On the eve of the Spring Equinox I find myself arriving late to the party with my suggestions for how you can connect to this wonderful time of year.  But when you work intuitively, as I do, you often find blog ideas come to you with less than opportune timing!

As I’ve mentioned in previous blogs and monthly Honeysuckle newsletters, my path of awakening and search for authentic self has led me to discover a deep love of nature, and a new found respect for Gaia.  I am no longer able to watch seasons come and go without feeling an overwhelming desire to acknowledge them in some way, just as my ancestors will have done many years ago.

The Spring Equinox is a biggie for me.  I LOVE Spring.  Everything about it evokes light and new beginnings with the arrival of new blooms and the awwww moments only witnessed at the sight of a baby animal trying to work out how to use its new pins!  There is a real innocence attached to Spring and an energy that feels renewed and like anything is possible.

For me the main 5 principles of Spring are:

BALANCE, REBIRTH, LIGHT, EQUALITY, NEW BEGINNINGS.

Therefore if you can find a personal ritual that will connect you to one or more of those things, well then you are going to be working with the season rather than against it…and for me, it need only be as simple as that!

There are many wonderful blogs out there at the moment from channels and intuitives who I respect very much, and they all have amazing insights into the best and most traditional ways to welcome in Spring.  For me, I have learnt, perhaps through the hard way on reflection, that you have to find your own ritual, something that works for you.  Part of awakening is to believe in yourself and to walk tall and proud on your own path, not being quite so easily influenced by others.  Therefore this blog is put together based on what I have been guided to share today and how I will be personally connecting to this season.  But if you take nothing else from this blog, I hope you take the reassurance that there is no right or wrong and that connecting to the Spring Equinox, which falls on Tuesday 20th March in the UK this year, is all you need do, in whatever way feels right for you.

 

BALANCE

EQUINOX is derived from the Latin word aequus (meaning equal) and nox (meaning night).  It is said that both the day and night on the Equinox are of equal length; seeing 12 hours of daylight before we witness 12 hours of darkness.  This symbolism acts as a gentle reminder of the need for balance.

So quite simply, use this season to find balance.  Balance in the body through activities such as Yoga.  Balance in the mind through activities such as meditation or mindfulness.  Balance in the soul through practices such as energy or crystal healing or indeed just finding ways to awaken, giving yourself permission to explore who you truly are.  And my personal favourite, balance of the emotions, which of course my preferred way in which to do this is through regular use of the Bach flower remedies.  The ways in which you find balance today and through the next 3 months needn’t be a huge task.  Just keeping a journal of where you are at physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually for example will give you a good gauge and seeing it in Black and White can be the wake up call you need to address what’s coming up.  Balance for you right now may be as simple as working hard but learning to schedule enough time to rest.  Or continuing to give to others but remembering to give to yourself.

 

REBIRTH

With the welcome sight of new buds and blooms really coming into their own this month and the arrival of baby animals, signs and syncronicities of rebirth really seem to be everywhere this season.  Rebirth has many connotations, and it can be as much about the death of old patterns and behaviours in order to be born again, metaphorically speaking of course.

Therefore some of the easy ways you can connect to the Spring rebirth element is to get outdoors!  Connect to Gaia, tend the land, get in the garden and plant new seeds, re-pot old plants and bring flowers into your home.  From the prospective of rebirth for the soul, writing letters to past relationships, people who’ve hurt you or even your younger self or inner child is a great way to rid the past and to step into an age of a new you!  Burn these letters (taking care here) and give them back to Gaia as offerings and a way to further release these feelings.  In order to be reborn you must first let go, so find ways today to let go of anything and anyone that no longer serves you.

 

LIGHT

With the Spring Equinox giving us more daylight than we’ve been used to for a while, today is a great way to connect to the light.  Find a way to get outside today (you can combine the suggestions for rebirth and do a spot of gardening perhaps!)  Light candles to invite more light into your home and attend fire ceremonies where possible.  Pastels, Greens, Whites and Yellows conjure up Spring for the visionary senses so wear these colours, bring them into your home and use crystals such as Rose Quartz and Moonstone to connect to the colour pallet and balancing energies.  Visualisations whereby you bathe yourself in crystaline light is another way to connect to your higher self and to invite more universal light into your life.

The term ‘Spring clean’, well this is of course the perfect time to do that!  Run the duster round, get rid of those old boxes, wash the windows, throw out old clothes, have a revamp and replace those old light bulbs.  Give your home renewed light by having less clutter and cleaner panes of glass to see out of for example.

 

EQUALITY

With today having roughly an equal amount of day and night across the world, again I take this as a sign that connecting to this season is about bringing equality into life.  Similar to finding balance, finding equality for me means connecting to the divine.  Finding an equal measure of feminine and masculine in all that you do and in turn addressing imbalances in our characteristics, outlook and emotions if we are leaning more towards one divinity than the other.

Feminine energy in my opinion can be softer and leans more towards the creative qualities of the right side of the brain.  It’s nurturing, life-bearing, compassionate, empathetic, spiritually enlightened and strong in the face of adversity.  Masculine energy in my opinion is rational, logical, strong in more of a physical sense, analytical, grounded, straight-talking and exhibits a lot more of the left side of the brain qualities.

To be truly equal and balanced I believe you need to exhibit both qualities in equal measures, regardless of your gender.  Therefore the equality highlighted today can be a simple need to awaken these qualities.  Visit Goddess temples, read books about masculine and feminine energies, take part in activities that would be stereotypically deemed as ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’ regardless of your gender or comfort zone, take part in a march or movement for equal rights and things to this effect.

 

NEW BEGINNINGS

Similar to rebirth, new beginnings is just what is says on the tin!

Spring and in particular the heightened energy of the Equinox is all about letting go and starting afresh.  The rebirth element concentrates on letting go and the new beginnings element is about just that, finding the new.

Take that class you’ve always wanted to, learn a new skill, learn to dance, start a course, change jobs if yours no longer excites you, move home if you aren’t happy where you are anymore, cut your hair, get adventurous!  You get the idea.  A new season and a new you!  Now is the time more than ever to step into your power and to become a new and wiser you, fresh from the hibernation of Winter.

 

Remember that this list is just supposed to give you an idea of how to start your Equinox celebrations and where you might like to focus your attention over the next 3 months, but it’s by no means exhaustive and the best rituals, ceremonies and celebrations really do come from the heart.  After all, you’re the one who knows what you need the most from this Season, so trust those intuitive pangs, those gut instincts and those heart calls…they will lead you safely into Summer.

Yours in love and Spring filled light,

 

 

 

 

Agrimonia Eupatoria is better known as Agrimony and this perennial plant grows tall, bearing small Yellow flowers along its single stems.

Agrimony grows widely and wildly along roadsides and in meadow-land, and the remedy was first prepared by Dr Bach in 1930 in Cromer, Norfolk.

It’s often been said that you can learn a lot about why you might take each Bach remedy by studying the plant that inspired them.  For me this is especially true when looking at Agrimony.  In short, Agrimony is the remedy for those who hide their worries, fears and unhappiness behind a cheerful façade.  The plant grows in a way whereby the Yellow petals reveal themselves in stages, from the bottom up, which to me is what those needing the remedy may well do; try to hide what’s really going on for them, revealing the bare minimum of their struggles when they are perhaps confronted by others or having difficulty hiding them.  Growing in clusters, its bright Yellow appearance creates a visionary carpet of joyous sunshine, which can’t help but make you smile when you are around them.

Agrimony’s will often be the life and soul of the party; the ones first on the dance floor or providing all the laughs when you’re in their company.  The ones who cheer everyone up with a friendly face, a general good nature and funny one liners.

They are often the colourful characters of the group who appear to not take life too seriously with a carefree nature, finding the humour in most situations. Sometimes you may never even be able to tell an Agrimony is feeling stressed or down and whilst they may let you in a little, they will perhaps control how much they share or to the extent of pain they are in.

When I was studying for my practitioner exam we were told to associate each remedy with a celebrity so that we would remember the characteristics of each remedy easily.  Agrimony for me has always been Robin Williams.  A beautiful man who made his fame from making others feel good about themselves by making them laugh.  He was a natural entertainer and it’s clear that he was born to be a comedic star.  Through his cheerful characters and witty public persona, I think most of us were nothing short of shocked when we heard he battled depression and this later contributed to his suicide.  I’m not saying that Agrimony necessarily leads to suicide, but what I am trying to convey is just how much pain an Agrimony can be in, whilst still portraying to the rest of the world that they are a happy go lucky kind of person.  In fact it was Robin Williams who said:

 

“All it takes is a beautiful fake smile and they will never notice how broken you are”

 

Agrimony’s feel the need to put on a brave face and the sad reality is that they will often be lying to themselves in many ways just as much as they are deceiving those around them.  It can be hard for Agrimony’s to do the internal work needed for them to be free from their demons and in turn their addictions.  They often fight such painful and silent battles, which at times can be nothing short of mental torture, not to mention they can feel as though they are carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders.  This living nightmare can understandably be something they wish to escape from or avoid, hence the go-to reaction of fun, humour or addictive tendencies.

The pressure Agrimony’s put on themselves to struggle in silence can mean that they often find equally abusive coping strategies to manage their fears and worries.  Like everyone, Agrimony’s need an outlet to cope with life’s stresses.

It’s not uncommon for Agrimony’s to have addictions such as alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex or food or to use crutches of escapism such as binge TV watching, creating hectic social lives, working longer hours, going from one failed relationship to another without adequate time for reflection in between, or just generally avoiding spending time alone and quiet.

Agrimony’s prefer to be in the company of others and find it hard to be alone for prolonged periods of time, even meditation or relaxation may be difficult for an Agrimony as this will require them to be in their own heads and to break the cycle of self-avoidance.  Agrimony’s may have trouble sleeping, often having periods of insomnia, as they can be kept awake by their worries or struggle to switch them off.  Sometimes this isn’t even conscious, the mental churning can just become such a background white-noise or way of life that they have come to accept, masking it with whatever their chosen coping strategy or addictive weapons of choice may be.

Agrimony’s will keep their cards close to their chest in terms of playing down their struggles to others and often going as far as to add a joke to the proceedings or perhaps downgrading the severity of the issue.  Agrimony’s can find it hard to face up to their troubles.  This isn’t a sign of weakness, and in many ways a sign of their strength, for they will carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, a lot like Atlas in order to ‘cope’.   The problem of course comes when inevitably this mask slips, as no one is invincible and no one can carry such troubles alone all their life without needing some help and support through difficult times.

However, like with every remedy of course there is a scale, and sometimes the Agrimony behaviours may not be quite so extreme and the battles and coping strategies can be less obvious.  You don’t have to tick every box to welcome the positive aspects of the Agrimony remedy, for this  list is just a characteristic summary and by no means exhaustive.  It’s also very ‘English’ to keep a stiff upper lip and to feel the need to deal with things alone, keeping up appearances in a way of not wishing to bring others down or show any sign of weakness.

Humour is a common defence mechanism and a way in which many people deal with pain and difficult situations.  The key to Bach remedies and in this case Agrimony, is to always remember that there is a scale and that you don’t have to experience the extreme end of the scale to benefit from taking it.  The layer effect of the remedies will also mean that you will inevitably have to revisit Agrimony as varying tendencies and characteristics exhibit again.  As the layers of an Agrimony peels, some layers will inevitably be harder to deal with, as this mask may have been worn as far back as childhood.  But as the spiral of healing towards our authentic core continues, there can be many variations of Agrimony indicated and many ways in which it can be the remedy for solace, especially for those who may have this as a ‘type’ remedy.

Taking Agrimony can be a difficult decision to make for some, as the very realisation that we need to journey within in order to get the freedom from behaviours/addictions we crave, can be a daunting one for many of us.

Facing up to the need to break cycles of self abuse, addiction and indeed ‘masking’ problems can be the exact reason why Agrimony’s need this remedy, therefore admitting this need to themselves and in turn finding new ways to cope can be a very frightening prospect.  I find that there can be a real resistance around Agrimony, due to a common fear that their joie de vivre will diminish in some way, leaving them vulnerable and losing their ability to make others smile.    But this isn’t the case.  Like all remedies, Agrimony works subtly with the sole purpose of simply bringing balance to our emotions and characteristics.  Agrimony is there to allow the tears of a clown to sometimes be seen, when appropriate.  It will allow you to share the load a little more, to offload some of the burden in a way in which you are able to work through what’s coming up and generally ask for help before it’s too late.  Not only will it enable you to remove the mask so that humour becomes more organic and less draining, but it will also lessen the need to mask these feelings with unhelpful addictions or destructive behaviours.  There is a level of real liberation and freedom to Agrimony I feel, but I also personally understand how scary the thought of taking this remedy can be.

The real beauty of Agrimony remedy is that it restores the balance.  The necessary need for there to be a happy medium between sharing a problem, seeking help for an addiction or indeed facing up to our demons, whilst still keeping our natural ability to be the social butterflies and jolly beings that we are.  It brings about an inner happiness, allowing us to be vulnerable when needed and to lessen the load so to speak.  Agrimony can help to reduce the reliance on addictions and abusive patterns, but this will vary from person to person and will depend on a commitment to taking this remedy for perhaps a prolonged amount of time.

It’s time to cut yourself some slack now Agrimony’s.  Turn your caring nature and ability to help others to see the funny side of life onto yourself.

This is such a beautiful remedy, which no doubts can be hard to work with, but is so utterly rewarding and freeing when you do.

Yours in love and flowery light,

 

*NB: I would always recommend having a consultation with a Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner (BFRP) to ensure that you get the most from the Bach system.  Dr Bach advised that blends be bespoke and BFRP’s teach their clients how to use the system effectively.  These monthly insights are offered as a guide to the remedies, but are by no means exhaustive and guidance is always advised when using the remedies for the first time.

Foreword by Ami Smart of Honeysuckle Healing:

This month we welcome Heidi Rearden of ‘Heidi Reiki’ to our Guest Corner.

I first met Heidi on my initial stages of Bach flower training and I instantly felt the heartfelt love and warmth radiate from her as I sat next to her in class.  I believe that it is no coincidence who you meet in life, and when you strike up a conversation with someone you really can learn so much about not only them, but yourself as well.  In talking to Heidi I realised we were going down a similar path in many ways.  We obviously shared a love for the Bach flower remedies and I was fascinated to learn that Heidi was a Reiki Master, at a point when I was midway into my own Reiki training.  Heidi is also a practising Buddhist, which although I personally do not identify with any one religion (I like to combine the practices of many to form my own super faith!), I have to say that I have always been intrigued by Buddhism and in particular the healing power of chanting, the connection to nature and the infamous mantra of karma.

I really enjoyed meeting with Heidi for this month’s question and answer session.  I always find it interesting, not to mention beneficial to my own practice, to learn about others interpretations of Reiki; how they learnt and indeed how they personally benefit from this amazing tool once it has been acquired.

In talking to Heidi over a cup of Jasmine tea, I soon learnt that we share very similar ideas of Reiki and both hold it dearly, believing that it is a great catalyst for change and a wonderful heartfelt technique that everyone can benefit from learning or receiving.

Talking to Heidi certainly made me fall back in love with Reiki in its purest form.  Over the last year or so I have gone on a real journey with Reiki.  At points I have even questioned if it’s ‘enough’ for me, due to feeling like it’s becoming so widely and diversely taught, and it seems in such fierce competition with other forms of healing, often not seeming to ‘measure up’ when compared to more shamanic or alchemic based forms of channelling.  That said, I have evolved my Reiki style from what I was taught, to the point where I have even considered re-branding my services to something more along the lines of intuitive led or energy healing.  Although evolving my style in line with my own personal healing journey has been right for me, I was reminded today just how beautiful Reiki is in its simplest of forms, and in turn that it really is ‘enough’ on its own.   I respected Reiki so much more as a stand-alone treatment through a deep conversation with Heidi, as I was reminded of what drew me to Reiki and just how much I still use its unique practices for myself and others in everyday life.

Reiki really is a beautiful art.  I credit my change in outlook, improvements in physical and mental health and the channel I am today to Reiki, as it really was an enabling power in my own life.  I believe that Reiki has been a fundamental catalyst for my journey and indeed the foundations for all that I do.  I have even been lucky enough to witness similar effects subtlety ripple through the lives of my clients, as they embark on their own journeys following treatments.  I use it daily for myself; utilising it in times of needing self-treatments as well as times when I see anything from a distressed family member, a tied-up dog crying for its owner outside of a supermarket, protecting my car when it’s parked somewhere unfamiliar to comforting an upset stranger on the train.  It is something I feel so very blessed to have learnt and in turn to be able to share with the world.

Without further ado, I hand you over to the lovely Heidi who this month talks about Reiki and energetic space clearing for your home.  Thank you Heidi for your time, insights and this lovely addition to our guest corner.

Yours in love and light,

 

 

March Guest Corner

Q&A With Heidi Rearden

 

‘Reiki And Energetic Space Clearing’

 

What lead you to Reiki?

I was studying different types of healing, because I had been having a lot of bladder and kidney infections.  My children were quite young at the time and my Daughter was also suffering from chronic kidney and bladder infections, so I was trying to find a holistic way of helping us all.  As my children got older, I recognised they were getting more stressed with school and becoming affected by life and so I really wanted to be able to help them.  My interests led me to a course, which was based on shamanic teaching, and Reiki was one of the little taster modules being covered as part of the course material.  I loved it so much that I didn’t end up continuing with the course as I wanted to learn Reiki instead.  I just found it an incredible energy.  During the course we were paired off to practice Reiki, and this was before I was even attuned or knew much about Reiki itself, and when the lady sat up on the couch after I had given her effectively a Reiki treatment, she said she had never felt so loved in her life!  And I just thought ‘oh my goodness, did I really just do that?’, it really was a very humbling experience and that was the start of my Reiki journey.  I then went on to do Reiki level 1 and 2, and personally felt I needed to go on to do Reiki level 3 to gain more confidence and because I became really passionate about teaching it as well.

What does Reiki mean to you?

Reiki to me is an enabling and healing energy.  I act as the conduit and as the channel for the energy to come through to me for the person who is receiving, and they can then use it for their best purpose.

How do you incorporate Reiki into your own personal life?

I use Reiki everyday on myself through a self-treatment, usually in the morning and at night when I am going to bed.  Or I will use it during the day if I feel I am lacking in energy somewhere.  As much as I used to use it on my family directly, it tends to now be something I use for them indirectly; through emitting this light in my general being when I am around them and others.

What is distance Reiki?

To me, it’s sending the intention of Reiki to someone who isn’t present.  So they can be anywhere in consciousness or in the world and they can receive Reiki as equally as someone who is sat next to you.

Is Reiki just for people?

Oh absolutely not!  Reiki is for everything.

It may sound strange but I can do Reiki on furniture! 

I offer a service whereby I go into a space or home to do an energetic space clearing and I actually use Reiki in that situation, as I will often get a feeling from a piece of furniture.    Furniture can feel like it doesn’t belong within a home or space.  Whether that be because it’s disliked or it doesn’t ‘go’ with the rest of the house, or perhaps it’s second hand or from acquired past relationships etc so it can then disturb the flow of energy in the home or space.  I will give Reiki to the piece of furniture as the first option before looking at something more drastic like whether that item needs to be removed from the home at a later date. 

What is energetic space clearing?

I offer energetic space clearing as a service of my business.  It’s an element in Feng Shui which is used for helping a home or living space to be happier, healthier and a joyous place to be.  For example situations such as bereavement, relationship breakdown, illness, or perhaps there are teenagers in the house that are going through anxious times, an energetic space clearing basically brings back the balance and the joy to the home.  I also give Reiki sessions to everyone living in the space, either remotely or face to face, as it’s really important to have both together as we affect our environment just as much as our environment affects us.

What are the benefits of energetic space clearing?

The benefits are endless really.  People have said to me they have experienced a real happiness in their homes and their lives, that it’s really helped them to go through and process deep trauma and hurt from situations such as relationships breaking down.  They have been able to see things in a more positive light.

What would your advice be to anyone who doesn’t think Reiki ‘works’?

Try it!  Reiki will work whether you believe in it or not.  Whether or not you think it works, just try it and see what happens.  My advice would always be to have 3 Reiki sessions as a minimum, as that’s when you really start to feel the processes of letting go and the deep healing that can take place.

Is Reiki affiliated to a particular religion?

Not at all.  I personally feel that the history of Reiki is steeped in Buddhism.  I am a Buddhist and have been practising for 32 years and I have found many similarities between the two.  I also feel there are aspects of Reiki that are shamanistic from all over the world, and for me that’s why I believe Reiki is for everyone as it doesn’t identify as one religion or practice.  It’s with everyone and for everyone.  There are some types of Reiki that are Christian based, which is popular in America.  But Reiki that is widely used today and that I practice is not affiliated to a particular religion.

What is your advice to anyone wishing to learn Reiki?

Find a teacher that you really connect with and resonate with, as it is a very personal decision.  Call them up, speak to them, meet with them and don’t be afraid to meet with a few Reiki Masters before making your decision.  In my experience, different teachers teach in a different way, so I think it’s really important that you find a teacher that you really resonate with and go with an open mind.  You may wish to check a teacher’s lineage to Dr Usui, so that you know you are undertaking an accredited and traditional course, but not every teacher is happy to share this prior to signing up for a course.

Do you have any tips for how people reading this can use Reiki or energetic space clearing within their lives and homes?

FOR YOU: To me what is very key in Reiki is treasuring yourself and really looking after yourself, so that’s something we can all do.  And many people feel they don’t do it enough.  It’s learning to combat that negative voice and backchat in our heads that says ‘you’re not good enough’.  By challenging that and learning to stop it, we really empower our bodies to heal and ourselves to be happy, balanced and joyous.

FOR YOUR HOME: Again, do things that make your home feel joyous.  So light candles, play music, place flowers in view, decorate etc.  This might sound strange, but part of Feng Shui is talking to your home.  Saying how much gratitude you have to your home for keeping you warm and dry for example.

 

 

Heidi Rearden runs a business called ‘Heidi Reiki’ which you can find more details about through her website or by emailing 

Heidi offers individual Reiki sessions and space clearing in homes and spaces in Bristol, Bath and London, with a willingness to travel accordingly.  Heidi teaches Reiki levels 1, 2 and 3 in Bath, please visit her website for course dates

 

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