I met Katy and Kath AKA Starlight Soul Journeys (previously Starlight Meditation) in Glastonbury this time last year.  Having taken part in several of their ‘magic month’ webinars and online courses, all of which I credit my goddess awakening to, I nervously joined them on one of their soul journeys, having been drawn to my favourite place, Avalon.  This began a healing spiral of deep alchemic proportions and my love affair with Starlight.

For anyone who personally knows me or regularly reads my blogs and online content, you will know that I mention and recommend Starlight a lot, and that’s because I cannot say enough good stuff about them.  Their work is not for the faint hearted, but I credit so much of where I am, both personally and professionally, to these two wonder beings of light.  It is like no healing I have ever experienced, for it’s a shamanic fusion that triggers and gets to the very centre of pain and trauma…it’s certainly not all love and light, and there is nowhere to hide!  I also hadn’t experienced ‘portal sickness’, mass burping to release energy or indeed cried tears from such a depth until I met these two!  In fact, they often affectionately remind me that I said to them, following a Cacao ceremony at the bottom of the Tor, “why on earth would anyone pay for this shit!” whilst crying and laughing at the same time!  Of course, I jest, for I have signed up time and time again for their unique offerings, which says how addictive their work is.  I even completed my channelling course with them, as they are channels and spaceholder’s whom I respect immensely.

I think both Katy and Kath will agree that the three of us have been on a real journey of love, laughter, tears and triggering together, but personally for me they will always be two of the dearest souls residing in my heart, regardless of how long we choose to physically journey with each-other in this lifetime.  And they are guests whom I hope will always be in my life in one way or another, as they have taught me the importance of the shadow as well as the light and to honour my ability to keep it real!

This month I asked Starlight to join me to discuss the rise of the priesti, and oh my gosh I am so excited for this long overdue interview!  The priesti energy is one that is becoming an integral part of my light work, with thanks to the awareness from Starlight.  In fact I feel almost sheepish for understanding and respecting so deeply the diversity in sexuality and gender, but naively on my part not equating that fluidity to divine energy work.  I think it really is time that we individually and collectively bring this third dimension and duality to light-work.  I am really enjoying interpreting this energy through my own guidance and bringing this into the work I do at Honeysuckle Healing, but the experts and chosen light-bearers of this energy are definitely Starlight, and in particular Kath, who has taught me so very much.  Without further ado, I hand the reigns over to this formidable duo and I sincerely hope that this interview will resonate with the resting priesti within us all.

If you see the purple and green heart emoji’s pop up in my work, or indeed if you choose to follow Starlight after this interview, please know that this is the sign of the priesti, which is how Starlight have received guidance to represent this dual divinity.

August also seems a fitting  guest spot as I will be supporting Starlight at their Frankincense ceremony in Bristol this month.  You can find more details at the bottom of this interview.

The warmest of love and gratitude to the amazing Starlight for bringing the priesti to Honeysuckle this month, it’s a true honour to have you both and to talk about this fascinating subject.

Yours in love and light

 

 

 

August Guest Corner

Q&A With Starlight Soul Journeys

 

“The Rise Of The Priesti”

 

What is a priesti?

Both: A priesti is the gender of unity

Katy: A priesti is someone who is twin gender – they don’t really identify with being male or female, they identify with being both genders within one body whether that body is male or female externally 

Kath: The presence of both genders is within most people, however with priesti’s it tends to be at the forefront of their personalities and identities as opposed to somewhere deep inside

What made you discover the priesti energy?

Katy: When I first met Kath, I realised she was like a boy and a girl in one body and over the years we talked openly about the struggles and the joys of that.   Then in Ibiza 2017 we had a dominant female group that was referring to themselves as priestesses in ceremony and Kath said the word did not resonate with who she is.  The name ‘priesti’ came to my heart, along with the most beautiful energy and music accompanying it

Kath: So, I’ve always felt a bit different in terms of not fitting in to gender types and feeling almost angry and upset that they even exist.  When I was in Ibiza 2017 in a particular ceremony I was blasted with visions and information about the third gender – on experiencing that energy I can honestly say it felt like I’d come home (or I had a breakdown haha!)

Where do you think the priesti originates?

Both: Its roots are in Lumaria and beyond (pre-Atlantis).  It was recognised within all of the ancient spiritual cultures of the world and still is in many

Why do you think it’s important that we all connect to priesti energy?

Katy: We are in a time of ascending back into unity consciousness, and part of that ascension in our consciousness is the recognition of the unity gender, that gender is how we are going to bridge into unity consciousness 

Kath: For people that identify as priesti it is important for them to feel acknowledged and honoured in order to energetically fulfil themselves, their truth and their path

 

How can others reading this know if they identify as a priesti?

Katy: It is something you know within yourself, although this can take time to arrive at that knowing.  If you are questioning it; it is probably because being a man or a woman doesn’t feel 100% aligned with who you are

Kath: I wear it on the inside and the out, always have, so for me it was almost obvious.  But it has nothing to do with sexuality or pronouns etc this is more of an energetic experience that falls into alignment when you work with the energy

How can we connect to, or awaken, our inner priesti?

Katy: Just as all people have male/female within them we also have a priesti energy within us (however we identify).  To find the priesti energy within yourself, explore where the male and female energies within you meet, and the place where the meeting is harmonious is the ‘essence’ of your inner priesti (usually around the heart, higher heart and throat areas in the chakric system)

Kath: Sound really helps me do this and Frankincense

What are the ways in which we can support others who strongly identify as Priesti?

Katy: Being inclusive in your language of the presti gender (such as  not assuming ‘ladies’ is the correct way to address an all female group etc), and celebrating all of the wisdom, beauty and incredible healing that the priesti people and energy can bring to the world

Kath: Acknowledgement and acceptance

How does Starlight incorporate this energy or indeed help others to connect to it on your soul journeys?

Katy: Starlight channels the priesti’s regularly now, working with their energy, their music and also give a lot of guidance about who the priesti is.  We also heal the collective priesti wounds on our journeys

Kath: I am part of Starlight and these days, after previously taking more of a backseat role, I tend to work predominantly with the unity energy in ceremony, and so I think that naturally the energy is present within me when I am in circle.  We also use the priesti energy to help heal the masculine and feminine wounds and ‘blame’ that are so prevalent in our work

How important do you think gender or sexuality is in priesti identification?

Both: Gender/sexuality are fairly irrelevant, we have met priesti’s across the spectrum of all genders and sexuality

Can anyone identify as a priesti? 

Both: Just as a woman can identify a masculine energy within herself but she would still identify as being a woman, anyone can find the preisti energy within themselves.  But only a ‘Priesti’ would necessarily identify themselves as being one

 

Starlight will be travelling to Bristol to hold a Goddess Aphrodite Frankincense ceremony entitled ‘The Beauty In You’ this month.  Held at The Bristol Goddess Temple on Wednesday 29th August 2018 , 7pm – 10pm.  Please click here to read more about this amazing event and to purchase  your tickets.  I will be their Melissa at the event, supporting the loving and nurturing space they are providing.  It will be wonderful to welcome you all.  Limited tickets available, advance booking essential.

Starlight soul journeys is run by Katy (the Channel/teacher/right brain) and Kath (manager/travel co-coordinator/and everything else left brained).  Often referred to as the ‘rock and roll of spirituality’, Starlight is fundamentally about self-empowerment, working a lot with Shadow so we can be our authentic self.  Together they run online courses, 1-1 sessions, ceremonies, soul journeys and much more!  Click here to visit their website.  You can also join their online Facebook community here, where you can get free vlogs, meditations, guidance and tools about the Priesti and other Starlight themes like alchemy, connection, divine feminine healing etc.

 

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